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Asian Loving White Boy Perverts
Asian Loving White Boy Perverts
I came up with a new idea for AdultFriendFinder recently. It's called My Very Best Sexual Experiences. You've got three horny guys with loaded guns on webcam. They look back at their sexual exploits, recall who they had sex with, what they experienced, how much it shaped their sexual being and whether each was truly fulfilled. The winner is the one who doesn't blow his brains out. He gets to fuck Yoko Ono.
Okay, let me just start by saying that I am very new to this so called "lifestyle" and immediately that leaves me with a sense of rebellion against it. Sorry, just my nature. I am a formerly oppressed asian woman who had her horizons reopened by a very interesting man who has no hangups and can seperate the concept of sex versus pleasure. That means he is not jealous and he can be extremely supportive in my quest for satisfaction on all levels. He is also a great friend and watches out for me while I attack this new world with eyes wide open but not necessarily alert.
Yes, that means I might not always be watching my backside - but he does and for that I am eternally grateful.
But back to the matter at hand. Which is the high incidence of asian loving white boy perverts on AdultFriendFinder who begin each chat session with something stupid about my heritage.
"So you're a real asian, aren't you," and then others like "I always wanted to try it with an asian woman because I've heard you gals are just amazing in bed, true?"
Yes, I am attractive and asian and I crave sex - so what? For these reasons and a couple others, I have flipped the switch off AdultFriendFinder men until I can get to know them through other manners, which means through their women who know them best. We have had two experiences with couples that were okay, but other experiences have been bizarre and notable only for the level of male selfishness they have revealed.
To wit. The most influential experience that fueled our decision to look solely for women began as a normal evening, but soon turned into a freakish example of what one man says about his partner in this lifestyle is a reflection of his gutter desires. Men who have respectful thoughts and simple expectations tend be rare in this world, I have come to know.
This was the second couple that we had decided to meet. The first was a largely positive experience, although they were not nearly as stable as we were and I imagine that their discussions later must have been tense. He seemed insecure about my dude's dick size and her reaction to it ... which made me smile so widely; she appeared rather insecure during drinks when her guy couldn't keep his eyes from dancing all over me ... at least until my dude went to work on her later.
But this second couple .. which I now refer to as the worst idea from jump street. He was white with a receeding hairline and she was asian from overseas, the kind of person who smiles at each moment of misunderstanding. He should have picked up on these things and assisted, but he was more preoccupied with his cell phone. His detachment made me wonder if he had a list of couples he wanted to explore with, whether she was involved or not.
He would look at me from time to time and wink, before saying such things as "asian occassion" or "asian sensation" and other delusional ramblings about his intentions. My dude just sat back and observed the proceedings with an uneasiness I rarely see out of him. He later told me that he wanted to leave after the first 30 minutes, but didnt want to offend anyone with a sudden move for the door - and she seemed rather at ease with me, so he just hoped that we could become comfortable with each other.
But when you're in a relationship it means you are obligated to give a shit. Clearly the male half of this other couple didn't. He was more preoccupied with hotel rooms and shaking it down, as he called it. Not in a million years. In fact, the more he spoke and looked at me, the more I considered a new career direction as a nun. She was so cute and so innocent - obviously she was being pushed into the "lifestyle" by a partner/husband who saw her as sexually boring or uninspired, while he needed a healthy dose of kink to get the word out, so to speak. He also needed to be in the company of submissive asian women, and if he thought for a second that I was anything but all asian and not submissive he was barking up the wrong chopstick.
Game, set, match. No more couples unless we get to know the woman first, whether we have sex at all. Like my dude says, when it comes to group and threesome sex that involves more than one woman, the women are most important. They need to feel comfortable with one another before doing anything. And unless the sexual activity is a birthday present, the whole idea of additional sex partners needs to begin and end with the women involved or the experience can become destructive.
Then again, when you're in a relationship it means you are obligated to give a shit.