Control Me  

sincitybrunette 55F
3159 posts
10/1/2005 6:12 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Control Me

I just realized something that surprised me (kind of). I would rather have my partner take control then do it myself.

I have no problem initiating sex, but give up the control as soon as we hit the sheets. Now don't get me wrong, I am not complaining. Just wondering.

Do men really find agressive women a turn on, or do they prefer to be the aggressors?


scottdammit11 53M

10/1/2005 7:25 pm

"I need aggressive women to knock me off my feet" -"Shy Boy," by David Lee Roth (written by Billy Sheehan)
Yes, I think it's good to mix it up, too. Good cop/Bad cop role-reversal...what ever gets your nipples hard.


RailBaron2 54M

10/1/2005 8:16 pm

Hi Sincitybrunette,Actually for me a woman who initiates sex Lets me know she finds me sexually attractive & is a big turn on for me.then to have her give the control to me lets me know she trusts me which is also very important to me.Jim


jonnyblong 55M

10/1/2005 9:33 pm

Scb, as Percy Sledge sings when a man loves a woman I believe that could make the man the aggressor, but when a women loves a man then God bless them because ladies can show more loving than a man. My motto in sex is do unto others as you would have them do to you.


rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
10/1/2005 9:35 pm

I also took a little survey and the winner was that most men liked it when the woman initiated sex. So.........initiating works.....and giving up control does, as well.



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digdug41 49M

10/1/2005 9:36 pm

it depends on the situation for me sin but most of the times I initiate the festivities

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toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
10/2/2005 5:47 am

Aggressive women can be a turn on if the chemistry is there.

I feel aggressive now, can I 'capture' you?...

PS: By the way, I just answered the question in your previous post.


rm_mtnravyn 60M
890 posts
10/2/2005 8:37 am

I believe a woman can be agressive and still not want to be in control. They are not synonymous. Its the old joke of the woman inviting the man in, tripping him, and beating him to the floor, or saying I want you and I believe you will satisfy me, so have at it. Almost paradoxical but not unusual.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:50 pm

scott - shy, really? which role do you like the most, good cop or bad one?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:51 pm

railbaron - i knew someone would be able to explain it to me.... there is that trust issue again


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:52 pm

jonny - so if i were to be the aggressor, would you give me control once we hit the sheets?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:53 pm

magnet - so it works for you too?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:54 pm

digdug - most of the time....but not all of it?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:55 pm

magus - doesnt the initiation tell you that she wants you....and then giving you the control back that up?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:55 pm

wetpanty - maybe we should start our own club.....LOL


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:56 pm

harshaw - so true


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:57 pm

toothy - you want to "capture me"....you really are the aggressor. Or is it you just want to see if I truly do give up control when we hit the sheets??????


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/2/2005 2:58 pm

mtn - now I know for sure we need to talk more........


jonnyblong 55M

10/2/2005 5:22 pm

Once we hit the sheets no way , but as soon as we meet sincity, I'm here for you every wish,or command since I'll be under your control, just remember do unto others. My question to you will you give me total control the next time we meet. If I enter the Poker Finals next year will you be my Lady Luck?


frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
10/2/2005 8:21 pm

I think it can go both ways, and if comfortable in the relationship, can be very benificial too T

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jonnyblong 55M

10/2/2005 8:47 pm

hello darling,giving blogging a shot,just like the first time jblong gave himself his first handjob. just not the same without someone's hand guiding his hand. Read them and let me know what you thing.lol-jblong


artistforexploit 60M

10/3/2005 2:12 am

sincity: who is the agressor, would it be the one who flirts first or the one that acts upon it to go further? I usually start by flirting, but in most cases I let the woman decide if it goes beyond the flirtatious sequence. When it comes to the sheets, it's fun when both are aggressive...


