illiterate when it comes to reading signals...  

shysexual_MTgirl 40F  
967 posts
8/1/2006 11:31 am

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8/17/2014 1:59 pm

illiterate when it comes to reading signals...

Yes, it's true, I'm illiterate when it comes to reading men's signals. And I'm not one to go up to a guy and proposition him. I wish I was, but I'm too shy. I generally only flirt with guys I'm comfortable with. There are, of course, exceptions to that rule.

Some men think they make it obvious, but it's not obvious to me. Probably due to over thinking on my part. LOL After a night out, sometimes my friends tell me I'm dense. I agree. LOL I never claimed to know what men want. Well, I know what they want, I guess it's WHO they want that gets me. Is it me? Or are they just being friendly. I have no clue. I give up trying to understand and read signals. And I know it's hard for guys, too. Most of you don't want to go up to a woman and just proposition her, either. Why do things have to be so complicated? Guess that's part of the fun of it? The chase?

I wish things were easy. I wish guys who were interested would just say that. Whether it be for a night of fun or maybe more. Whatever. I guess I'll just go along until I find what I want....or someone finds what they want in I hope that happens soon

69WyoGuy69 40M
17 posts
8/12/2014 12:09 pm

Hi. I just started reading your blog and will probably comment on each post as i read it. Since you claim to be clueless when it comes to flirting. i won't do that. I'm just going to say that i'm very interested in getting to know you and hopefully one day meet up and play.


FillsRillsFleet 48M

6/13/2011 4:05 pm

Would love to hook up if you have time

shysexual_MTgirl 40F  
369 posts
8/6/2006 12:53 pm

I guess I'm just to shy to make it abundantly clear. Which makes it hard if he's the same way. I guess I'm afraid of the rejection. I don't get many guys flirting with me anyways, so it's really hard for me to decide if that's just the way the guy is or if he's interested in something from me. Then if he is, I have to find out if he's interested in only one thing or more....OMG...why do things have to be so complicated? LOL

Then sometimes a guy will be flirting with me and I'll not pick up on it and my friends will give me shit for not realizing that a guy was flirting with me. Some have said I'm a snob. I don't think I'm a snob...I'm a nice girl, just really dense about flirting. LOL And sometimes I can't think of a comeback quick enough...or I get so flusterful (lustful + flustered, it's my new word) that I can't get the words to come out right!

I don't think I have to worry about the flirting in my hometown, it's pretty small and a lot of the guys here are not interested in a woman bigger than a size 6. Ok, so I'm exaggerating a little, but I'm definately no size 6. I'm a big girl, but us big girls need love/sex, too!! I give as good, as I get, if not better!

TheCelt35 52M
489 posts
8/5/2006 12:40 pm

men can be pretty dumb in this reagard also...some of us dont know she interested till she makes it abundantly clear. I agree too with buddamike about defence mechanisms...arnt we a complicated race

shysexual_MTgirl 40F  
369 posts
8/1/2006 2:20 pm

WING WOMAN!!! yes!! that's exactly the term I was looking for!! thank you!!! That is exactly what I am. I go out with my friends and of course, they are all thin, cute girls. lol. I'm not.

Anyways, I do understand rejection. I've pretty much stopped making the first move. For the most part. Sometimes I work the courage up to make that move, but more often than not I don't. Anyways...thanks for reading!!

buddhamike 105M
7006 posts
8/1/2006 12:43 pm

All of the flirty, subtle stuff is partly due to fear of rejection. If you ask directly you can be rejected directly. If you flirt and hint, you can get some idea of who will not reject so your self esteem is less likely to take a hit. Still, I'm with you from the other side of the equation. I'm a guy who doesn't have a clue about what a woman is thinking or intending. It does indeed make life difficult sometimes.

rm_annalee79 34M/37F
34 posts
8/1/2006 11:49 am

soooo true. i am completely oblivious too. it took my best friend to tell me that my husband thought i was hot because i was so used to being the wing woman. guys should just come out and say what they really want

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