Intimacy requires courage?  

sinnamon_flavor 43F
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6/27/2006 10:47 pm

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6/28/2006 4:19 pm

Intimacy requires courage?

A while ago I read this book called, Courage To Create. Here is a little excert from it.

Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us. Like a chemical mixture, if one of us is changed, both of us will be. The one thing we can be certain of is that if we let ourselves fully into the relationship for good or evil, we will not come out unaffected.

A common practice in out day is to avoid the working up the courage required for authentic intimacy by shifting the issue to the body, making it a matter of simple physical courage. It is easier in our society to be naked physically than it is to be naked psychologically or spiritually- easier to share our body than to share our fantasies, hopes, fears and aspirations, which are felt to be more personal and the sharing of which is experienced as making us more vulnerable. For curious reasons we are shy about sharing the things that matter most. Hence people short-circuit the more ”dangerous” building of a relationship by leaping immediately into bed. After all, the body is an object and can be treated mechanically.

But intimacy that begins and remains on the physical level tends to become inauthentic, and we later find ourselves fleeing from the emptiness.


Well all I have to say is, so what? Sometimes we need to have that mindless experience to remind us that we are alive, spotaneous beings. Sure, intimacy with someone is nice but so is great mind blowing sex!

MarcoPolo197676 39M
541 posts
6/28/2006 12:13 am

Totally correct all too often we try to overfocus, and forget to live in the moment.

sinnamon_flavor 43F

6/28/2006 4:19 pm

MarcoPolo197676 Thanks for dropping by...does your name hint that you perhaps like water sports? I agree we are all caught up in the "go" and forget about the "flow", living for those rare moments that make all the rest of it worth it.

mshunyhole I agree...I saw your blog and commented, thanks for returning the favor.

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