AFF I NEED UR HELP PRONTO!!!!!  

sexymusica 30F
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7/13/2006 6:31 pm

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AFF I NEED UR HELP PRONTO!!!!!


Okay, remember my last post about waht a friend said about my hair. Well, i sent him an email voicing my concerns and this is what he had to say. its a copy of our transcript

R (7/13/2006 8:51:10 PM): just got back
R (7/13/2006 8:51:11 PM):
b(7/13/2006 8:51:13 PM): hi
b (7/13/2006 8:51:19 PM): did u get my email
R (7/13/2006 8:53:03 PM): yes, and I did not respond for a reason...... listen, this is not gonna work.... you have WAYYY too many questions and take things WAYYYY to personal.... I have black family, friends, employees, church members... I AM FAR from racist... that hurt, angered me and really dissapointed me. You were not a check on the list of woman I fucked... you were a friend to explore with..... I know white people have "weaves" and I know they do some stupid stuff to thier bodies as well... I am not angry anymore... but I cannot take a friendship where every word I say is analyzed... I just cannot
b (7/13/2006 8:53:54 PM): omg
b (7/13/2006 8:54:03 PM): that was NOT what i was saying
R (7/13/2006 8:54:05 PM): so please, do not call anymore.... I have enough "drama" I cannot take anymore... I cannot take someone taking my words and getting emotional over every little thing... I just cannot...
b (7/13/2006 8:54:11 PM): h
b (7/13/2006 8:54:14 PM): hun
b (7/13/2006 8:54:16 PM): listen
b (7/13/2006 8:54:18 PM): are listening
R (7/13/2006 8:54:28 PM): I ma watching yes
b(7/13/2006 8:54:45 PM): i just asked a simple little question. i did not get emotiotion
b (7/13/2006 8:54:59 PM): friends are supposed to be able to discuss concerns
b (7/13/2006 8:55:02 PM): no i didnt
b(7/13/2006 8:55:11 PM): u jumped to conclusions
R (7/13/2006 8:55:12 PM): u have asked what are we a million TIMES..... we are friends with benefits
b (7/13/2006 8:55:16 PM): okay
b (7/13/2006 8:55:23 PM): ive thought about it and thats fine
b (7/13/2006 8:55:31 PM): friends with benefits is fine
R (7/13/2006 8:55:31 PM): I know... but yet u keep asking
R (7/13/2006 8:55:36 PM): and asking
b (7/13/2006 8:55:37 PM): i wont ask anymore
R (7/13/2006 8:55:38 PM): and asking
b (7/13/2006 8:55:42 PM): i wont ask anymore
b (7/13/2006 8:55:49 PM): i wont ask anymore
b (7/13/2006 8:55:53 PM): i wont ask anymore
R(7/13/2006 8:55:57 PM): ....................
b (7/13/2006 8:56:04 PM): do i need to say it again
b(7/13/2006 8:56:13 PM): look, ray, u r my friend
b (7/13/2006 8:56:21 PM): i dont need anything more than that
b(7/13/2006 8:56:24 PM): seriously
b(7/13/2006 8:56:29 PM): not from u
b(7/13/2006 8:56:41 PM): i've had time to think about it
b (7/13/2006 8:56:49 PM): and i dont need it
b (7/13/2006 8:56:51 PM): i do not
b (7/13/2006 8:56:55 PM): i cannot
R (7/13/2006 8:56:56 PM): okay, well I just got on to check mail... I need to get my little one to bed... I may be back.... I will try..... but cannot promise.....
b (7/13/2006 8:57:11 PM): be back
R (7/13/2006 8:57:16 PM): we have tons of laundry
R (7/13/2006 8:57:18 PM): and things
R (7/13/2006 8:57:25 PM): so I will be trying to get things back to "normal"
b(7/13/2006 8:57:29 PM): and i have sexy pics i just took tonight
R (7/13/2006 8:57:33 PM): and I will try and come back to chat for a bit
b (7/13/2006 8:57:37 PM): if u wanna see
R(7/13/2006 8:57:38 PM): see ya soon
b (7/13/2006 8:59:21 PM): i know u got things to do but this is important so please try to be back, like soon. and i will leave u alone
R (7/13/2006 9:03:52 PM): okay I am back... got a load of laundry in and my little one to bed
b (7/13/2006 9:04:12 PM): okay. do u understand i dont need anything more from u
b(7/13/2006 9:04:18 PM): i just need a friend
R (7/13/2006 9:04:31 PM): so u do not want "benefits" or yes?
b (7/13/2006 9:04:50 PM): YES!!!! I want the benefits! did u read the whole email? lol
b (7/13/2006 9:05:00 PM): or just get angry?
R (7/13/2006 9:05:00 PM): yes I did
b (7/13/2006 9:05:02 PM): ok
R (7/13/2006 9:05:05 PM): I did not just get angry
R (7/13/2006 9:05:06 PM): in fact
R (7/13/2006 9:05:11 PM): I did not get angry right away