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
10/3/2005 4:39 am

Yes, I want to capture you; and I 'll find out when we hit the sheets...


rm_Lasko1961 55M
8 posts
10/3/2005 4:52 am

OMG to find a woman that will start it mmmmmm
My last two girlfriends just couldn’t seem to understand that concept

Men aren’t so much different, we need to know were desired too
And sometimes it’s as simple as a look
Look at me like I’m a steak, and I’ll notice
Look at me like you’re a cat in heat I’ll notice
Let me know you’re in the mood, I like hints or just
Attack me I think after it starts we will fall into our rolls
And if you like to be controlled let go and I’ll take over
If you want control all you have to do is TAKE it


Thorhammersyou 52M
2 posts
10/3/2005 3:16 pm

Hi I love to take charge... Taz grabs brunette and kiss her passionately on the lipps.


rm_WizardTim12 50M
44 posts
10/5/2005 12:01 am

Good question. For me personally, I enjoy both. I enjoy being the agressor at times, because it's exciting to consider that what I'm doing is exciting my partner, and that it's the results of what "I" decided would happen.

It's also extremely exciting to have a woman be the agressor, because that makes me feel desired (which is very erotic) and also because it's exciting to not "know" what's going to happen next, and that it is "up to" the other person. As long as you trust them, that is a HUGE turn-on for me.

I think there are probably some men who don't like "agressive" women, but I think far less than "rumor" would suggest. Just as a guess, I'd say that some of the problem there came from men who were used to being more or less in charge, and were unimaginative enough to feel "threatened" or something when the woman tried to take charge. It confused them, and they didn't know what to do with it, so they objected. Their loss.

Good question. Sorry I hadn't checked in with your blog in a little while. That sort of thing will probably run in cycles for me. Online for a while, then try to get things done so I'm offline, etc. Glad you're doing OK.


rm_pchamp012004 55M
2672 posts
10/5/2005 5:59 pm

Aggression is a turn-on because it doesn't happen too often.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:10 pm

jonny - if you enter the poker finals...I will be your Lady Luck... and as far as meeting, do you really want total control? And will you really be under my control for my every wish......that could bring about some new fantasies


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:11 pm

frbnkslady - so far there have been no complaints


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:12 pm

jonny, I will....


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:13 pm

artist - with you I truly believe it could be fun if both are a little on the aggressive side.....care to show me?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:13 pm

toothy - what are you willing to do to capture me?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:15 pm

Lasko - getting it started isnt a problem....I understand that men need to know that they are wanted, just as women do. But after getting it started, why do I find it so easy to let go of the control?


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:16 pm

Thor - if you read my blogs, you know how much brunette loves those passionate kisses.....


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:18 pm

tayninh - then a women in control is who you need


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:20 pm

Wizard - I will remember what your preference is for furture encounters....lol


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 10:21 pm

pchamp - thats my point exactly. Men find aggressive women a turn on, but do they want them that way all the time?


jonnyblong 55M

10/10/2005 2:02 am

THEN SEE YOU THERE AND LET THE PARTY BEGIN.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/10/2005 9:34 am

jonny - the stakes could get pretty high, are you up for that?


jonnyblong 55M

10/10/2005 8:47 pm

LADY, IT IS I THAT SHOULD ASK YOU THAT, I CAME TO THE TABLE WITH ONLY A SMILE ON MY FACE AND WHEN I LEAVE I HOPE THAT I LEAVE PLEASED AND HER SATISFIED.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/10/2005 11:36 pm

jonny - if all you have is a smile on your face when you arrive, pleasure is sure to follow


