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sillysmartstylis 39F
327 posts
8/11/2005 11:10 pm

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Was that catchy enough?? Just a few thoughts...

I'm just sitting here at 2am EST thinking how great it would be to have a partner...and I don't mean a business partner I have been overly picky about who I meet and even chat with lately, and I know that it's because of my recent bad luck or bad timing with relationships. I know the ones where I was to blame for the dissentigration of the partnership...but does the guy realize when HE's in the wrong?? I wonder....

Anyway, the point is, relationships sour for whatever reason, and I'm still left wondering if "the one" really is out there. I no longer believe in that whole fairytale bit, but is there a man out there that can love me unconditionally??? I MAY never know

I guess I'll just settle for the friends thing and maybe fit a few "benefits" in there somewhere.

Have a great one!!


AtomicKisss 58M

8/12/2005 1:39 am

Dear s3

Yes, there certainly are men who can love unconditionally. I think the problem stems from where you are looking to find a person with those qualities. Let's face it, AdultFriendFinder is super if you want to find someone with sexual experience or someone who has liberal sexual views. However, AdultFriendFinder is not the ideal place to look for an enlightened man who understands lofty psychological concepts such as unconditional love, boundaries, respect, commitment, and healthy emotional attachment.

Consider this: If you wanted to meet a rich investor, would your chances be better trying to meet someone through AdultFriendFinder or would you have a better chance sitting in the public "electronic ticker tape" room of a brokerage house? By going to the brokerage house, you would boost your chances and focus in on the people of potential interest.

Knowing that men who understand and internalize the concept of unconditional love are most likely going to be affiliated with the field of psychology, why not try to meet them at seminars, conventions, by doing volunteer work (a crisis hotline is an excellent chlice), or by taking a class? By doing so, you are focusing in on people with the specific trait that is of high (or perhaps highest) interest to you.

If, however, you choose to use AdultFriendFinder to meet Mr. Right, pay close attention to their profile (for insight into their personality). Then, match what their profile says against their personality type (to check for honesty/disparities). Also realize that the vast majority of people in AdultFriendFinder have suffered some type of trauma (PTSD) ranging from growing up in an abusive household to sexual molestation. Find out if the person ever formally resolved the PTDS issues through therapy. If they have unresolved issues, they are incapable of unconditional love (this is a fact). If the issues have been formally resolved, they are likely to have been exposed to the concept of unconditional love - just make sure they have the heart to match their knowledge.

Good luch in your quest. I deeply feel for you even though I do not know you. Write me if you have any questions.

XXX AtomicKisss

drnick20054 28M

8/12/2005 6:12 am

First it takes a real man to admit that he's wrong. Secondly there is some1 out there 4 u.

HardlyYours4Now 52M

8/12/2005 7:00 am

Recent scientific studies have shown that the majority of men have excessive levels of the Yurong hormone (named for researcher Ahmsur Yurong), also known as the 'blame blocker' hormone. Scientists have further determined that this hormone is present in larger quantities in married than single people, and that the level of Yurong in couples married for 5 years or longer is almost equal between the couple.

You can't argue with science.

Seriously, unconditional love exists. But it doesn't just hang out for it's own jollies. It requires work and dedication - which have both become 4-letter words to most. I wish you luck.

Jargh_193 45M
5 posts
8/19/2005 1:11 am

But, even with your blonde moments your still smarter then me I just wanted to say I'm sorry.....and no I'm not the guy she's talking about.

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
8/19/2005 10:29 pm

Atomickisses is absolutely correct.
But I would also add, don't "settle" ever. Maintain what you want and keep the faith. You might just bump into him at the mall one day or he's the guy standing right in front of you at Starbuck's, getting his mornin' coffee.

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