Young, Blonde, Beautiful and a Virgin?  

sincitybrunette 55F
3159 posts
7/29/2005 12:34 pm

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Young, Blonde, Beautiful and a Virgin?

I have a beautiful, 5 ft 10, 130 lb, blonde blue eyed daughter that turned 18 a few months ago. She is smart and funny and quite the social butterfly. I have been having a debate with a very good friend who claims that there is no way she can still be as innocent as I think she is. Now, I never said that she was completely innocent, but I do think that I would know when she had that first sexual encounter.

My daughter talks to me about everything. We are friends and she has always been open and honest with me. We have talked about sex a couple dozen times and she assures me that she has not taken that plunge yet. I truly believe what she tells me.

So, do you think that in today's society, its possible for a beautiful young lady to keep her virtue in tack?

Funin89012 56M

7/29/2005 2:17 pm

I think there is but there are way too many boys/men after her and she will brake down if she has not already. What I did with my oldest is I brought him a lot of material to read about STDs and a good supply of condoms, just in case. My youngest daughter comes off just like yours but I wonder how innocent she really is too. I hope that she can be honest with me but remeber when you were your daughter's age, were you honest with your parents? No you were not! So, give her want she needs to protect herself from getting pregnant or worse, getting a disease. Yes, I know that may come off as giving her permission to have sex but she does not need your permission so just be a friend and make sure she is protected. Don't worry so much. She has had you talking the birds and the bees to her for a long time and I am sure it has impacted her some. Good luck!

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/29/2005 2:42 pm

funin - I tried to get her to go to the doc just to get her the protection I think she might need. She was actually upset with me for thinking that she needed it. She agreed to let me know when (if) she was ready for that commitment and I could make that appt for her. I just hope that she is true to her word. Thanks for the advice and the input.

gemini0157 59M  
6842 posts
7/29/2005 3:01 pm

yes... totally possible. I also have an 18 year old son who has dated the same girl for 3 years and I can pretty much tell that they are still virtious. (Doesn't hurt that she is Mormon and her Dad is a little Hitler)... I got lucky there... ha!... There is no reason for you not to believe her until she gives you one. She deserves that!.... Now that she is going off to college... get her on birth control!.... or give her the option...

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/29/2005 3:29 pm

gemini - nice to know that mine isn't the only one. I gave her the option and she said she would let me know when she was ready and needed to birth control. I trust that she will when the time is right....

rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
7/29/2005 3:34 pm

Of course it is. If you have that wonderful open relationship with her, she'll tell you. I have 2 teenage daughters who both share openly with me and their mother. I think it is all a question of trust and what they learned from you in the preteen years.

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sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/29/2005 3:49 pm

TDA - If its just a question of trust and upbringing, then I am in a good place with her. Thanks

artistforexploit 60M

7/29/2005 4:54 pm

I think it is possible, I have two daughters, one 18, other 21, & I think the youngest is still a virgin & the oldest probably lost hers this past year while in university.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/29/2005 5:09 pm

artist - its nice to know that daughters are actually sharing with their dads today. I know I wish that mine had that type of relationship with her dad, but I know she doesnt. And her going off to college is what started the discussion about her virginity with my friend....continue to give me your input, I really appreciate it...

expatbrit49 62M

7/29/2005 7:27 pm

I have the same and for a while she plans to stay that way, the choice is entirly hers, I also ahve a son the started having sex at 16, this is nto a double standard I belive in guiding my kids but letting them make there own decitions and whatever they decide, that is fine with me.

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/29/2005 7:49 pm

gee harshaw - its nice to know that you as a man can have an open and honest discussion with your 11 year old daughter regarding sex. Good age to start though nowadays since the boys out there are a lot more forward than they were when we were that age. I would hope that at 11 your daughters virtue is still intact.....maybe you should consider yourself lucky. You might want to look into that panty thing though, maybe just let her quit wearing them completely and then you dont have to worry about them being misplaced all the time. Oh yeah, and the next time you talk to her, and I know you only get 5 minutes once a month, ask her to plan her budget better so that she can start buying the condoms and you can swipe what you need out of her stash!

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
7/29/2005 9:24 pm

LOL.. I know EXACTLY what you are going through!!! My daughter will be 18 on August 3rd and will soon be officially completely in college, although she has already taken some courses through her high school years as well. Sometimes, we have to let go a little bit and hope that they are hearing everything that we tell them!! and, be the wiser for it!!!

My daughter and I are very close as well... have always been even though there are phases that she didn't want to be associated with her Mom (part of establishing her identity)...

She even told me about a gag gift her friends bought her for her last birthday... a dildo!! lol... OMG.... We laughed about that for-ever....

I'll certainly be saying a few prayers for you!!!


pornosteve2004 52M
4 posts
7/30/2005 7:39 pm

nowadays,what is a virgin. I have 2 daughters 14+12, I know there is nothing going on with the 14 y\o, but the 12 y\o is a party animal and social butterfly ( by party animal i mean she always has to have something going on or one of her friends over or go over to their house to do whatever) i always ask if there is going to be any boys around and sometimes she says yes and sometimes no--and then they just showed up!!!! You talk to them and warn them buuuttt in the back of your mind you wonder, not to mention the horror stories you hear about in the news about JR HIGH GIRLS giving oral or more-- i've even heard about a girl getting anal--- so back to my ? if they have not had intercourse but have had oral or even anal do you consider them virgins or just sexual active--- sincity do you think that your daughter would tell you if shes just had intercourse or any sexual encounters--- sorry to ramble on, but i've always wondered


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/31/2005 6:53 pm

expat - I can understand the double standard thing, I have a son who is 15 and I am truly hoping that he uses the head on his shoulders where sex is concerned. He knows the ins and outs and I think that he will make the right decision when the time comes.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/31/2005 6:56 pm

txrose - isn't it nice to have that type of relationship with your daughter? Mine loves taking me into places like Victoria Secret and Spencer Gifts for those special items that are needed. Wouldnt change it for anything........

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/31/2005 6:58 pm

hbgirl - mine had a lot of "buddies" at 14 too. If you are open and honest with her you shouldnt have a problem with her virtue staying in tact too...

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
7/31/2005 7:02 pm

steve - I would think that anal would make someone no longer a virgin, but oral would be considered just being sexual active. And yes I do believe that my daughter will tell me when she has become sexually active in any wonder no more....

CaboWaboVHnut 56M
637 posts
8/1/2005 6:29 am

Believe her !!! The type of relationship you share with her is wonderful !!! She's given you no reason to doubt her, so don't !!! My 11 year old has the same type of open and honest relationship with us, and I hope to keep it that way all through her teen years !!! Peace !!! Cabo !!!

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/1/2005 7:39 am

cabo - 11 is a great age for a teenage girl.. Enjoy it. I don't doubt her, she has always been open and honest with me. Until the day she gives me a reason to doubt her, I wont.

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