rant time  

shasta1973 43F
99 posts
5/29/2006 10:00 pm

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10/23/2006 8:42 am

rant time

so I am curious, how long do people date before they mention or introduce you to friends? .....and if they choose to wait for months on end, do you as the other person, take that as an insult? I think so....after all, if you truly care for someone and want a future with them, wouldnt you want to have your friends meet them, and get to like them the way you do? or instead, do you conitinue to hide them, like some sort of sordid secret, only to be enjoyed under the cover of the night...like some sort of nasty habit one has aquired......to me, if I care for someone, I want to show them off, I want my friends to go wow, what a great person you are with...and most important of all, I want that person to know they matter to me and how lucky I feel to be with them

LilSquirt_4mfm 67M/67F
3394 posts
5/29/2006 10:37 pm

hi shasta

absolutely you dont "hide" a person you care for ...

in fact, you show her / him off proudly to your friends ....

i'd be carefull when that happens .... and suspicious ....."my" take on it, from your words


rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
5/29/2006 10:55 pm

Good warning sign, if they don't show you off.

Another thing is, it's good to have your friends meet your current mate. Sometimes they see things you don't.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

sensually_us 46M/42F

5/30/2006 3:40 am

Sometimes in a new relationship, one party wants more from the relationship than the other does.Perhaps the pace that the relationship is progressing at is good for one but not the other.

Could be that they are just not looking for the exact same thing that you are. No matter what, you should always feel that you should have the relationship that you desire, but is this person willing to give that to you? Maybe they just aren't ready or prepared to.

wraecca 39M
358 posts
5/30/2006 4:37 pm

hola shasta

sorry to hear you are not happy...

it took a bit for me to meet my current partner's friend's and family, where i tried my best to share my friends with her and wanted her to do things like go to my sister's wedding pretty early on...

she was not ready for what seemed like the serious implications of bringing me into her world that much...

i told her that i was cool with waiting for a bit while she figured things out, but that i would not wait forever... i also said that i was interested in seeing where things may go and if we might develop a more serious relationship... but if at any time she did not see even the remote possibiity of a future for us, she should let me know...

i am okay with flings and such, as long as i know what they are... that way if something with the possibility of more comes along, i am open to it... rather than waiting under the delusion that the person i am with is as serious as i am...

honesty and communication... so important...

find out what he is after, tell him what you want and how it feels to not know his friends... if your needs match and you both work on it... great! even if it is more casual...

if you are after different things, it is easier to cut him loose earlier rather than later...

take care sweetness...


shasta1973 43F

5/30/2006 7:36 pm

hmmm...very valid points...thank you all for your opinions, I am listening

sensually_4ever 42M/F

5/30/2006 7:41 pm

Shasta... love

You know my feelings on this...

Whatever happens and whatever you decide?? for it is up to you to decide....

I, and we will be here for you



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