Feeling sexy? Try this...  

ruready4adark1 56M
143 posts
8/23/2005 8:34 am

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Feeling sexy? Try this...

What makes you feel sexy?

This should be a simple question to answer, but the longer I thought about it the harder it was to pin point a particular time feeling sexy. Strange, h-uh?! I gave it some time to stew in my mind before I finally let it go overnight because I just could not come up with an answer.

Bright and early this morning I woke up with an answer. Not the answer I expected, but an answer. The reason I wasn’t coming up with an answer before was that I was thinking about feeling sexy in a sexual context. I don’t know if it’s normal (I don’t usually give much conscious thought to this) but I can’t come up with a particular time when I felt sexy in a sexual context.

So, what makes me feel sexy? It is a combination of clothing and attitude. When I am dressed a certain way, sometimes just my favorite jeans hang just the right way (usually the second day) and sometimes I’m wearing my best, I can look myself in the mirror and feel sexy. I have to be in a certain mindset to feel it. It could be I just finished working out and I feel pumped and full of energy, or I‘ve just amazed myself with something I’ve done. I can wear the same thing another day and not feel it. I can do the same things another day and not feel it.

I know feeling sexy comes from inside but I have a feeling many people will credit external sources like lingerie, or compliments, etc. I personally cannot think of a time when I felt sexy from things people say or do. If I’m not feeling it within me, it doesn’t matter what someone else says.

Feeling sexy? Try this… think about what makes you feel sexy? Give this some serious thought. Is the first thing you think of really the source of this feeling, or is there another source and your first answer becomes the RESULT of feeling this way?

Think about it.


rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
8/24/2005 7:41 am

I love this post. Sexy is a state of mind.
When do I feel sexiest? Being a social creature, I frequently find myself with groups of people, be it business or social gatherings. I'm quite comfortable speaking publicly or otherwise being the 'center of attention' in these cases. When I am "on"? When I know I'm being funny, brilliant, or otherwise entertaining? hen I realize I have them in the palm of my hand? BLAM! Instant sexy.


rm_mustluvplus2 57F

8/24/2005 2:06 pm

I have to agree with SJ....sexy is a state od mind and I have felt that same way when I know I'm being funny, entertaining, etc. But I also agree with RU about sometimes you feel sexy the way certain things are going........how certain clothes fit today, a great hair day when I know I look FAB. Somedays I think I just wake up that way, with that feeling. I do know that one thing that makes me feel sexy is when a friend/partner is paying full attention to me and only me and making sure I'm thecenter of their attention.


BenefitsFriend69 57M/60F

8/24/2005 3:53 pm

ru, yet another great topic. Dude, you missed your calling: philosopher extraordinaire.

sj, I think you hit it on the head: definitely a state of mind. If your head isn’t sexy, your body won’t be either. The question is, what conjures up that state of mind for YOU, other than having them in the palm of your hand? Pun? Hee hee.

And I wanted to expand a bit on what you said mustluv about attention from a lover. I had a lover send me a card once that said, “I love you because you love me.” And that gets back to your recent blog post about love sj (check it out ru if you haven’t, she has some other great stuff in there). When an attractive, sexy woman shows a mutual interest in me, that is sexy as hell, and can bring me from funkdom to instantly feeling sexy in a second. Hell, sometimes all it takes is a smile or gorgeous eyes like sj’s.

I’ve also noticed I feel sexy when I’m up emotionally in other areas. I’ve just finished a long task, conquered something, finished the week and it’s Friday night and the weekend is ahead baby! I’m getting ready to go out and the music’s blaring and I’m on my first glass of wine, and the world is laid out for me to enjoy! What’s the first thing that comes to mind? You got it..

Looking the part can do it too. Like you say ru, that new pair of pants and silk shirt that fit the form just right. I got it, and I know it.

And, one more thing. An aroma that reminds me of a past lover.. Sigh.. One of the most intense past loves of my life wore Opium. That perfume in itself may not do it for most, but any time a woman is wearing it around me, I remember her, and damn.. Schwang!!! Sigh again.. Perhaps this too shall pass?


rm_mustluvplus2 57F

8/25/2005 2:27 am

Opium huh......that's what I wear, and I've heard and read alot of other men say the same thing. They love it.


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