Attraction ......  

sincitybrunette 55F
3159 posts
8/13/2005 12:07 pm

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Attraction ......

Can you have an attraction to someone you have never physically met?


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
8/13/2005 1:07 pm

Absolutely, I have experienced intense online chemistry with more than one woman ... beyond that I have fallen in love with the minds of several women.

cheers

TTT


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/13/2005 1:23 pm

harshaw - you don't want to share....too bad


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/13/2005 1:26 pm

tame - nice to know that I am okay then


artistforexploit 60M

8/13/2005 2:47 pm

sincity: yes


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/13/2005 3:50 pm

artist - simple and to the point...care to share with me?


rm_WizardTim12 50M
44 posts
8/13/2005 4:27 pm

Of course. Anytime you have an imagination, and you talk with someone online, or on the telephone, you start building feelings if you "click" with them. And most of the time, this will carry through in person, but not always.

I think that's one of the risks of "online" dating, is that some people project to much of what they "think" the other person will be like onto what they've shared. And then they're disappointed or upset if they meet, and the reality isn't like they've invisioned.
(But most of the time it probably is going to be close to what they thought, just not guaranteed.)
Of course, you can argue that people "project" what they think about people even in "in-person" relationships, it's just easier to do online or on the phone.

But, online / phone relationship can be a good way to find someone very compatible with you, as long as you throw a little bit of caution into the mix. But feeling attraction is pretty easy in those situations.


artistforexploit 60M

8/13/2005 7:34 pm

sincity: I believe that is possible to have an attraction to someone you've never met by what you learn of them, but one has to note that the attraction could be at different levels, but mutual feelings & opinions make for a good start.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/14/2005 12:04 pm

wizard - I get exactly what you mean...I think that the online/phone part of the relationship can be just the learning experience. You can get to know all the little details about someone that usually takes months to find out....


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/14/2005 12:06 pm

artist - I agree that what you learn about someone can make the attraction a little more intense. Feelings and opinions are a very good start...


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/14/2005 12:07 pm

harshaw - so you would agree that the finality of the meeting is what is important if someone is truly attracted?


gemini0157 59M  
6842 posts
8/15/2005 9:24 am

Absolutely... I just hope they are actually women and not some teenage boy in India having some fun at my expense.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/15/2005 12:44 pm

gemini - I bet it happens quite often with you.... and I mean the women, not the teenage boy in India


rm_wolfy4544 56M
3 posts
8/16/2005 9:20 am

Absolutely you can..as I have! Physical attraction is to lust as mental attraction is to love. I carried on for months with a woman I had never seen...and she had not seen me..it was one of the most beautiful experiences. P>S> We never did meet or see each other...lol.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/16/2005 7:26 pm

wolfy - do you ever wonder what would have happened if you had?


rm_wolfy4544 56M
3 posts
8/17/2005 9:15 am

sincitybrunette.....I am quite positive that it would have been explosive./...However, the experince became beautiful because we never saw each other...somehow I am glad we never met..to preserve what we had.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
8/17/2005 3:27 pm

wolfy - I understand that ..... a memory that will just always be a memory....


jonnyblong 55M

10/10/2005 6:26 am

y e s


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/11/2005 12:06 am

jonny - short and to the point...great answer


jonnyblong 55M

10/17/2005 3:53 am

NOW I MORE CERTAIN THAT IT DOES HAPPEN LOOK AT US.


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/17/2005 9:04 am

jonny - it does happen


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