Pictures, worth more then a 1000 words  

sexyfit_helper 54F
185 posts
3/18/2006 10:11 pm

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6/27/2007 1:26 pm

Pictures, worth more then a 1000 words

What makes a good picture, and how do you make the most of them on AdultFriendFinder?

First, what people like in pictures will depend on what they are looking for. That lady looking for a hot sexual encounter probably wants to see nude body shots whereas the lady looking for a relationship, commitment and "respect" probably doesn't until she feels you feel something for her rather then just superficial lust cause you're horny, and that any open legs will do.

Having said that, you also have to think about what it is that you want to portray. This is a public site and do you want your nudes with your face out there, and the possibility of someone you wouldn't want to see them seeing them? Or maybe, the idea that someone possibly did recognise you and is thinking hot thoughts about your body without your knowledge is a real turn on.

AdultFriendFinder has two places for pictures, the 5 public ones that anyone can see, and the albums that you decide who has access to by whom you let into your network. If you have space, I recommend that any pictures you put up for public viewing also go into an album, and even lable that album something like "the public pictures for standard members." Standard members can only see your pictures if you invite them to your network and have pictures in an album.

Once you've decided what you want to portray, and whether they are best suited to your public or private network, the actual picture quality should be strongly considered. Personally, I love nudes pictures and cock pictures. I'm one of those ladies more likely to be turned on by them then turned off, but having said that, all things equal, some pictures are way more appealing then other because of the attention that goes into creating and editing them prior to posting.

There are many common errors to picture posting, and here are some dos and don'ts.
  • Do edit your pictures for orientation. If the picture is of you standing up, and the camera was sideways, turn that picture to the proper orientation before using it. This should not be a hard one to figure out, but lots have pictures that are sideways and upside down.

  • Do edit your pictures for dead space surrounding you. Unless your picture is to show you in a beautiful surrounding, get into a photo editor and trim that dresser covered in crap, etc., out of the picture. You will be more visable and bigger. How does one answer a question, "did you like my picture, " and you are about the size of an ant in it?

  • Don't use pictures that are so dark, you can hardly see a thing. Some might think, dim lights, isn't that erotic, but personally, if it is dark, I can hardly see a thing.

  • Go for original. There are thousands upon thousands of pictures of guys standing in front of their mirrors with a flash at their head showing their body. Some have body's that are totally wow, and it doesn't matter much what you do for your pictures, you get attention. Get a tripod and use the automatic flash feature and set up an erotic picture. Make lots and then choose the best. Lucky you if your camera will flash every 15-30 seconds.

  • Cut out tags that can been seen in your see though g-string.

  • Clear clutter that will be inside the picture frame.

  • Go for some lifestyle pictures, sailing, on the beach, at a party, etc.

  • Do not do overkill of similar pictures. A picture series is great, but that series is probably better in 5 pictures then 20.

  • Do picture series, they can be so hot. Everyone has different tastes, but one of the hottest pictures series for me started with a sexy man, just neck to knees, showing a bulge in the pants. The next had him shirtless and pants open, bulge through the underware. Then a twist to the backside showing a wonderful ass. Then in just underware, cock head peeking through, then full nude, erect, and so ready for a good time. The front shots could have been superimposed on each other, as if each piece of clothing just magically disappeared between shots.

  • Don't bother with just penis head shots. They look amazingly similar and do little to distinguish you. You might want to add one, but a far better nudes include more of your body, and with some thought as to how to make them erotic. And just the penis head shots suggest to me that you're trying to hide your body.

  • Do work on making your body look better. Ever hear of the body for life program. Anyone can go from flab and fat to tight and toned in just 3 months. Update those pictures, don't just say, "I've lost 10 pounds and been working out, " the picture is worth a 1000 words.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
3/20/2006 7:37 am

Jeeze, I put lotsa thought into my pic, but it seems that I did not follow any of your suggestions.

sexyfit_helper replies on 3/20/2006 8:17 pm:
I know, I even said something about all that black in an email...

TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
3/20/2006 5:25 pm

I like this! Very well said and thought out.

sexyfit_helper replies on 3/20/2006 8:18 pm:
Thanks real

Toodela 59M
1745 posts
3/27/2006 4:29 am

Sexy, Thanks for the advice and a peek into a sexy (fit) woman's mind concerning pics


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sexyfit_helper replies on 3/30/2006 4:09 pm:

cairnsmale55 105M

3/30/2006 1:22 am

Invaluable advice and a blog that everyone should subscribe too... thanks for all your efforts and input...

sexyfit_helper replies on 3/30/2006 4:09 pm:
You are welcomed

rm_bluball40 50M

3/30/2006 5:42 pm

Well i guess I better hit the gym a little harder now. I am about a month behind.

thanks for the info Sexy. Maybe this will help spice up things.

sexyfit_helper replies on 4/1/2006 12:11 pm:
I should hit the gym as well

HotLatinFranco 37M
82 posts
4/10/2006 9:33 pm

well, i actually tried to do most of those things in my pics before reading this post. but it hasn't seemed to help me a whole lot? any further suggestions?

i guess i could always hit the gym harder or something, but i hate feeling like an overbuilt gym rat-that's why i've mostly given it up for lifestyle fitness which is more fun but doesn't get me as ripped as i used to be. to be continued...

sexyfit_helper replies on 4/11/2006 10:23 pm:
On this site men do the chasing .

Your pictures looked great so they won't be holding you back. Success is going to be on how you contact and connect with women.

meclion 40M
1 post
5/30/2006 7:13 am

salut,j'éspere que ça va tres bien chez vous,,et j'aimerais bien vous rejiondre,,,,,,,,

rainqueen04 55F
1340 posts
8/30/2006 12:16 pm

I like all your helpful advice...i feel like i am just getting the tip of the iceberg for blogs... ur advice is right on!!! ty!!!

sexyfit_helper replies on 9/16/2006 8:50 am:
Your welcomed

rm_renickh2006 33M
1 post
11/1/2006 11:50 am

email me

rm_athina1957 59F
744 posts
11/20/2006 2:47 pm

thank you for sharing all these...


Love Life!"

kibbytwo 65M
4 posts
12/8/2006 7:15 pm

This is a really well thought out piece of advise

ebie912 56F

5/27/2007 9:16 am

Just found your blog and this article. Great advice for everyone to follow as best they can. Especially the bit about pics where you look like an ant. But now i need to go and lighten some of mine up...

rm_Pamela1955 61F
371 posts
6/26/2007 6:47 pm

Excellent. Why didn't I find you sooner? They should have a section with links to all the blogs about blogging.

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