stranger sex  

sexydisaster30 41F
5527 posts
2/16/2006 7:25 am

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stranger sex

Why is it that having sex with a stranger usually ends up disappointing? I have done this twice in my life. I have met two men with the understanding that we were only going to have sex, to pleasure each other and most likely never see or hear from one another again and both times it has ended up slightly disappointing. That is not to say that I didn't get off. Hell you can breathe on me and I am likely to get off, but both times have been fast and short-lived. Both of these men said that I just "got them so worked up" that it was over quickly. What the hell does that mean? So worked up? Is it the notion that you are having sex with someone that you don't know what his or her last name (and come to think of it one didn't even know my first name) is? Or is it that they are so surprised by the fact that I even showed up that they can't hold an erection for more than 10 minutes? What is it? Does it take a relationship and feelings for someone to have satisfying sex?


caressmewell 53F

2/16/2006 8:04 am

I think that there has to be some sort of connection..even a friendship of sorts.


2/16/2006 3:24 pm

Not necessarily, but it helps to have something, even if just a friendship. The whole "worked up" thing does happen, but only the selfish ones bail, someone worth the effort and who would want another invite would make up for it, in more ways than one.

elbman 41M  
2566 posts
2/16/2006 4:51 pm

Hmmm...."Hell you can breathe on me and I am likely to get off," may have summed it up for the other party as well.......the difference being was the physical limitations they suffered as a result...

MrNuttz05 49M

2/16/2006 5:22 pm

The older that you get the more mental stimulation that you need. Yeah, sex with a stranger can be sort of dark & seedy, but if you knew what he liked & he knew what you liked, then maybe he could blow your mind as well... Just a thought...

rm_atlnya 51M

2/18/2006 11:36 pm

Here is what is missing-- if you intend it or not when you bring out the big guns and go all out sexually you make a emotional investment. When you leave cause it is only "casual sex" it hurts inside at some level. So if you are going to hit it and quit it, why bring out the big guns, feel the connection, and get hurt when you can Bust a quick nut, and leave and have less pain inside.

velvethandsNZ 68M

3/22/2006 5:53 pm

Different perspective
The guy had a 'get it wet or die' approach to life, and so wanted to fuck
You have a 'try it and see if it works for me' approach, but wanted to make love with a stranger.

Even if it's a one-time hit, YOU need to have enough time committed to the experience for it to build, and need (if you do it again) to get the guy to make that commitment too.
Meet first somewhere you can have a meal. It might be McDonalds or the best eatery in town, what matters is having to have a conversation in public and establish a mental connection at some level. THen maybe go to a movie (if you started at mid-day, you'll be out of the movie by 3 ish, there's still plenty of time.
Then go to THAT PLACE, it should be nutral and comfortable. DON't get into 'let's strip for the action' mode, either have a mutual 1-piece at a time session, or do a strip show for him while making him stay clothed - and take your time over it - this is not a quickie with a lover this is a one off to remember when your old and wrinkled. A little chocolate sauce here might be a good way to move forward to the main event, though personally I have a liking for Drambuie in a navel cup - if you know what I mean.

Good luck, make it fun and only tell your grandchildren about it if it's REALLY good

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