R (7/13/2006 9:05:15 PM): till I read it the next day
R (7/13/2006 9:05:19 PM): and the word racist was there
R (7/13/2006 9:05:23 PM): I was pissed
R(7/13/2006 9:05:25 PM): I hate that word
R(7/13/2006 9:05:27 PM): HATE
b(7/13/2006 9:05:29 PM): so okay
b (7/13/2006 9:05:46 PM): but like it or not thats what it sounded like to me. and u made me pissed too
b(7/13/2006 9:05:52 PM): ur not the only one that gets angry
R (7/13/2006 9:05:55 PM): I may be A LOT of things, but racist is NOT one of them
b (7/13/2006 9:05:57 PM): and disappointed
b (7/13/2006 9:06:02 PM): maybe ur not
b (7/13/2006 9:06:15 PM): but still somethings require thought before ur honest
b (7/13/2006 9:06:21 PM): u of all people should know that
b(7/13/2006 9:06:24 PM): dealing with me
b(7/13/2006 9:06:24 PM): okay
R (7/13/2006 9:06:42 PM): listen, I do not like ur hair.... and I thought about it... I just dont like it
R (7/13/2006 9:06:47 PM): and if u did not like mine
R (7/13/2006 9:06:49 PM): then u tell me
R (7/13/2006 9:06:53 PM): and I would not get offended
R (7/13/2006 9:06:58 PM): weave, braids short long
R (7/13/2006 9:07:00 PM): it would not matter
b (7/13/2006 9:07:04 PM): o
b (7/13/2006 9:07:05 PM): ok
b (7/13/2006 9:07:14 PM): ok
b (7/13/2006 9:07:21 PM): u wanna know something
r (7/13/2006 9:07:27 PM): sure
b (7/13/2006 9:07:38 PM): when i first met u. physcially were not my type. and ur still not
r (7/13/2006 9:07:44 PM): thats fine
b (7/13/2006 9:07:48 PM): but i want to be with u because i like talking to u
b (7/13/2006 9:07:58 PM): and i was able to look past the exterior
R (7/13/2006 9:08:23 PM): DID I say I did not wanna be with u bc of ur hair??? NO I said I liked the other better... and I did not ask u to change it either
b (7/13/2006 9:08:47 PM): ok
b (7/13/2006 9:08:48 PM): ok
b (7/13/2006 9:08:50 PM): ok
b (7/13/2006 9:08:52 PM): i get that
R (7/13/2006 9:08:59 PM): two months ago I got my hair cut..... and my wife said I do not like it...... it is too short
R (7/13/2006 9:09:04 PM): I did not get all offended
R (7/13/2006 9:09:06 PM): and upset
R (7/13/2006 9:09:09 PM): I was like well
R (7/13/2006 9:09:12 PM): it'll grow out
R (7/13/2006 9:09:14 PM): who cares
R (7/13/2006 9:09:16 PM): it is hair
b (7/13/2006 9:09:21 PM): ok
b(7/13/2006 9:09:33 PM): i can take u not liking it
b(7/13/2006 9:09:35 PM): i dont care
b (7/13/2006 9:09:45 PM): but i didnt like that u brought a whole race into it
b(7/13/2006 9:09:52 PM): like it not it just sounded bad
R (7/13/2006 9:10:17 PM): listen...... I check a statistic...... only 23.67% of white people get weaves, fake hair or braids
R (7/13/2006 9:10:25 PM): 96.89% of black people do
R (7/13/2006 9:10:38 PM): it is a race thing
R (7/13/2006 9:10:41 PM): and nothing wrong with it
b (7/13/2006 9:10:42 PM): u checked a statistic
R(7/13/2006 9:10:47 PM): I like ALOT of weaves
b (7/13/2006 9:10:54 PM): u checked a statistic?
R(7/13/2006 9:10:57 PM): yes
R (7/13/2006 9:11:01 PM): I have a database
R (7/13/2006 9:11:05 PM): I am a statistic person
R(7/13/2006 9:11:06 PM): big time
R (7/13/2006 9:11:14 PM): polls
R (7/13/2006 9:11:17 PM): things like that
R(7/13/2006 9:11:27 PM): I follow politics, racial, religious
b (7/13/2006 9:11:30 PM): okay whatever
R(7/13/2006 9:11:31 PM): so yes, I checked
b (7/13/2006 9:11:59 PM): and to what u said earlier, a lot of people have black people in thier life but thats not proof they like them
b (7/13/2006 9:12:07 PM): but i'm not callin u racist
b (7/13/2006 9:12:10 PM): i'm not
R (7/13/2006 9:12:12 PM): I HAVE A BLACK BROTHER
b(7/13/2006 9:12:12 PM): i am not
R (7/13/2006 9:12:13 PM): sibling
R (7/13/2006 9:12:16 PM): come ON
b (7/13/2006 9:12:18 PM): ok
R(7/13/2006 9:12:22 PM): I have CLOSE friends
b (7/13/2006 9:12:22 PM): okay r
b (7/13/2006 9:12:24 PM): u win
R (7/13/2006 9:12:24 PM): who are black
b (7/13/2006 9:12:29 PM): u win hun
R (7/13/2006 9:12:30 PM): no, it is not about winning
b(7/13/2006 9:12:35 PM): well its over
b (7/13/2006 9:12:39 PM): just change the sub
b (7/13/2006 9:12:42 PM): please
R (7/13/2006 9:12:42 PM): no
R (7/13/2006 9:12:44 PM): I wil not
R (7/13/2006 9:12:46 PM): I am leaving
R (7/13/2006 9:12:51 PM): this is ridiculous
b (7/13/2006 9:12:55 PM): what is

