what i want.......is this so hard?  

sexydisaster30 41F
5527 posts
2/7/2006 10:13 am

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2/8/2007 2:31 pm

what i want.......is this so hard?

After almost 3 years in a relationship with "the one" who turned out not to be "the one" and then a year of serial dating I have figured out what I want.......
I want a man who:
-I don't have to worry if he is going to call the next day because their is a message on my phone before I even wake up.
-Is emotionally available..........all of the time.
-who open the doors and pulls out my chair who puts my coat on me who is a gentleman and treats me like a princess
-values my opinion
-thinks I am the most important thing in his life
-is taller than me
-listens when I talk
-will pull over on the side of the road when he is driving just to give me a kiss
-will send flowers and cards just because
-thinks 24 hours without seeing me is too much
-can touch me and bring me to my knees
-get along with my friends.....those bitches
-encourages me to be the best I can be
-has my best interest at heart
-will throw me down and make love to me or fuck me or just hold me
-can read me
-will love me for all of my imperfections
-will hold me when I cry
-laugh with me when I laugh
-will make me giggle
-make me think
-will stand up to me
-will hold my hand
-love me no matter what

I just realized while typing this that this list could go on for days. This is by no means the order of which these things are important........truth be known they are all as equally important.

Just some random thoughts..........


Vincent_Omnia 46M

2/9/2006 2:52 pm

No. It isn't hard to find. It's just hard to accept, I think.


rm_AtlBigStik 45M

2/20/2006 1:30 pm

No, it isn't hard to find. Maybe it is just hard to accept. ---Stik.

velvethandsNZ 68M

3/22/2006 5:31 pm

Oh dear, you have a LITTLE bit of a problem.

You see sweetie, what you want in a man takes a few years to accumulate, because:
1. You want his world to revolve around you. Nothing wrong with that - it's what Pricesses are for, but in order to do that he has to be PAST THE POINT of needing himself to be the centre of all worlds. So if we start with a 'man' of 18, we have to add at least 30 years to get past the point of being totally self centred and ready to put someone else at the centre of his life.

2. You want him to available when you need him. Nothing wrong with that either, but it means he has to have finished with a career and be able to pick and choose when he does what. Add another 5 years for that and you're about right.

3. You want him to pamper you with flowers, dinners and great entertainment. (These are for the main inbetween thr lines reading so I might be wrong here) Yet again nothing wrong. Infact, if he's got through point two this won't be a problem.

4. You want him to get along with your friends. A little harder this one, as a man who satisfies all the other things will be just what your friends are looking for too - so you have to be careful about letting your friends see him. Again, a more mature man will not have a problem here, he won't be looking for conquests, he'll be enjoying the way you show him off and by doing so feel good about yourself.

So what do you do?

Accept that you're going to have an April October relationship and think through the whole thing. Find someone about my age, (I'd offer myself but couldn't stand to live in the States again after living down here in god's own), and seduce hime first with your soul (eyes), then with your mind (which is clearly sharp as a razor) then with your charm and only then with your body. You'll probably find he wants to take a few days to learn your body before becoming part of it - but if you can't stand foreplay before the first course you shouldn't be in this quest.

Hopw it helps - it's the truth as I see it.

Good luck on your search

rm_glok147 40M
5 posts
5/7/2006 7:10 am

me..me...me...sounds so selfish.stop looking for what you can get,and ask yourself what you can give.its easy to wait for 'the one',some people waiste their whole life for that.much harder to see a person next to you,and treat them as you want to be treaten.remember we get what we give.good luck...

rm_bouke57 59M

2/8/2007 9:09 am

This may be way latecause I enjoy perusing old posts,but this is the first I have read this one,and it sounds like my marriage.And after 19 yrs ,she decided she just wanted to be alone.She moved into the house I had renovated looking forward to us moving into,took half the bank account and said I would get papers from her lawyer,having given me the silent treatment throughout 3 months while I patiently waited for her to get over one of her pouts,and then tried to get her to talk to me. And I see now that while I catered to her,to make sure she knew how much she meant to me,I became less a person myself.When she walked out the door,I was nothing.It`s taken me 2 yrs to get back on my feet emotionally.I think I`m at the point where I can truly say,what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger.And my point would be,we all have to be sure we don`t take more than we give. Bouke57

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