Unhappy blog  

sexloverocknroll 57M
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5/21/2006 6:00 am

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6/6/2006 11:11 am

Unhappy blog


On Monday, May 15th, my sister’s live-in boyfriend beat her severely. She was taken by helicopter to a Denver hospital for sever head trauma. This guy is about 6’4” and over 300 pounds, but he is not fat. My sister is 5’1” and 100 pounds soaking wet. One of his arms is twice my sister’s size. This guy spent 26 years in prison, lifting weights. He killed a woman in the parking lot of a bar with a knife. He got off on a technicality, but got put back in for beating his wife nearly to death a few years latter. My sister is lucky to be alive. Or is she? She has a blood clot in her frontal lobe. This will significantly effect her cognitive reasoning, her personality, her short and long term memory. I have several clients with brain injuries, so I know what to expect when she comes home today. The doctors think the clot will dissipate and she will have a full recovery. However, it may not and in either case, she will never be herself again. Permanently disabled or not, she will never be ’right’ again.

To add insult to injury, the guy “walked.” Wednesday morning, he plead guilty to domestic violence and was convicted of simply battery. He received a 90 day sentence of which 85 days were suspended and a $130 fine. We were all outraged! Think our system works? Think again people! Justice is only the acceptation to the rule.

In our small city of 55,000 people, we have ONE police officer who handles ALL of our domestic violence cases. Busy person I am sure, but it just so happens that their day off was Monday, so no one followed through on this. While my sister was holding on for her life, because she was nearly dead, this scum bag gets a pat on the back. The officers who came to her response initially did not think the injuries were bad enough. She went to the ER here with big patches of her hair ripped out, her throat swollen shut from being chocked with her unable to talk and her head bleeding for blunt force trauma. Not to mention all of the blood and her blackened eyes that were nearly closed shut. The judged did not have any information about the case and therefore let him go.

Wednesday was a long day of fielding phone calls and calming myself and other’s, relaying the story over and over while trying to work and take care of my sister’s life. Everyone was in Denver and I was here trying to get things done. One of which was getting her stuff out of her house so this guy would not pawn it. Victims Advocacy and our Safe House could do nothing until my sister could fill out a formal complaint and appear in court. She was unconscious for crying out loud! This guy has a legal right to go visit her in her hospital room! Finally, I got a number for a detective who was for some unknown reason as yet assigned to investigating this. Because of a law known as “double jeopardy” it appears as though sickie wife beater is going to live free on yet another technicality. The law’s are set-up to protect the criminals while the victims get to suffer. Latter on that day, things took a turn for the better.

Our little version of CSI wanted to investigate the scene. After over 4 hours of waiting at my sister’s place (something you do not see on TV), the detective told me they were had an angle to get around double jeopardy. They would consider the initially punch the simple battery but the rest as assault. Since this guy threaten to kill my sister at a bar in front of 3 other witnesses, all co-workers of my sister’s and threaten to kill them as well, plus, told her while choking her he was going to kill her and her dog, we wanted attempted murder. With the “Three Strike” law, he should never be free again, right? Any lawyer could get him out of this, but they arrested him Friday. The DA, the judge, and this detective had a meeting and decided the charges would stick. They picked him up late Friday afternoon. This guys answer when arrested? “She did it to herself.” We have no faith that he will get any more time.

We spent the day yesterday moving my sister out of that place and putting her stuff in storage. She will need constant supervision for an unknown at this point time. The clot could dissipate in a few days or weeks or months or years or not at all. They may have to operate to remove it.

No way do I want to recount all of my emotions over the past week. Sorry. I am just numb right now, numb enough to write. More latter.

rm_Bct2Esi 50M/50F
1375 posts
5/29/2006 7:51 am

I lost faith in our Justice system YEARS ago when they wrongly convicted my little brother of something that HE did not DO. MY ex-brother n law did it, and he repeated the offense and once again walked away with a slap on the hand

I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Maybe, just maybe the system will work and this scum will get what he richly desesrves. Just remember, Karma is like a boomarang. It will one day come back to kick his sorry hiney Just be thankfull, it is HE who has to stand in front of our maker and explain why he was the way he was down here.

Hugs, smooches, and smiles


sexloverocknroll replies on 5/29/2006 2:46 pm:
Thank you! I agree with you about Karma and having to face God.

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
6/6/2006 9:26 am

And this guy is walking the streets? Down here he wouldn't be. We still remember how to deal with those types, and it doesn't invlove lawyers or cops (worthless anyway). Maybe a Louisville slugger, a piece of rebar.

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."


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