Countdown to Breakdown .......  

sincitybrunette 55F
3159 posts
8/7/2005 1:04 am

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Countdown to Breakdown .......

We are on countdown now until my daughter leaves home and heads off for college. I have to admit that it seems to be bothering me more than her. The next few weeks will be major emotional roller coaster for me.

She is excited but still a little tentative. This is the first time that she will be out on her own. I know that she won't really be on her own, she has 3 roomies in her dorm. But you hear all the horror stories about what happens on a college campus and they make you think twice sometimes three times.

I know that my daughter is smart and has common sense. But does she have the street smarts that she is going to need to keep herself safe. I haven't pushed the sex issue with her because I know that she will let me know when she is ready. I just hope that she realizes that not all the guys she is going to meet are going to be good for her.

I think that I raised her with enough confidence in herself to be able to handle just about any situation.....

Keep your fingers crossed for me...........

artistforexploit 60M

8/7/2005 3:51 am

I sympathize with you, it's not easy to let your children go off to college or university for the first time, but have faith in yourself & your children. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/7/2005 8:35 am

artist - the funny thing is that I think I am more ok knowing that she really does need to go to be able to grow and find herself. I know that she will be ok.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/7/2005 8:37 am

honni - I think that since she is going to do what she has always wanted to do...she hasn't thought about anything else. After graduation, her and some friends took a couple weeks in Calif on the beach and came home (thank god) even more ready to go. She wanted to do the Europe thing to, but somehow I talked her out of it.
Try writing it helps.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/7/2005 12:40 pm

harshaw - my daughter is my best friend and saying this has all my trust and confidence. Its not her judgement in question, but the judgement of the people around her. You know that I am definitely one with patience, strength and understanding, but be there for me if I need to vent....

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/7/2005 12:42 pm

honni - then congrats on doing the job of mom that you did. I hope my daughter has the independence that I instilled in her. I know that I will miss her desperately.

expatbrit49 62M

8/7/2005 2:06 pm

LS I think we all feel like that when our kids leave home, but if we have done our job well they turn out ok. It time that they leave, make a few small mistakes and learn how to be completely indipendent.

I am sure yours will fair as well as mine did

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/8/2005 8:03 am

expat - I have 110% faith in her. I know that she needs to make the small mistakes in order to avoid the big ones. Independence....that is the scary part of this.... is it hers or mine?

gemini0157 59M  
6842 posts
8/8/2005 8:45 am

College is a crazy time and place. You're expected to react and behave as if you're an adult but, your're really not. Self discipline is the key here. If she has that... she will do just fine. Try not to be apprehensive.... rejoice in her good fortune and opportunity.

Funin89012 55M

8/8/2005 9:48 am

I am a year away from your current situation and feel what you are going through. All you can do is hope that your lessons to your daughter will carry her through the idiots she will meet. Someday she will share her college times with you and you both can laugh about it as two women would.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/8/2005 10:22 am

gemini - sounds like you have already had this little experience. I am behind her 100% no matter what she does and she knows that. I can only hope that she takes advantage of what she has ahead of her.

PailsDiverHonks 55F

8/8/2005 8:04 pm

I went down this road last year. The first week I couldn't call her enough, The second week I was down to one phone contact with her a day. 4 weeks later every other day and I found I stopped thinking about her or worring as much. By Christmas she was a new person, grown up, reponsible and sharing her college stories with me. I really liked the "road trip" story she told me. Oyyyyyy
Good gets easier and they do great!

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/9/2005 8:13 am

greeneyes - i can see the phone bill now....... thanks so much for sharing. I know that we will both get through this and she will gain so much from the experience.

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