Since When Did I Start Wearing A Sign Saying "Open 24 Hours"?  

shwagurl 38F
11 posts
5/4/2006 12:46 pm

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Since When Did I Start Wearing A Sign Saying "Open 24 Hours"?

I've been having a reoccuring problem with the men I meet on this site and its reached the point where I need to vent and rant & rave about it today.

It seems that the men I meet here seem to think that just because I'm looking for a good time and am really up for anything that at the drop of a hat I should be available, with legs wide open begging them to fuck me.

They make it seem like it should be my mission to meet them and have them "satisfy" me because it would be my loss if I don't meet them.

Is it not possible to meet someone here that wants to get to know you first before jumping in the sack.

I mean don't get me wrong, I'm all for fly by seat of my pants meeting and screwing but it's like they barely know my name and are all "so when are we going to meet and fuck?".

I just wish that guys would realize that I would at least like to know a bit about them. I find it hard to be attracted to someone when I know nothing about them, not even there name.

Any suggestions on how to get this message across without appearing like a prude or a tease?



bipolybabe 54F

5/4/2006 1:54 pm

Search my blog for the piece I wrote on "Using AdultFriendFinder to Get Great Sex."

You have to be willing to "just say no" and walk away from the table if what he's offering is not what interests you on the menu.

I've had good times and bad times with AdultFriendFinder, mostly good.

In six months, I've met 54 single men for at least 30 minutes face to face in a public place in broad daylight. I not only ask his name but where he works and find out who he knows that I know so I can feel safer and more comfortable being alone and naked with him.

I've had intercourse at least once with 12 of them (22 after getting to know them a bit, engaged in some kind of naked sexplay with another with another 7 and about 1/3 of those with whom I've had some kind of sexual contact have not wanted a repeat visit for one reason or another, ususally because of the herpes or because I'm "demanding" in wanting someone to return my calls!

I keep track of these statistics because I'm analyzing what makes a successful connection. I've outlined in my blog the steps I follow, like not meeting at night the first time, not meeting under the influence of alcohol, etc., and my statistics in terms of my happiness quotient with whom I'm meeting and the kind of sex I'm finding has increased dramatically.

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007sexy40plus 50F  
7603 posts
5/4/2006 2:00 pm

Just say no baby. Take it from someone who has been there before too. I tell them no and hell no and some still come back. You got to be firm. they will think you are a prude just by saying no. so there is no easy way to be nice here because simply saying no don't work.

ignore them would be a good start also. when you say no and they still come back you have to go to the ignore room. LOL

Remember the majority of the men who contact you on here expect you to be a cum dump just because you are a member on here. But I tell them straight out that they ain't that special for me to open my legs to them just because they ask.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


shwagurl 38F

5/4/2006 5:34 pm

Thanks for the great advice ladies. That sets my mind at ease that it's not just me.

Glad to know that there are some decent guys out there and I just have to keep searching.


Swt_Italian 38M

5/7/2006 8:23 am

If I can add a thought from a guys perspective. The way I view it is that if she jumps into bed with me the same night we meet, I view that as a "one night stand" and will probably never get it from her again. If you "wait" a bit and get to know eachother then by the time you end up doing it you'll probably meet agin and do it again, and again, and again! Which sounds a lot better to me than just getting it the once! lol


cockfromspain2 45M
2 posts
10/31/2006 8:34 pm

Shwagurl

What I am hearing you say is that you want to treated with respect and as an individual - not a walking cock deposit. Think about it - our society has changed so much in the past 50 years. If you even kissed a guy on the first date - you were a slut, and if the guy got a kiss from you - he was a stud.

Ultimately ask yourself what do you want? I think if you found someone, became interested, fell in love, really bonded with them, then YES - you would be OPEN 24HRS. Anything less then that only means that you are sharing desires with someone, not your heart.

Take it from a romantic - Sex is always better when ..... (you fill in the blank).


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