swinger's ettiquette  

sharewus2 40M/32F
415 posts
1/11/2006 8:22 pm

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swinger's ettiquette


i believe throughout the course of this blog i've spoken briefly about a man who i refer to as my "stud"...a very attentive playmate who also happens to be one of the greatest lovers i've met thusfar. now i have a friend, whom we shall call, for this blog entry...girl (plain name, no fingers pointing). girl has recently come upon a man who she tells me is wonderful as well, and suggested i try him out. now, as we progress, keep that in mind...SHE SUGGESTED I TRY HIM OUT. so i chat with this guy, and he seems decent. very sweet, almost bordering on loveable, and we seem to hit it off decently ennough. girl, as women are want to do, gets jellous. very jellous. now, i tell her, and with all sincerity, mind you, that i'll keep my mittens off if she'd like. she insists that she WANTS me to meet him...keep that in your head also, beloved readers. she wants me to meet him. stupid girl that i am i continue to persue this man. then today, out of nowhere, she says to me that she wants my stud's screenname and AdultFriendFinder handle. uhm...okay? i oblige her, as i tend to be a bit of a pushover (outside the confines of a dimly lit bedroom). so she goes on and starts flirting with MY stud...now i am not a jellous person by nature. sir is as promiscuous as he feels fit with no reprocussion at all. hell, i don't think even her talking to the stud would have bothered me...if she hadn't f'ing copied and pasted the entire conversation for me!!! is that acceptable? i understand the idea of complete honesty, and that maybe she wanted to just let me know what was said...but considering the proceeding...what do you think? i didn't know weather to be jellous or be pissed at myself for letting it get to me. then again, isn't what she did wrong?

look, i don't care if she plays with him, but i don't want a detailed report about it.

insolentone2 37M

1/12/2006 9:04 am

Well, some people think that if you set them up that you have (or WANT) to know every detail. Sorry, but a lot of women are like that. Just remember, he is a playmate not the one you've choosen to be with. Be nice and share. You're not 2 anymore. If this is the lifestyle you want to live then you need to be happy for him, for her, and for the new guy that's gonna pound the shit out of you. If I had the kind of open style realtionship you have I'd want as many resourses and would support anyone else living that lifestyle.


mrsanders2 48M

1/12/2006 9:58 am

Hmmm...I don't know, but it seem she could end up being trouble! It sounds like she is not as comfortable with the idea of sharing as she might believe she is. Let her know that detailed reports are to be shared by the couple (if Sir and you share experiences and stories, that is great--but it is in the boundaries of your relationship)--her wanting to share the experience with you (the SO of Sir) borders on 'homewrecker' behavior. I think there may be some jealousy and unhealthy competition going on here.
Tell her what you say here--she can play, but reports to you are not welcome or, I believe, proper protocol.
Good luck!


Phineas2005 48M
854 posts
1/12/2006 12:35 pm

I'm confused....

The again I was born that way....


kitz6 59F

1/12/2006 12:55 pm

Sweetie- when playing with her males - you abide by her rules; when she plays with your males - she abides by your rules. If you do not want details - tell her so. Now me, no that's between you and my male slut. All I ask is that you return him in the same good condition you received him in, *EG*. Now if you two were friends then sharing would be appropriate but until that time - intimate details are out.


rm_VaRomeo0272 44M

1/12/2006 6:39 pm

Or....you guys could just try him at the same time and then you wouldn't have to tell each other

And, by the way, if this works out....tell him he owes me one....LOL.


Phineas2005 48M
854 posts
1/12/2006 7:13 pm

"return him in the same good condition you received him in"

Now Kitz, some times you could not do this...I heard that some lady was upset at you....her slut took weeks to recover....


insolentone2 37M

1/12/2006 9:11 pm

hahaha. I'ma slut, doesn't that count for anything anymore?

mr sanders. I think you missed something the guy in question isn't "Sir" it's her "stud" two totally different people.

Va Romeo, I suggested the 4 of them get together and just pass the guys back and forth, but she didn't seem to go for it. The two guys yes, but said the lady wasn't her type hahah.


sharewus2 40M/32F

1/12/2006 9:25 pm

insolentone, hunny, don't start with me...firstly, this guy was not offered to her he was manipulated out of my grasp, in a brief moment of stupidity (on my part) and as i said, it is the reason behind her sudden interest that has me angry, not the interest itself. hell, he is not mine, and truthfully, as relationships go, i wouldn't tolerate him. secondly, she copied and pasted the ENTIRE conversation...knowing details of an actual encounter is one thing...flirting on the internet? give me a break


sharewus2 40M/32F

1/12/2006 9:36 pm

to the rest of you

mr sanders-i completely agree, as i said, i don't care if she plays with him, he's an excelent lover, and i'd offer him up to anyone who wanted him...but she is being malicious about this whole thing

phineas-hunny, stay confused, it's the best place for you

kitz-lol, i must agree with phineas on the condition you return men in, yours, you will note, is completely unscathed...mine it seems, has a few new scratches...and i want a rematch...

VaRomeo-you'll be pleased to know that he has deemed her as "not his type"...which really just means he has a soft spot for anal, which is the one thing she reuses to do...no matter, the day is mine!


Phineas2005 48M
854 posts
1/13/2006 12:48 am

Ahhh....hmmmmm...I....now I'm dazed and confused...

*Phineas walks into wall*

Ouch...


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