my ghost appears  

sexydisaster30 41F
5527 posts
2/23/2006 10:57 pm

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my ghost appears

On Friday “He” called. (I will be referring to “him” from now on as the ghost. The ghost no longer deserves to be called “him” because he is so obviously not “HIM”. It was 10:30pm and I did not answer. I was busy with my piano man. The ghost left a message which is very unusual for him. When I checked the message it went something like this “Hey. This is “The Ghost”. I just wanted you to know that their has been a helicopter crash in Africa and it was my brothers unit. 10 people were involved and their were only 2 survivors. I am worried. Really worried.” (background: the ghost’s brother is in the marines) Of course I called him back. We talked for about 15 minutes while he told me all the information that he knew. I let him know that I was there for him if he needed me. I told him that I would take my phone to bed with me and to please call me as soon as he knew something. He promised that he would and thanked me for calling him back. I felt bad for him, but I didn’t go to him. This was a first. I had no desire to run to him in his time of need. I was sad for him, but glad for me.
Saturday morning comes and I have heard nothing.
All day Saturday I hear nothing.
Sunday comes and you guessed it, still nothing, so I call him. His mailbox on his phone was full so I texted him. It read, “I haven’t heard back from you. I am worried. Please let me know what is going on. My thoughts are with you and your family.”
Monday, still nothing.
I am really worried at this point.
Tuesday, still no word. While I was on my way to work I called him again. No answer, but this time I was able to leave a message. I said, “I am worried about you. You called me Friday and I have not heard from you since. Please call me and let me know what is going on. I will be at work from 5 until 9:30 so if you don’t want to actually talk to me that is fine, I will not be answering my phone during those hours. Pleas just let me know what is going on. I hope to hear from you soon.”
I thought that this would give him a way out to at least let me know what was going on if he regretted calling me and didn’t want to talk to me. He would at the very least let me know one way or the other what was going on right? Wrong. I got off work at 9:30 and I had no message from him.
At this point I was expecting the worst because this is how he handles bad stuff. He retreats. He hides. He doesn’t deal with it.
Yesterday my mom came in the salon to get her hair done. After some chitchat she asked me how I was and I told her the same story as above. She seemed as puzzled as I was that he didn’t call me back. Her husband had driven her to the salon and had stepped outside to take a phone call and had missed this conversation. He is ex-military so I figured that he might know how I can find out if in fact the ghost’s brother had died or if he was safe.
So I asked him, “How do I find out if someone I know died on that helicopter crash in Africa?”
His response was “Well, I would just ask the ghost if you want to know how his brother is.”
He saw the puzzled look on my face and continued with “He is fine. They had just switched out shifts and his brother was not affected. He is feeling guilty that his friends have died and it was not him, but he is alive.”
Ok so I was happy about that, but WTF??? How did he know that? This is my mother’s husband. So I asked, “How do you know that?”
His response “We talk by email about once or twice a week.” Like it was no big deal. We have been split up officially for a year!!! A fucking year and this was the first I had heard of that.
Needless to say I am shocked. I had no idea that they talked.

So, I am pissed on so many levels.
1- Why did the fucker call if he wasn’t going to keep me updated?
2- Why the fuck is my mother’s husband still in contact with the man that has ripped my heart out?
3- I mean what the fuck this is just wrong.

What the hell am I supposed to do about this???


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
2/24/2006 12:18 am

maybe he likes having the power to suck you into his dramas and wind you up and then drop you...??

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jadedbabe78 105F

2/24/2006 4:39 am

It is wrong and I wouldn't sink to his level. Rise above it. It's probably a power and control type struggle and don't let him get you to play it.

I would also let your mother's husband know how you feel about him still talking with the man. That is fucked up.

ohsodelicious 57F
1922 posts
2/24/2006 5:02 am

God, I can empathize with you...must be a difficult situation.

Best Wishes...OhSo{=}

caressmewell 53F

2/24/2006 6:44 am

Maybe you should ask your mothers husband why he would continue to converse with this asshole after all the history.

jadedbabe78 105F

2/25/2006 6:45 am

My suggestion would be to first write down your thoughts. Write down what you think you want to say to him. Constructing your thoughts in the written word first will help put into perspective how your feeling and how you come across.

When you do get something you're satisfied with, have two non-partial people read it. That way, you can get an opinion on how it sounds before you talk to your mother's husband.

Hope that helps.


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