sexymanxx 39M/32F
8 posts
3/19/2005 9:07 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


We have never done this but are very curious. Sex is very important to me and at the moment seems to be an extra chore to my partner who works very hard and is often too tired.

I suggested having another man to make things a little more exciting for her and although at first she thought it was the wrong way to deal with the problem, she has come around to the idea that joining another couple or just a single guy or gal, may be good for her too.

What I want to know is exactly what do most couples do when meeting another couple. Is it all on one bed fun or do you swap partners and go to a different room each?

All comments and experiences are welcome.

leyndokona2 49F

3/19/2005 1:05 pm

you are on AdultFriendFinder as a couple but still say you have suggested this site to her? hmmmm

Is your wife by any chance on the pill? That could have something to do with it, although I don't for a second think I can give advice or solutions to people I know nothing about.

uncutlover7 54M

3/19/2005 1:20 pm

My 2nd wife got like that after 16years, but she was a religous person, so swinging was not a choice, so she eventually moved out

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
3/19/2005 7:15 pm

what good is 2 or 3 times a night if there is no quality, scrap the quickies if you need to get off go and have a toss, sex isn't just about the orgasm at the end, it is alot more besides, it can be fun, it can be gratifying, and unless you have young kids scrap the bedtime routine, go out have fun, and DON'T ask for it, touch her hold her caress her every chance you get, you don't have to be in the bedroom to do it!

make it a rule for yourself, NOT to Cum within 3 hours of initiating any type of intimate interaction/intercourse.

even when out in public try and slide your hands into her clothing, always try to stay close and have some physical contact, but don't go and be a greasy sleeze about it, be suttle and gentle, even the least picky women get sick of clumsly gropping.

AND FOR GOD'S SAKE! don't consider it the MUST do, that crutial point that she must cum before you do, yes she will crack it with you if she does not get any enjoyment, BUT if you make that your no1 concern, you will not pay the attention that is needed to getting her there, and that is all the fun!


sexymanxx 39M/32F

4/17/2005 1:11 am

If you mean go to the cinema or for a meal, for a date night, we do.

Would love a date night with you sexy, or day time come to think of it.

Eyeswideropen 36M

4/26/2005 5:08 am

Hmm, well I'm not sure that you've given enough information here, for instance how much have you spoken about her needs and wants? Is this a purely sexual thing or is there something troubling her that leaves her feeling drawn and run down, hence not interested in sex. For my own part I know stress can really affect my drive, my relationships and my happiness in general. I hope I'm not out of line suggesting that you might want to just make a good amount of time to sit and talk about things with each other, really try to get her concerns and feelings out on the table, she could be holding back on a lot of issues or concerns for fear that you are either to busy or not interested in hearing them, or perhaps that you won't like what you'll hear, but and again from my own experience, that only leaves you feeling more distant from the people most important in your life, and is not the road to go down.

So in brief, I'd say sit down take a long time out, make sure she has nothing on her mind and listen to her, just let her have her say for a while. Don't make judgement, don't try to offer advice, just listen, then when shes finished, ask her what you can do (if anything) to help.

I've made a lot of presumptions, I hope what I've said has some use though.

rm_1974happy2 42M
1 post
11/28/2005 2:56 pm

great idea. sex is important in any relationship, it doesn't harm to spice up a bit. i love sex, masturbation, giving oral watching and have a woman dress up, cant get enough. if your interested send me an E-MAIL.

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