When is it OK to cheat?  

sjs73160 62M
6 posts
4/4/2006 8:56 pm

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When is it OK to cheat?


When is it OK to cheat on your spouse? I have been married for many years and have no intention of leaving my wife, but there are times I need more. Our sex life has been limited as my wife's sex drive has decreased over the years.

I also spend periods of time away from home with my job. For example, I may be away from home for business a month at a time. It leads to loneliness and a need for companionship. Is it OK to seek companionship outside of marriage in this situation?

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
4/4/2006 10:13 pm

You are asking a question that only you can answer for yourself. No matter what you decide, you are going to be the one that has to live with that decision. Don't decide somewhere down the line that you can't live with the guilt and feel the need to confess all to your wife. Honestly the saying what they don't know won't hurt them should apply in this situation.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


sexymamma662003 31F

4/4/2006 10:32 pm

well you are on this sight so i would think that you have already made the decision to cheat. so it would not matter what any one else thinks

~sexy~


hollywood_wannab 31F
14 posts
4/4/2006 10:35 pm

i know the feeling, my bf and i live away and are doin the long distance, but times i'm sooo horny


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
4/4/2006 11:04 pm


Nobody but you can answer that for you....


Zorro5313 63M
23 posts
4/4/2006 11:18 pm

I too have reached that road where staying in a sexual relationship with one person for the rest of your life is not possible because of the different sex drives and needs. I came accross this site and hopefully my needs will be met. My spouse has totally dried up sexually. I have always taken care of her sexual wants and needs but my needs are not being fulfilled. I have decided to have a discreet sexual relationship and hope this remains "discreet" and the other person has similar needs and wants where we mutually satisfy each other. As DaphneR above says, and I quote "Honestly the saying what they don't know won't hurt them should apply in this situation." By the way I am not a hunk and I do not have a large penis, but hey I am able to satisfy a lady. GOOD LUCK in your quest.


sjs73160 62M
1 post
4/5/2006 4:20 pm

    Quoting sexymamma662003:
    well you are on this sight so i would think that you have already made the decision to cheat. so it would not matter what any one else thinks
No, I haven't made a decision. Being on this site indicates that I am thinking about it and maybe trying to justify it.

On one level it seems like an easy decision, but like any issue dealing with relationships, it is complicated. No, I don't want to hurt my wife or mislead a friend with benefits. At the sametime, being away from home can be lonely and I don't think there is neccesarily anything wrong with enjoying life.

People are right that I am the only person that can answer the question, but sometimes it helps to discuss the issue out loud.


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