Married Men/Women  

secretgarden04 51F
58 posts
6/30/2005 2:28 pm

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Married Men/Women

I got to thinking today about all the married people I find who are unfaithful; having affairs. The number is astronomical when I think that I really don't know a lot of people but of those I know, so many are stepping out. Most don't want to hurt the spouse but are looking for something they can't get at home. One guy who's a lot older than me told me he has affairs because his wife is from the old school and does not believe in oral and he so wants it and all the time. Tell me, if you are or were married what would make have an affair and would there ever be a situation that would actually make you leave your spouse? Just something that makes me say, HMMMMM???

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
6/30/2005 4:12 pm

I agree but you find those who are doing it a great majority aren't all that hard up they are only trying to rationalise their behaviour to themselves, when they are actually doing it because they can. the vast majority would never leave their partner for another if that's what your referring too....

they actually avoid anyone who would even try to motivate them to do so...


rm_BWise2003 61M
1 post
6/30/2005 4:24 pm

I can't speak for anyone else, but here's my situation: My wife simply does not like sex anymore. Maybe it's menopause, or her high-stress job, or just a general malaise; nevertheless, it's not in the cards these days. I've tried it all: romantic getaways, TLC, making pathetic whimpering noises...I love my wife, but I'm not ready for a life of celebacy. I'm not a horn-dog, just a guy who has the same 'needs' as nearly every other adult. So, what's to do? Find others in the same situation and commiserate. I would never leave my wife for another woman. I don't want to hurt her, either. So, out of sight...

Hmmmmm? Yet?


6/30/2005 5:58 pm

I am married, Men are mostly liars about their sexaulity and their relationships primarily because of biology. I know it isn't PC to say that but if you are honest you will notice that it is husbands more than wifes who are constantly looking for new casual sexual contacts. Sex really is different for men. For men sex is like food, when you are hungry you crave it and while you might prefer a home cooked meal over Mc Donalds you are going to eat whatever is available or suffer intense pangs of hunger. These pangs have nothing to do with emotions or feelings, just plain hunger (though they may come into it later). Sometimes the home cooking just gets too borring and you want something different or the occasional candy. To most men that is all there is to it. We really are that simple. Do you think about how the burger you are about to eat feels? Commitment? To a hamburger? Why are so many men liars about it? Imagine that you are really really hungry and you go into Mc Donalds and instead of asking you for money you were told that you had to convince the server to hand it over for free. Honestly most women expect an emotional payment for their cooperation. So what is a hungry man going to do? Of course there are women who also have intense sex drives and are happy to engage in casual sex but they don't have to lie about their motives to get partners. Most men do.

OculiPlunkSocks 49M
1 post
7/1/2005 9:13 pm

as a married man are we just suppose to give up half & more just to satisfy our selfish needs & what about the kids every other weekend is not enough, so we stay & cheat (BWise 2003 & Akadafa have a prity good idea of why)

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