nervous on first meets?  

sexymamma662003 31F
3954 posts
6/25/2006 9:49 pm

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nervous on first meets?


ok so everyone is here to meet for one reason or another. the biggest reason is sex right? so what do you all do before you go for a meet?

do you drink alcohol to help you calm your nerves? do you still get nervous no matter what but warm up after awhile? or are you just plain nervouse threw the hole thing but you hide your nerves well?

I would assume everyone is some what nervous meeting someone from here, or any were for that matter, wondering is this person going to be the smae in person or is he/she going to do a complet 180 on me and be a totally diffrent person?

Is this person even going to show, am i going to be stood up? what if this person is nothing like his/her pictures what do i do or say to get out of there with out being rude and not causing a problem couse again what if he/she becomes violent on you?

you can never really know some one enough threw the internet, i think you can make great friends on here, but i think that when it comes right down to meeting someone can you ever be too safe? you can talk for months on the phone and threw IM. but do you dont really know what that person will be like when that first meet comes around.

what if you travel to meet them in a town you have no idea about. what happends when things turn sour then? any of you think about this stuff? i have recently, becouse of seeing posts threw out the blogs about people wanting to know when is a good time to meet, i always say trust your gut, it wont let you down. but what if you are a natureally shy and nervouse person you dont want to give the wrong idea off that you are not interested when you are.

for those of you how have meet a few people does it get easier every time or is it just as hard as the first time?

so when you see posts about people talking about meetings and how great it was do you think they are imbelishing it a little? i do in some ways becouse they act as though it wasnt hard at all. though i dont understand that becouse you really dont know any one untill you meet face to face no matter how long you chat on the IM or on the phone.

*spell check isnt working*

~sexy~


somethingelse40 74M
14676 posts
6/26/2006 5:14 am

In order to retain the title, a motherfucker must keep fucking. My motives are nothing less than obvious. It would take too long to explain my exact feelings about you, let’s just call it sex.


readytolay_3
(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)
105F

6/26/2006 5:29 am

No matter how much you think you know a person that first meet it tough I just self medicate and figure sex some other meet...Ready

Ready


TechSteve 49M

6/26/2006 6:32 am

I have met a few women on AdultFriendFinder.

I always pick a public place. Most of the time, it is a Tim Hortons (famous Canadian coffee shop). One time I was travelling and I met a lady at a truck stop.

I dont drink any alcohol. I am nervous, but I know the other person is just as nervous as me.

One lady I met stood me up 4 times before I met her. She would say she had to stay late for work, for example. After the 4th time, she admitted to me that she was scared. When I met her, we hit it off. I am a very good talker.

It will always be hard and awkward for me to meet somebody, but I will never stand anyone up or make excuses.

Steve


imLadyBambi 58M/50F

6/26/2006 8:42 am

It's not that big of a deal for us because we are a couple. There is safety and we have each other to prevent an embarrassing situation if the other person does not show.

Our first meeting is usually at Starbucks. We make it clear that there will not be anything sexual during the first meeting (this prevents disappointments, misunderstandings, and lowers anxiety) And, except for one instance, we have not have sex on our first meeting.

Lady Bambi


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

6/26/2006 7:13 pm

I think everyone is shy to some point meeting someone from this site, for all the reasons you say. Definitely take precautions as a woman. Make sure you know something about the guy, see if you can find someone else who knows him. Like other folks are saying here, meet in public and definitely use your intuition! If it doesn't feel right, get the hell out. You don't owe anyone anything. Don't be shy. Walk out the back if you have to.

As far as getting over the jitters, well, you know what I'm gonna say. Tequila!! And getting to know him other ways like chatting and the phone will help too.

xoxoxo
BF


sexymamma662003 31F

6/26/2006 7:46 pm

    Quoting BenefitsFriend69:
    I think everyone is shy to some point meeting someone from this site, for all the reasons you say. Definitely take precautions as a woman. Make sure you know something about the guy, see if you can find someone else who knows him. Like other folks are saying here, meet in public and definitely use your intuition! If it doesn't feel right, get the hell out. You don't owe anyone anything. Don't be shy. Walk out the back if you have to.

    As far as getting over the jitters, well, you know what I'm gonna say. Tequila!! And getting to know him other ways like chatting and the phone will help too.

    xoxoxo
    BF
so what you are saying is if my gut says go out and fuck the guy right off do it lol and yeah tequila will do it to me lol but you already knew that

~sexy~


HeartlessBitch69 46F

6/26/2006 9:14 pm

My only worry is they wont like me and run away making me feel like shit! so because I am so nervous, I pee alot before I meet them. And I mean alot! Like every 5 seconds I am on the pot. And I constantly spray perfume on, just to make sure I smell good. I know I do, but I am nervous and thats just a thing I do. And I change my outfit like 100 times, to look perfect!
I do not drink at all, and I do not smoke right before I meet them, and brush my mouth (no teeth yet remember) over and over! And did I mention I pee ALOT? lol


sexymamma662003 31F

6/26/2006 9:56 pm

    Quoting HeartlessBitch69:
    My only worry is they wont like me and run away making me feel like shit! so because I am so nervous, I pee alot before I meet them. And I mean alot! Like every 5 seconds I am on the pot. And I constantly spray perfume on, just to make sure I smell good. I know I do, but I am nervous and thats just a thing I do. And I change my outfit like 100 times, to look perfect!
    I do not drink at all, and I do not smoke right before I meet them, and brush my mouth (no teeth yet remember) over and over! And did I mention I pee ALOT? lol
oh god that has to suck big time having to pee all the time. just glad i dont go threw that lol

~sexy~


secret_eyespy 54M
488 posts
6/27/2006 4:33 pm

I think there is a certain amount of nervousness in everyone right before the big moment. Will he/she like me? Will they look like their last picture? Do they look me in the eyes? There are tons of signals that might indicate a meeting is not going over well. The things that you preplan for can help ease the tension when you're standing face to face with that person.

Ladies, safety above all else. You can never be safe enough now a days.

Guys, make things as safe for the gals as possible. If she doesn't have a safety plan suggest one for her. Anything we can do to ease her nervousness and ours will make the meeting go over so much better.


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