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Sex with the ex
Sex with the ex
Is there ever a good side to hooking up with an ex-girlfriend (or boyfriend) for mind blowing, earth rocking, toe curling, bed breaking, clothes ripping off, hot, sweaty, nasty, raw sex?
I mean, besides the fact that the sex redefines my understanding of the word satisfaction.
I know on a basic level of right and wrong that no good can come of it, especially since I cannot stand just about everything about this woman except for the sex. Lying here, out of breath, smiling from ear to ear, whole body tingling, it is hard to see. Speaking of hard, it's hard again so here I go again...
8/26/2005 4:18 pm
Nothing wrong with it, if you're on good terms with your ex, and she knows you're hooking up just for sex. The good side is she is someone who you've slept with before, hence you're probably more comfortable and can trust her more. And "right and wrong" have nothing to do with sex; unless you call her up every couple of months professing your love for her just to get laid.|
I live with my ex. We have seperate bedrooms, are still friends, are not seeing/sleeping with any other people, she knows I'm not in love with her and can't win me back through sex. We have good communication, mind each others space, and occasionally have mind blowing, earth rocking, toe curling, bed breaking, clothes ripping off, hot, sweaty, nasty, raw sex. Perfect situation in my opinion.
8/27/2005 9:01 am
Depends on the ex, the circumstances surrounding the breakup, and where your head's at. Yeah, that head too ru. |
I was married 18 years, and the ex and I have never had sex since the day I moved out over 7 years ago. We are still good friends, we live in the same town, and we see each other a lot for kid events and such, bump into each other at parties and restaurants and nights out. Friends WITHOUT benefits, no 69. : ( ( There is still a lot of love and respect there, and we will love each other till the days we die. And damn, she still looks hot! When I see her these days Mr. Happy jumps up. I'd do her in a second if she wanted to, but she's not comfortable with it emotionally, so it ain't gonna happen. I respect that choice and never bring it up (pun intended), but she sees me looking and thinks about it I'm sure. I can see it in her eyes..
Not long after my ex and I split, I had a monogamous relationship with someone for 3 years. A few months after we split, she calls me:
Her: “Hi, it’s me, how ya doing?”
Me: “Oh hi, great thanks. How you been?” ‒In my mind I’m thinking, what he hell does SHE want? Thought this was done! But she sounds good, emotionally happy, not psycho like when we split. : )
Her: “Good thanks. Okay I’m gonna say something. Don’t interrupt, just listen.”
I interrupt: “Okay.”
Her: “Okay, it’s like this. I’m pretty much over you, I want to remain friends, there’s no reason for any more of the bullshit.” (biting my tongue, not interrupting). “I’ve been dating and there’s not anything out there I like, and I’m not gonna have sex with someone I don’t like just to have sex. So.. I wanna ask you something. Would you like to get together and have sex with me? NO I’m not doing this to try to get back together. I just want some awesome, mind-blowing sex, like we used to have. It doesn’t mean anything, I’m not manipulating…” And so forth. I wait till she’s done.
Me: “Hell yeah!” LOL. She knows me too well. We men are simple characters, aren’t we?
She came over the next night. We had some wine, a smoke, talked, just like old times, and fucked each others’ brains out all night and the next morning. AND she shaved her pussy, which I love, which she would never do when we were together. It happened a couple more times, but she wasn’t manipulating at all. She just wanted sex. It’s been a few years since, and it hasn’t happened again. We don’t talk much these days, and my guess is she’s found someone and is happy. I hope so.
Moral of the story: There IS a God!! Oh I mean.. I don’t have a black and white rule about this. It depends. And it’s all good.
Thanks ru for yet another great topic.