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3-5 minute wonders.....
3-5 minute wonders.....
Having had many female friends....and i mean friends as in real friends, and chatted to many ladies and girls on-line, i never ceases to amaze me that guys still think that getting on top of a women and banging away for a few minutes is great sex. The fact that so many guys still think this, clearly shows that there remains a fundermental problem with western men.
They are simply not talking to there female partners at all, and in particular, what make there female lovers tick and enjoy sex most.
The problems for me in understanding this, is that, althouhg i am a man, i have always been a considerate lover, in that, to me, being a good lover is about understanding my partners needs and desires. Of course this is no easy task, because women are far more complex than men emotionally and sexually. It never ceases to amaze me how many post you see in the advice column eith claiming to know what women want or asking wat women want. one of the major problems with this, is that its often blokes talking to blokes, instead of blokes asking the ladies.
Another recuring theme with male postings is clearly the inability of men to commicate with there femaile partners and seen in real relationships, where even with married couples, they do not talk or know about each other. More so when it comes down to female desires and sexual urges.
Of course part of the problem, well major junk of the problems is western societies difficulty in accepting female sexual desire, you cannot get away from the feeling sometimes that women are not supposed to have them or enjoy sex...and those that do are sluts, easy etc.
You only have to look at the way in which trails are conducted and the way in which the victims past or the way she dresses is used to agaist her.
Just because women enjouys sex or has a number of partners or like to dress in a sexy manner, should not be seen as an excuss for voilence, yes voilence guys, is assualt, not sex.
Back to the orginial point, it takes more than a view minutes of shafting to be a good sexual partners, i heard it so many times from women it make me so pissed of with my fellow sex. Now, not being one to boast, but for me, sex is something that should last for hours, and as far as i concerned if she hasn't had at least a two orgasims before me, i want to know why i am not reaching the spot. The thing is, in part, i think about what i doing, and more importantly i watch how what i doing effects my partner.
So guys, bare this in mind, and more importantly, start talking to your partners, and get over the dick size question...most ladies are more than happy with a guy who has a willing and creative tongue...or if size is a problem, so sulking, get your arse down to Anne Summers and get some toys.
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8/27/2006 12:37 am
i can be a 2 minute man , or a 2 hour man depends on surroundings and time limits.its called self control and it drives the ladies wild |