its funny this..  

seductiveinblack 32F
158 posts
7/31/2005 7:25 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

its funny this..

Ive been reflecting.. for the past day. lol and Ive known this all my life but i have been surrounded with friends, ... guy friends more so than girl friends. I mean i have really really close girl friends and weve been through thick and thin - you know girls stealing bfs, doing whatever with them etc, ive never been in that situation though ive been on onloooker.
I never really got on with girls that much, probably has something to do witth he fact i dont dress all that girl and i am a hugge tomboy. My mom used to dress me in frilly little dresses, big bows, lace.. i looked like i was a flower girl at a wedding every day! so i think thats where the trauma kicks in. to this day i hate skirts! i dont wear it unless i am made to. I am always in my worn out jeans, rugged, broken into.. and a boy basher top, tank top or a tshirt with weird stuff written on them (that i make -> cause i need to be different from ppl!)
anyway as much as i had so many guy friends, ive always been the one to just fuck around with -- not literally. like i was a best friend to so many guys lol it was weird cause they never ever saw me as a girl, potential GF or anything cause i was never really that.. feminine. Like I always say, I was always and forever will be a BETTY than a VERONICA. Sometimes wish that i was a veronica cause man she was so HOTT, but Betty sounds pretty cosy cause you always have that secure position in being a friend rather than a gf --- then things turn out shit in the end.
what ever happened in the serious, if anyone knows fill me in,
so i guess im not complaining today - for once! but its weird im the biggest tomboy, and the best girl friend a guy can have but i make an appauling GF!!! lol oh well.

jimmy_j_76 40M
94 posts
7/31/2005 8:15 am

ever notice that they sometimes call her 'ronnie'?. for me, a tru g/f is someone you can relax with and just hang out with. i personally love tomboys, i hope that's not a bad sign on my part or something, and would find myself in heaven if i found one as cute as you around here. if you're looking for something more from your friends, you shouldn't be afraid to do something about it. talk a little about it or drop small hints like wearing perfume.

mygmyg 59M

7/31/2005 9:23 am

Seductive in Black, A lady as yourself that is welcomed to the "guys" world of friendship, as you have, is held in special and high regard by her boyfriends. You have a special perspective in our relationships, and your acceptance does not bar you from being attractive to the guys.
Their attraction to you will hit some like a ton of bricks or for some will slowly seep into their minds. It will happen, This happens at different speeds for males. Thier respect for you may slow their advances toward you, as a girlfriend. But this a wonderful relationship when it occurs. some of your guys are holding their feelings in check, not sure of how to handle approaching you, perhaps unsure of how you would feel about an amorous advance.

Be aware these feelings may be there, and look for signals, in what is said, the way they look at you. You may be holding yourself outside their advances by just not recognizing their sly, meek advances. Not to worry about lost chances, time will offer them to you, we, males , are nothing if not persistent.

Sometimes it is just a lingering look, or a brushing of hands, it will come to you, Seductive.

Veronica was very sexy, but she was also somewhat unattainable, and could a guy really trust her?

But Betty, just as attractive, and so much more alluring, because you could trust her,... and her heart!!

476 posts
7/31/2005 9:39 am

You're the friend because the guys know you too well. Nothing kills sexual attraction like familliarity (at least for most guys). Usually if a guy is going to make a move it's pretty early in the relationship, cause he wants to conquer, conquest of new tereitory and all that stuff. Once he gets to know you, knows the lay of the land so to speak, he probably isn't as attracted cause there isn't much exploring to do.

Girls on the otherhand seem to want the friendship first, so they put guys off thinking that once they get to be friends the sex will be better and the relationship will last longer. Usually isn't and doesn't.

So the real trick for a girl is to keep the guy at a distance long enough to feel like you know him well enough to sleep with him and then keep him at arms length afterward. As long as you are a little inaccessible he will want to conquer you again. If you ever let him get chummie the whole deal is off.

Just my 2 cents.

TheDodger8 45M

7/31/2005 9:48 am

Tomboys are great. I remember a tomboy I used to hang out day she had to be all girlie for an event we were going to... and OMG! she was so beautiful. It was hard to see her as the same person after finding myself so attracted to her.... heh.. I will never forget that day.

jonny191 37M

7/31/2005 6:10 pm

LOL Seduc guess that makes it a deftones and anti-flag day. Plus the wave off is a go. See ya around lady

rm_Reed_101 37M
9 posts
7/31/2005 6:20 pm

He he Silly Seduc it was nice chating with you last night. By the way that offer we talked about its open if you want to collect. other than that the wave off is a go. See ya around chickey

cuddleboy69 49M

8/1/2005 10:44 am

I totally agree with jimmy and myg. Familiarity makes sexual attration stronger. It's true it can be fun and exciting to have sex with someone who you don't know, but having sex with someone you are friends with and emotionally close to is way more intense.

Just be patient, you are totally hot so I'm sure many guys want you.
Maybe the problem is you are TOO hot, so you don't know when a guy is interested in you. The point is that probably many guys want to fuck you, and sometimes those are the guys who are more aggressively offering and showing interest in you. Maybe guys more interested in your personality might be a bit more slow and subtle in showing their interest. Anyway ... be patient with yourself.

Why do you think you wouldn't make a good GF? Actually I have been with women who were awesome as friends, but not very good as GF's. Usually this was because they are open, open minded is great for a friend since they are good to talk to, however they were ... shall we say ... open legged too ... and there were always other guys lurking around. That kind of thing can make for intensity in the short term, but in the end is always destructive. I don't think this is what you are talking about.

6pkgmn9 67M  
238 posts
8/3/2005 12:24 am

Better watch out or one day those guys are going to wake-up to the "real" you and then... and probably good that you have so many guy friends as they can help you with any "men" problems know the real PESTS..but, make sure that they are not being protective without you asking needing as they might be keeping away someone that might be interested in a good way about you
BTW..great shot of the kitty and YOU
Hope you both are doing well

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