To Go Or NOT To Go??  

scottydub 42M
23 posts
4/3/2006 11:17 pm

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9/4/2006 9:15 pm

To Go Or NOT To Go??

So I'm going to one of my ex-girlfriends' wedding in a few months. We didn't date long and have been good friends since. I have no feelings of envy or anger about her getting married and I've never met her future groom. I get a call a week ago. She tells me with regret that her fiance has decided that none of her ex-boyfriends are allowed to come to the reception, but they are welcome to come to the ceremony. "How many of us are there?", I ask. About 3 pews worth, she said jokingly. Turns out I'm the only one, and he has no ex-girlfriends that he's planning to invite. I COMPLETELY understand his point of view. He said and SHE quoted: "It would just be weird to have a guy at my reception that had his dick in my wife.....". Talk about getting to the point. My question is, if i'm not invited to the reception am I REALLY welcome at the ceremony? Should I make an appearance or just skip the whole thing and put her future husband completely at ease?

49AK 55M
1823 posts
4/4/2006 12:16 am

I'd skip it, personally, but I am not much for weddings. What do you think SHE wants? I don't think his position is really very defensible...

rm_rareview 40F
568 posts
4/4/2006 12:59 am

hey dude
just turn the page and wish them a happy life together.
She is history and do not look back .....


luv2lickher2472 36F

4/4/2006 9:08 am

Although the chances of hooking up with some hottie are very good @ a wedding I think I would skip it my self, if this future husband isn't secure enough or confident enough to be face to face with his brides X why push the issue besides, the ceromony isn't the fun part its the after party!
as attractive as you are its probabbly better you don't let her X see you he may become even more jealous.

down2earthlife 46M
1 post
4/4/2006 5:59 pm

no way man, let it go.every one would feel akward and u'd stand there like the understanding and well wishing second choice. wish them well, understand his position a stay first choice to your self.
if her husband to be would have had no problem with it, then it would be a totally different story. you could have charmed your way into everyone's life and enjoy the moment.

RandyMandy85 30F

4/9/2006 2:01 am

Does he know you dated? I think that if you and her are able to be friends after sex then you obviously have a mature relationship. You shouldn't miss out on a special moment of a friends life. If they have agreed that you can go to the ceremony, why not? He future husband will be too focused on himself and his partner on the day to worry about the fact that someone watching the vowels may have alread slept with her.

Lovin_U_4_Fun 54F

4/11/2006 8:53 am

I say, wish them both well, but don't go. If you send a gift, make sure that it is obviously for both of them. She'll only appreciate you more if you do what you can to make him feel more comfortable with you.

BTW, saw your pics... love the blue nose.

funsfriend 44F

5/17/2006 3:00 pm

Hey You....

Well, I think you know where I stand on all of this but I just want to add one more thought... Why do you really want to go? Maybe you should evaluate that first before you make that decision. Why do you want to go and make a presence at your "friends" amazing and special day. Is it for her, to support her? I don't think so.... If you need some distraction on that weekend to get over it, call me and I would gladly be an amazing distraction for you!

Openplate 58F

5/28/2006 5:47 am

I would ditch the whole affair-go have a drink!! No wonder she's an ex,she's a nut!

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