Open Marriage  

sexyred4ubaby 40F
41 posts
3/16/2006 2:06 pm

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Open Marriage

I just got an article from a friend about couples getting married and agreeing to the terms in which they can cheat. Otherwise called an open marriage. His position is that it's about the same ratio of where it does not work out. So yea or nae to it?
Yea to open marriage
Nae to open marriage

49AK 55M
1823 posts
3/16/2006 3:28 pm

It seems like a terrible idea, until you consider the alternative... Cheating...

Its way better that things are out in the open.

If you're happy with what you have, whether it is open or not, its fine. If you're looking for more, in one case it is safe, and in another it isn't.

Lies and relationships just don't mix.

Chaotix69 39M
31 posts
3/16/2006 10:12 pm

That's a very fine line to walk, even with well grounded and mentally stable adults. The heart and mind don't always sync up as we'd like or expect, and the results can be devastating to one or both partners, or to whomever else may be involved.

rm_JinRVa06 48M

3/22/2006 4:10 pm

Naysayer here. Why get married then? However I can see the other side where a couple does not want to get divorced for a time due to kids etc and enters into this type of arrangement but at that point it is a crutch (just my opinion). I'd not look down upon those who choose to do this but not for me.

redheaded_slut21 32M

3/23/2006 2:55 pm

that's fucking ridiculous. why get married at all if you're going to cheat, it's an ultimate commitment to someone. As for marraige in general, I think people get married to fast or too early. I doubt most people are mature enough even at 30 to decifer weather or not they're ready for marraige. I think you need to know truely who you are before you can ever give yourself to another person, and having an open marraige is just a nice way of saying I'm not completely devoted to you. An open marraige is crap and ultimately hurtful to the other person and most of all you. If you truely love someone how can you say yes to allowing them to sleep around? That would kill me.

Oh yeah, and the saying "it's just sex" is crazy too. I'm not sure how many one night stands you guys have had but I've had a few, and they're pretty damn sour and heartless a lot of the time. If I don't care for some one I can't have great sex, I'm way better off beating my meat than akwardly having sex with someone I just met.

I'm not all about marraige either, I think it's a silly thing. People come and go and situations change over time, I enjoy change not stability. Marraige is just a retirement of life and an acceptance of death. Well, that is if you have kids. Then again if you don't I'm sure it's a lot better.

RICH7854 49M

3/23/2006 3:13 pm

an open marriage is the same as never know when one or the other partner is suddenly going to meet their next "soul mate"

sausagelinkup 53M

3/23/2006 3:22 pm

I say no to an open marriage. Yes, we will always find someone else attractive as that is human nature. But when you are married that is the only one you should be doing. Just one mans' personal opinion.

rm_only_4_sex2 64M

3/29/2006 8:28 am

Well, I suppose it beats the alternative of cheating. I guess it all depends on the couple. If you can be secure in your "marriage" while your partner is out banging the world, then I guess its okay. If you feel the slightest pangs of jealousy, then it should be a no go.

rm_ripper_pa 59M

3/29/2006 8:48 am

tHERE ARE FACTORS that are not listed here. Such as what the lifestyle was before marriage and how log they have been together. Example 7 year realtionship and already into the lifestyle. But if they are fresh into a marraige and agree to this added lifestyle I cant help but feel that one or the other feels pressure to agree . hence it is a setup for failure early on.

MR_XXX_1968 48M
18 posts
3/2/2008 10:55 pm

Open marriage…..WHAT? Then why get married at all!!! That's such a silly concept, but I’m a traditionalist as far as my relationships go!!

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