Give or Receive  

ruready4adark1 56M
143 posts
8/27/2005 4:16 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Give or Receive

If you could do only one thing for the rest of your life, either Give or Receive sexual pleasure, which would you choose?

Oh sure, I know we all receive pleasure in giving because sex can‘t be entirely passive unless you use a good rope. I’m taking about the difference between being a passive (or not so) receiver from one or more, or being the one who leads and gives.

The line between the two is blurry at best, so it’s hard to make the distinctions…

As a giver, the one who leads, I give and I take (and I do) so in a sense I am giving and receiving. If my primary function is to be the giver I may not create all the pleasure but I orchestrate its creation. Something like that.

As a receiver, the one who follows, I also give and take (and I do) so in this role I am also giving and receiving. If my primary function is to be the receiver, while I may create some of the pleasure, I am being lead toward its creation. Does that make sense?

Back in March 2005 I approached a similar subject (oral sex) in my AdultFriendFinder interest group GR Area Oral Lovers and received a few mixed responses. Looking at my own answer back then I have discovered time has changed my thinking and my answer. Back then, I wanted to be the receiver. I wanted to lay back and let the ladies pour themselves over me.

If I had to choose now, after giving this a second thought, I would choose to be the Giver. No question. Why you ask? (go ahead, ask) As I alluded to above, as the giver I am not only giving I am receiving.

It works like this… a long night of foreplay spans dinner, dessert, cocktails, and teasing on the couch as I whisper my deliciously dirty thoughts in her ear and slowly kiss my way around her neck and shoulders. Fast forward to later in the evening when at long last I slide my hard cock inside my lover, say, shortblond (for example) and I give her pleasure. I continue my passionate lovemaking, shortblond’s pussy getting hotter and tighter around my cock as I move (with passion) in and out and in and out and in and out and in and out and in and out and (12 seconds later) I cum (sorry baby) and I have both given and received pleasure the whole time. To give is to receive.

Was it good for you, shortblond?

If you could do only one thing for the rest of your life, either Give or Receive sexual pleasure, which would you choose? Why?


rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
8/27/2005 7:26 pm

ru, you cheeky devil.
Of course I would be the giver, for the same obvious reasons you chose...and hopefully I would manage to pair myself with someone who was greedy...very very greedy.


ruready4adark1 56M

8/28/2005 9:27 pm

Of course I was kidding about the 12 seconds which wouldn't even be enough time to take off all your clothes. Some things you just can't rush.

Seriously though, I've never had a sexual encounter where I assumed only one role unless those ropes really were involved. Sometimes you give, sometimes you get. It is a tough choice to make but I think the giver gets the better of the two. As sj365 said, it helps if you have a very very VERY greedy partner who wants it all.


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/30/2005 4:10 am

Damn ru, now I gotta go take a cold shower.. It was good for me too!

Before I answer this, I have to ask: is this just one on one? Or can I give/receive from the Broncos cheerleading squad? Big difference..


ruready4adark1 56M

8/30/2005 7:59 pm

BF, if the Broncos cheerleading squad is willing to take all you've got, I say be the giver and give often. Oh, but forget about the 2 minute offense. Go long! Go deep!


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