Great sex  

sinful_passion 43F
41 posts
5/19/2006 3:05 am

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Great sex


Why is it sooo hard to have great sex?

rm_poleforlick 51M

5/19/2006 3:35 am

It's tough. My wife an I go through periods of great sex and periods of average sex and periods of terrible sex.

There are just so many emotions and factors that need to line up right for great sex to happen.

Number one is you have to drop everythought of others things. And number two you have to have two people who want to give themselves up.

Even if you stop a little it breaks the rythm of sex and the other person just finishes the time.

Example - I luv getting blowjobs. My wife is very good. She doesn't give them as much anymore or is as permissive to the degree of entry anymore (I used to fuck her face a lot, not just head) Also, she's not always in the mood for me going down on her and I love to do that.

So when we have a little more alcohol she drops her inhibitions and I am more aggressive and we have great sex.


fantasylover_05 62M

5/19/2006 4:28 am

GREAT QUESTION!!

I only wish I knew the answer!!


sparrkkyy 52M
1 post
5/19/2006 5:06 am

Hi,

I have the same question, why can't we exchange our experience/desires ?


toyisme 46M

5/19/2006 9:51 am

It is known that size does matter (I'll never understand that question), because if a guy is too small the woman can not feel it and if he is too big she can not enjoy it. Just as the feel of a woman matters to a man, whether she is too deep, too wide or too tight. To answer your question in junction to this, ones pickyness or expectations may over shadow the actuallity of the sexual act. Furthermore a comfort level has not been met in the first time or early stage of sex with someone to let ones self go. If you are out looking for sex, that's all you will get is sex, may not be what you are expecting, but it is sex.


rm_bkspace 45M
6 posts
5/20/2006 3:12 am

Great sex is a matter of both mental and physical elements. You can not have great sex without mixing both. For me a, a die hard romantic, leaving a little surprise and using some imgagination always seems to work for both of us!!


toyisme 46M

5/20/2006 2:35 pm

Also I think a person can have great sex if they just give in and take what is before them.


timbow33 47M

5/20/2006 7:51 pm

i agree whole heartedly.i think we could have some interesting times and chats.thx tim here in london,ky


sinful_passion 43F
5 posts
5/21/2006 12:55 am

And to you toyisme...I know that "Does size matter?", is an age old question. But like you said, it works both ways for men and women. It is equally important.
I do think that great sex would have to be based on size to a degree There is just no way around that.
But I really have to agree with the level of comfort. That's a definate.
Maybe I should start a new post and ask if size really does matter...


makemewetallover 36M/36F
32 posts
5/21/2006 2:32 pm

Great sex is in the eye of the beholder.... Mean great sex may not mean the same to everyone..... Like me I think great sex is when my man can lay me down and kiss me softly ( for hours ) before any intercourse happens.. I mean taking his time with me. See this is were couple need to talk about what makes them feel good and what doesn't.


rm_waldo6962 41M
5 posts
6/3/2006 8:27 am

well i've had many partners ,but only 3 or 4 "great sex" partners. I think you have to be totally comfortable with them in order to completely acheive great sex,and it helps if you know how to please your partner lol


SirMounts 102M

6/3/2006 12:36 pm

Well, I can't be everywhere at once! *winking*
Welcome to blogging, sinful passion. *smiling*


rm_good41749 42M

7/9/2006 6:34 am

i agree with waldo.comfort with a partner is the key to getting the most out any sexual experience.


bluman4u 49M

10/25/2006 8:58 pm

Great sex only happens when there is a strong mutual desire for one another, and NOT just a physical desire, it must be emotional also. It has nothing to do with Love. You can love someone dearly however have terrible sex with them. This is what happen in a lot of marrages. The cheating partner does (in some cases) Love his/her mate but the physical desire is not present.

anyway that is my view.


tittyfreak1975 41M

1/24/2007 6:00 am

It is all about give and take, you have to be willing to give and know how to receive like a gentleman. Woman are different from men no matter how we look at it. We have to understand that it isn't always about us. Once you learn that then you have to listen, not to what you all are saying but your body motions. Your mouth doesn't express what you always want and we don't always listen to what your body has to say! If you can listen to a womans body then you can make her achieve great sex because we aren't difficult to figure out. You know what we want all we are trying to figure out is how are we gonna get it!


GR8LVR4UnMS 51M

3/30/2007 2:09 am

I have found that if I have a partner that is somewhat both physically and mentally stimulating, I usually have great sex. Whether she is a novice or an expert, I have studied the art in depth over the years, and I can usually make any situation turn out to be a positive experience. I really like it when the female partner helps out and doesn't make me do ALL the work -SM


Trucking40371 48M

4/17/2008 12:14 pm

I believe that we as individuals have to seperate sex from making love. Example - Anyone can have sex whether it is great or not but when you mix emotions that usually come from life experience with your partner the term "making love" becomes a new part of the relationship process. So anyone looking for great sex needs to know going into the friendship that at that particular stage of relationship development LOVE is not involved. You can love sex, you can love people, but I don't believe that you can make LOVE without emotion. So there in lies the problem. Does sex start out great with a potential long-term partner or is it just great because we have no current commitments or emotions tied to that partner which allows us to be uninhibited which creates the feeling of great sex??? If the sex isn't great straight from the start then more than likely MAKING LOVE "truly making love", won't ever happen and the short term relationship should probably cease unless that is what you are really looking forward too anyway, "Plain old unadulterated sex"... It comes with "THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE UGLY"....


hung36male20001 50M

6/6/2008 7:43 pm

u havent found the right man then if your not getting fucked and licked to orgasm on regular basis.


hardon2472003 41M
13 posts
6/23/2008 12:02 pm

I'd give you great sex


1on1goodsex2 44F
30 posts
7/28/2008 8:03 pm

I BELIEVE THAT YOU MUST HAVE AN PHYSICAL ATTRACTION TO ONE ANOTHER. I'VE BEEN WITH SAY ONE. THERE WAS SOMETHING THEN TO ONLY FIND OUT DURING SEX. YOUR THINKING WHAT THE HELL!!! THEN I BEEN WITH THE OMG FANTASTIC SEX CAN'T GET ENOUGH OF EACH OTHER.WHEN SEX IS THAT GOOD THE SKY IS THE LIMIT.WITH NO BOUNDARIES!!! IT CAN'T BE ONE PERSON DOING ALL THE WORK TO MAKE INCREDIBLE UNFORGETTABLE SEX..[COLOR red]!!!!IT TAKES TWO!![/COLOR]


superslowsex2 51M
8 posts
7/29/2008 10:13 am

Great sex happens when both of you are tuned in to how each of you are responding. I think you need to build it up in the mind first. When I'm in slump I will do 1 week of limited sex. M I only kiss her, T she only kisses me, W I only touch her no kissing, T she only touches me and F we just let whatever happen. GREAT FUN!


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