and then he signed out. thats what happened my side and his. again someone that i've had a lot of trouble with on here. i need an honest opinion. who sounds crazy on here. me him or both. cause i know i'm crazy for even dealing with him and i had to cover up the name because he and his wife are members on here.
i hope i followed all the guidelines in this post.

he told me his wife no longer wants to meet black people on AdultFriendFinder because of what happened with me (i called her a slut, ooooh arrest me). so i told him that i dont want to deal with people of her race for the same reason.
and he's like

STOP.... this conversation is over for now... altho I may NOT like the way either of you... her screaming and u calling and calling and iming
I will not let u both bash each other
or race
so stop

and i was like talk to her then and he's like, no i'm dealing with you.

so his wife can say what she wants and i say the same thing all of a sudden i'm this horrible person.
so i say why are you yelling at me and he says

I am yelling at you bc YOU CAUSED ALL THIS.... this would not have happened if you would not have been on a freaking calling spree

(he deserved it)

he also says
no one has the right to call me things like that... and I have every right as a person to decide NOT to listen to it

if u dont like it... move on... bc I will not sit and listen to it... and if u do it again... u will never hear from me
got it?
and that is not a threat... it is a promise!

U know what, I did not call him a racist. His comment was racist. but theres no point arguing. cause his mind is made up and of course he's always right.

I had no right to disturb the peace of his home. BS, he had no right to disturb the peace of my life.

If any of you think i'm crazy after this, okay.

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