So how are the bennies?  

shyknight2005 42M
121 posts
9/5/2005 10:03 pm

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So how are the bennies?

Back music:"Bringin' on the Heartbreak"
--Def Leppard

Sorry to my 3 or 4 faithful viewers of this blog...been pretty busy lately and havnt had time, or the inclination to be honest, to post anything. I almost royally screwed up and lost a good AdultFriendFinder friend, and almost missed making a new one, all at the same time. My car has been trying desperately to die on me, overheating like every 100 feet. And I have been housesitting like mad...good for business, bad for chat social life lol.

Things are turning around though. Car getting into the shop tomorrow. Have 2 good friends. And still housesitting, but need the $ for the car lol.

Anyhoo.....taking a poll. What do you all think of "friends with benefits"? If you have read my past postings here, and if you are fortunate, or unfortunate, to have become one of my IM friends, you know that I have strived to be a perfect gentleman with women. And that has gotten me nowhere lol.
Actually I have decided that at this point in my life I am just not ready for any real romantic relationship...unless its something that "just happens". My future in the next 6-12 months is very uncertain, as far as where I will be living, what career I will have, whether I will be rich or poor. I have pretty much nothing at the moment to offer a woman if I happen to fall in love. It wouldn't be fair to her.
I also think that I may need a little "real world" experience before I attempt another relationship. Since I have only had 1, which, to say the least, didnt go so well lol, and I have only *ahem* BEEN with one woman...I think I need to learn a few things first before I can be a suitable bf/lover/husband.
Someone that I came very close to falling for once told me that I needed to be with more women first. And then she never called me again.
Harsh, yes, but maybe honest. After all, wouldnt most women expect a guy to know what the hell he was doing in bed at 31 years old?
I have always had a nasty feeling in my mind for the term "friend with benefits"...until I realized that women only liked me as a friend and nothing else. Sooo.....maybe bennies are possible? I dont know. Is it a bad thing? Do feelings inevitably become involved and the friendship is lost in the long run? How do you approach a female friend with the idea without getting slapped and losing her as a friend?
Would love any advice on the subject...

P.S. have listened to both the Def Leppard song and Roxette's "Listen to Your Heart" while writing this blog....wonder if the radio is trying to tell me something lol....


Fox4aKnight1 43F

9/6/2005 10:50 am

Well hun my advice is that ...........something may just happen in time ......perhaps find someone that you are a freind with who would not mind teaching you. Its certianly better to go into it with honesty. Plus those friends that think of you only as friends .......well alot of ppl tend to get in a rut and only think one way ......having a little more confidence in yourselff will show . But I think you know that. Hugs sweetie .....Wondered what happened to you *soft smile*


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
9/19/2005 3:59 pm

I think it either happens or it doesn't. My problem is that all my male friends want bennies. I would much rather have male and female friends, and just ONE person that i can give my all too. forever. that's what i want.

As for you needing more experience?? I think an active imagination and a loving relationship with open communication easily makes up for so-called "Experience". I'm sure there are tons of "experienced" men out there that still haven't a clue. In the end, what does "experienced" mean? All you really need is one person that you love, and you can gain all the experience you could ever desire together.


WanToBUrMistress 37F

9/21/2005 6:19 pm

I agree with demon on the wanting one person to give my all too, but that one person better at least have some clue as to what to do and be sure about it. One person, really? They sure don't make em like you anymore....


Fox4aKnight1 43F

11/15/2005 7:14 am

Ok I came back to read this and read what DSK wrote and I have to agree hun. Experince is sometimes good but depends onw what you are looking for. Mostly being open to learning is a good thing. Sometimes it is a great thing! hugs hun and good luck !!!!


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