jonnyblong 55M

10/13/2005 1:31 am

FROM READING YOUR BLOGS, I HAVE LEARNED TO UNWIND AND DEAR LADY I KNOW THAT AS I WALK TO YOUR DOOR, I KNOW THE MINUTE YOUR ANSWER YOUR DOOR BEFORE YOU CAN SHUT THE DOOR, I WILL BE DOWN ON THE FLOOR PRESSING MY LIPS TO YOURS. REACHING ONE HANDS TO UNDRESS YOUR BLOUSE THE OTHER TO FIND BETWEEN YOUR THIGHS HOMING IN ON THE TREASURE THEY STORE, WHEN YOUR LEGS OPEN I'LL SLIDE MY FINGER OR TWO INTO THE MOST MOIST MOUND OF SEXUAL FLESH I'VE WILL EVER ENJOY. AS WE EXPLORE ON LOVERS BODIES YOU RUN YOUR HAND MY SIX- PACKED ABES AND BREATH INTO MY EARS YOU WHATED THIS FOR SO LONG,YOU ENVISION YOUR NEW FOUND LOVER TO GOOD TO BE TRUE. YOU HAVE READ SOME WORDS THAT TELLS YOU SOMETHING THAT HE WROTE ON A PAGE. YOU QUESTION THE DISCRIPTION COULD HE BE REAL BUT YOU KNOW HE IS REAL HE IS HERE ON TOP OF YOU IN YOUR WARM EMBRACE, YOU CAN'T TAKE THIS MUCH LONGER YOU OPEN YOUR LEGS WIDER AND PULL ME CLOSER YOU POSITION MY STAFF RIGHT IN THE RIGHT SPOT ANDPUSH YOUR SEX UPWARD GRIPPING MY LENGTH. I THRUST MY HIPS FORWARD TO MEET YOUR HIPS AND YOU'VE TAKEN IT ALL INSIDE. I FEEL THE HEAT THAT IS MOUNTED INSIDE YOU AND THRUSTING EVEN HARDER THAN TWO PEOPLE SHOULD GO , WE SHARING OUR PASSION FOR EACH OTHER AND CAUSING SUCH NOISE,WE COULD WAKE UP THE DEAD. THE PLEASURE HAS MOUNTED ,YOUR SENSE YOUR LOVERS MEMBER THROBBING INSIDE YOU, YOU TIGHTEN THE GRIP YOUR SEX HAS OWN ME THE SEE THE SWEAT DRIPPING DOWN MY LIPS DRIPPING ON YOUR BREATS TO GO WITH YOUR OWN. MY BALLS ARE SLAPPING YOUR BUTTOCKS THAT BOUNCE WITH THRUST. YOU KNOW AT THIS POINT YOU FEEL IT INSIDE YOU I'M READY TO EXPLODE THE THRILL THAT YOU REACH YOUR POINT OF CLIMAX YOU PULL ME CLOSER AND TELL ME TO CUM NOW THE FEELINGS WE FEEL AS I EXPLODE IT RUNS FROM MY ORGAN INSIDE YOU AND BRINGS US INTO A DEEP SLUMBER, WE FALL ASEEP WITH ME STILL INSIDE YOU,LOCKED INTO EACH OTHERS ARMS FAST ASLEEP. WE WAKE UP THE NEXT MORNING LOOK INTO EACH OTHERS EYES AND KNOW NOW THAT SOMETHING WONDERFUL HAD HAPPENED, I FEEL MYSELF GROWING HARDER INSIDE YOU, YOU ARE STARTING TO MOAN. WHERE THIS TAKE US , ONLY TIME WILL TELL. LOVE


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/13/2005 10:07 am

jonny - see I told you that you could write a wonderful tale. the feelings and passion are beautiful.....and I can feel what you are writing


jonnyblong 55M

10/16/2005 3:57 am

YOUR EYES ARE CALLING ME TO MEET YOU IN AWAY IN SOME DISTANCE AREA AND THAT IS GIVING ME DESIRES OF PLEASURE THE ONE GETS WHEN HE STRIKES IT RICH. THE JACKPOT, THE GOLDEN RING, THE UTMOST PRIZE. ,O IT CAN'T BE TRUE,MY UTMOST GOAL IS TO EAT FROM YOUR SUGAR BOWL THAT IS TRIMMED BY MY HAND, PARTED WITH CARE, AND NO I WON'T SHARE WITH OTHERS THAT NIGHT WHEN THE CANDYMAN DELIVERS HIS SUPPLIES OF GOODIES FOR YOUR SWEET TOOTH.WE HAVE A CHOCOLATE CARMEL APPLE FOR YOU TO DEVOUR AT YOUR LEASURE,I HAVE BUTTERSCOTCH COVERED NUTS FOR YOUR SWEET MOUTH TO ENJOY I HAVE A NAVEL FULL OF HOT FUDGE FOR YOUR TONGUE TO LICK TO FIND ONE LARGE BANANA RIPE STILL ON THE TREE FOR WHATEVER YOU HAVE IN MIND. WILL THAT FILL YOUR ORDER THIS TIME OR DID I FORGET SOMETHING, OH YES I DID THIS TREATS ON ME, ENJOY.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/17/2005 10:18 am

mmmmm the candy store opened and i found a treasure


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