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The virtues of Porn -- by her
The virtues of Porn -- by her
So I love porn. I mean I just fucking love it (ahhh I'm so pun-ny)! I have respect for those in the industry and have a few friends who partake in various forms. I am pro-sex and that includes sex workers. I don't see anything wrong with porn and while not all porn is my cup of tea, I do think there is a place for it in a person's sex life.
I don't like what I call "plastic porn" but to each their own. I personally like gonzo porn... you know the stuff that is much more real with a nice added big of sex and violence (the S&M kind) mixed together that is supposed to be illegal. Yeah that my go porn of choice. However, I don't really care what you get off to, but I do care that you are getting off learning something new.
That is the great thing about pornography, you can learn something. There are positions, versions, kinks, people, and tons of fetishes all out there just waiting to be viewed. I am often inspired by the porn I watch. I learned about the a metal anal hook that is deliciously cruel. I also learned about a nice little trance technique of making me count down before I have an orgasm or even am allowed to pull away when I'm gagging on cock. Now it isn't that I could not have come up with these ideas myself, but in truth I live a busy life. I talk about sex, think about sex, and hear about sex all day. However, I don't get to necessarily sit around thinking of new ideas to try in the bedroom, actually that is my partner's job. He is the top after all! (big smile)
So porn is a handy way to see some typically very nice looking people get excited, try all sorts of things, and enjoy themselves. Over the years my taste in porn has changed in large part because of the ink-er-net. I mean really, we can find just about anything these days and I think that is excellent. Don't give me lip about "the children" yeah yeah, whatever. Be a good parent and monitor them. And don't try to tell me that porn is a slippery slope to abuse or killing or whatever else. The people that are going that direction have a predisposition often based on a familial pattern of abuse. And the line about how it is misogynistic, patriarchal, and exploitive, well it just doesn't work either. I know too many people in the industry and women hold the power in porn. It is just the way it is. The rules and regulations are in place and things have changed. Jenna Jameson made sure that things changed for females. Girl power and all that jazz.
This means that overall I don't see porn as a negative thing. There are types of porn that do nothing for me, types that gross me out, and some select types that I can orgasm from watching. But overall, porn is a way to learn about what else is going on in the world, what turns others on, and what everyone is up to. It is a teaching tool for me and for others. You don't have to watch porn with your partner/s, but it might be a good thing. I find that watching porn with my partner brings up discussions, questions, and usually turns both of us on. Watch porn on your own if seeing it with another is too weird, but here is what I encourage you to do:
watch some version of pornography that you have never seen before.... watch something that you would think you wouldn't be interested in, watch something that turns you off, watch something that makes you twitch, whatever it is... learn something new about sexuality, yourself, and other people. I assure you that the more open you are to viewing different forms of sexuality the more you will be able to explore what turns you on.
Trust me on this one. I'm a sex therapist!
8/30/2006 6:03 pm
I have only one porn movie, so I don't get the variety that you get.
But I've learned a few tricks from it.
Porn that grosses me out includes anal, bondage, violence n abuse.
And I don't like the Billy Graham wannabes, preaching about "sex is dirty", "ya gotta be married to have sex". BS! Who do they think invented sex in the first place !
Wear your sheer bikini to church next Sunday.
8/31/2006 1:06 am
Thank you, for the kind reply. I'm curious what is the porn that you do have? What do you feel you have learned from it?|