rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
139 posts
3/3/2006 11:23 am

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I was a young woman when I read a magazine article or short story about an American in Italy just whiling her time away, going shopping, taking long lunches, drinking wine. Apparently she had shed her American Puritanical ways and come to the realization that taking vast pleasure in everyday life was not a sin. I can't remember anything more about the story, just this one idea. I thought, God, you mean I don't have to neglect my family beating my head against the wall to make as much money as possible (my Dad) or saving the world single-handedly (my Mom)?? I could just kick back,enjoy my time on the planet, and be HAPPY?
It's hedonism to me. Enjoying it all. Food, wine, sex, but also the changing of the seasons, my wonderful grown children, doing my job well.
Better than drinking body shots at Hedo for a week a year. Better than pursuing the swinging lifestyle to the point you can't remember who all you screwed. Maybe even better than following the sun in a boat a la Jimmy Buffett (well the jury's still out on that one). What's it mean to you?????
Just asking


Elvira_Madigan 47F
10 posts
3/3/2006 12:17 pm

I do believe you've got it right. The magazine article you mentioned brought to mind a great movie about abandoning puritanical ways...Babette's Feast...worth watching.

redmustang91 57M  
8568 posts
3/3/2006 1:43 pm

I recall a book title from Freud, "Beyond the Pleasure Principle" My response was why go beyond it? Most don't seem to have that much pleasure... I say how come?

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
3/3/2006 2:35 pm

Sounds good to me!

Purry {=}


rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
3/3/2006 3:01 pm

Thats a good point and one I havent thought of before.

mailmantrouser2 53M
534 posts
3/3/2006 3:01 pm

Indeed, Babette's Feast, total hedonism, devotion to food - without any sex, just one chaste kiss. Food, wine, sex, changing of the seasons - all wonderful, especially as you have responsibly raised your children. Just so nobody else gets hurt . . .

rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/4/2006 6:11 am

thanks for visiting Purry

rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/4/2006 6:17 am

It's my mission, mz Huny. Thanks for visiting... it's an honor!!


rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/4/2006 6:23 am

yes I agree, most people don't get a lot of pleasure out of life...sad. I think it's sometimes in one's attitude, although not all the time for sure. Some get dealt a crappy hand.
I am curious about Freud's book. maybe I can read a synopysis of it somewhere...doubt I'll read the whole book!!
Thanks for stopping by


rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/4/2006 6:26 am

Mailman, I can see I'm going to have to rent Babette's Feast. The food theme reminds me of another movie, Under the Tuscan Sun. She cooked up a storm. It is a pleasure to cook especially during the winter, pair with the perfect wine, mmmmm, pure pleasure.
Thanks for visiting!!


rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/4/2006 6:27 am

Thanks so much for visiting, saint!


velvet_tongue_4u 70M

3/4/2006 1:16 pm

More and more, I question the values of this country which I served ,and dearly love . For some reasom, violence is more acceptable then sex . Is the the Inquistion to be reinvented ?
Better stop now, before I go off on a tangent with political crap .
Time to change gears ,and get back into a sexual mindset .Sex is much more pleasant .

TzarsAmuseChant 41M
2854 posts
3/5/2006 7:26 pm

I want a 35 foot sail boat on the Caribean Sea, with a laptop, a satelite uplink, and my wonderful girlfriend. Until then, I'll continue to take pleasures in the little things.

_CoffeeNoCream_ 52F

3/6/2006 12:10 am

I am all for ... Enjoy life in every way.

Liefs C

rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/6/2006 6:20 am

Citizen, thanks for stopping by. Your wish for the sailboat in the Carribean sounds pretty much like our own. Maybe someday we'll meet you two in some sunny island port.
Til then...cheers!!


rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/6/2006 6:21 am

thanks for visiting, Coffee. I enjoy your blog


kyplowboy22 61M

3/6/2006 9:24 pm

Very nice lil blog you have here, think I'll visit again if you don't mind. Later


rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
3/11/2006 6:08 am

a belated thank you


rm_feelsgood53 65M

3/22/2006 11:40 am

Babette's Feast - truly one of my favorites. To enjoy life at every turn - fully. It is a tonic that once discovered never leaves. For this I am grateful.
Life is what happens while you are waiting for it to happen - make the most of it.

rm_openup53 65M

5/19/2006 5:46 am

We're funny creatures who are verrrry complex. We have many sides that need nourishment. We work hard, love as best we can and hopefully spend as much time learning about life as possible. We definately need the nourishment hedonism gives our soul without (like you say) giving our lives over to it. No need for guilt. Indulge, share and enjoy. Be renewed and be alive! We're all better for it.

rm_sailorcouple 63M/62F
304 posts
5/19/2006 1:00 pm

Openup, thanks for the very nice comment. You are actually closer to us than you know (mysterious I know). What do you do with your time?
Maybe when summer's done I'll blog again...too nice now

rm_openup53 65M

5/25/2006 4:22 am

I love being passive (music and reading) and active (hiking/walking, kayaking, socializing). I love meeting people. I have moved down from the northern Finger Lakes and can use some guidance and insight. I love sharing time with smart, fun people and would love to spend time shooting the breeze and picking that impressive mind of yours. I also work hard, so maybe that makes play time all that more precious.

rm_dosrev 38M
2091 posts
8/13/2006 8:37 pm

Do you visit the local nudist resorts by chance? I just went for the first time this weekend (wrote a review on my blog) and found it sinfully delightfull. A little slice of heaven in the woods.

"Enough of this palaver, lets get the show on the road!"
"The best thing about a day like that is that it can't get any worse. It was a bad day AND a Monday. The rest of the week has to be better." - Hotandsteamygirl

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