new sex partner.....new sex toys?  

sexydisaster30 41F
5527 posts
2/20/2006 9:18 am

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new sex partner.....new sex toys?

Ok, let me start by saying that I love sex toys. I mean REALLY love them. I have tried almost all of them. The rabbit, regular vibrators (small and large), anal beads, butt plugs, bullets, vibrating cock rings, cock rings (leather, plastic, and metal), vibrators with remotes that are worn when you are out and your partner has the control, just to name a few. I was fortunate enough to be in a relationship where I got to explore this side of my sexuality with someone. But here is the question, new sex partner new sex toys???
I was chatting with someone recently who told me that he had a collection of vibrators that he like to use on his partners. While I was happy to learn that he was into that and had some experience with them, the thought of him using a vibrator on me that had been used on another women did not sit well with me at all. While I understand that these toys and get expensive, I would prefer a toy that will be used on me and only me. I think that there is nothing sexier than being presented with a gift of a new sex toy by my lover. It does several things for me.

1- It tells me that he was thinking about me and went to the store with our pleasure in mind.
2- It tells me that he is willing to explore that side of my sexuality with me and is not intimated by it.
3- It is just hot to me thinking about my lover in a toy store with me on his mind.

That being said, some of the hottest dates I have had we ended up at the toy store buying “things” for later. HOT! HOT! HOT!

So here is my question to you men. Does is bother you if a woman pulls out a toy during sex that she may have used with another man? Is it a question of what the toy is? (I.e. if she pulls out a vibrator is that ok? What about a cock ring that another man has worn?) Or is that off limits?

And to the women, is it ok with you if your partner has toys that he has used with other women?


-Disaster


caressmewell 53F

2/20/2006 9:35 am

Nope, I want my own toys. I'll share my legos but not my sex toys.


muscles4u2have 55M
1642 posts
2/20/2006 9:42 am

Does is bother you if a woman pulls out a toy during sex that she may have used with another man? Yes, I would want new toys too!!

Is it a question of what the toy is? (I.e. if she pulls out a vibrator is that ok? Yes, If the vibrator was used on you only! Now a vibrating cock ring is another storie. You were going to use that vibrator on you? Right?

What about a cock ring that another man has worn?) Or is that off limits? Damn, allready answered this one earlier! Was think ahead for a change. Speaking of Head..... okay another time!!


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/50F
9753 posts
2/20/2006 10:19 am

I think you should get new sex toys if the toys are being used on the man but if they are for use on you then no new toys required

Purry {=}

Purry


watcheru369 51M

2/20/2006 10:30 am

new toys first if relationship is long lasting break out the old toys for new experiance


elbman 41M  
2566 posts
2/20/2006 3:59 pm

Not into hand me downs........It's almost like asking someone to dinner and bringing them a doggy bag from the night before.


JustaSeeker 106F

2/20/2006 5:14 pm

It's really interesting the attitudes that this post has uncovered. Hmmm. Monogamy, anyone? Otherwise it seems y'all are going to be footing a pretty big bill for electronic enhancement. The whole toy thing, whatever you two decide. But oils, lotions, lube- not negotiable. It's new or nothing.


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
2/20/2006 8:28 pm

I would want it to be about "us" and not from any previous relationship... I just bought you and I something tonight while at Inserction... Hope you like it! It was a sax shaped...


velvethandsNZ 68M

3/22/2006 6:07 pm

NEW - but yes, keep the old ones safe in the toybox.

If the two of you have something special only new will do as it ensures no one elso is part of what you do together; AND LETS FACE IT TOYS AS WELL AS TUNES HAVE MEMORIES ATTACHED TO THEM!

I would keep at least on ting from each past lover though, just for those moments when you're alone and memories help make using the toy alone less lonely.


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