Tantric Sex: Basic Technique  

ruexperienced66 50M
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12/3/2005 4:44 pm

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Tantric Sex: Basic Technique

The fundamental premise in tantric sex is that when the sexual energy travels up the spine (instead of out the penis) the result is greater and more lasting pleasure.

Most jokes about sex are related to sexual dysfunction. We can view tantric sex then as aimed at sexual function, or increased function or increased efficiency of action.

As in regular yoga asana (posture), the arrangement of the two bodies, male and female, and the action of the breath (breathing patterns) are fundamental to achieving good results.

1. In hatha yoga classes there is a short series of exercises called "Sun Salutations" or "Salutation to the Sun". Prior to getting into bed, or starting foreplay, but when the energy of desire is high, performing 3 complete sun salutations together in the bedroom is a very useful pre-requisite to encouraging the energy to travel up the spine. This is also very useful in cases where the male tends to ejaculate too soon. Try it! You can find hatha yoga classes just about anywhere, including videos and DVD.

2. The beginning position for tantric sex is called 'yab-yum', with the man seated in what is called half-lotus position (similar to crossed legs) and the woman straddled over the man. This position is chosen for function (as opposed to dysfunction). This position affords the male greatest control over the ejaculatory response, and by itself can remedy what is considered to be premature ejaculation. The greater control over biology provided by this position also allows the act of lovemaking to be prolonged indefinitely, which allows for extended sexual exploration.

3. The third unique aspect of tantric sex is the breathing patterns. Again, I refer you to a Hatha yoga 101 and the breathing pattern called 'Ocean Breath'. The man and woman, in the yab-yum position, desire is high, and they begin by breathing in&out of each others bodies: while the man exhales through the nose, the woman draws/sips the mans breath in through her nose. And vice versa. If you have never tried this, you may find it is more intoxicating than kissing. Worth looking into...

pumpmyschwing 45M

12/3/2005 6:02 pm

sounds great loved what you had to say and we are going to try this

ruexperienced66 50M

12/11/2005 5:11 am

The key is to start out very gently. Get into the position, and do not necessarily go straight for penetration. In fact, you may find that after doing the yoga the hot desire wanes. Keep going. Basically, there will be second, 3rd, 4th waves of desire.

If you can start out very slow and remain in this posture, breathing, insider her, making tiny, tiny movements, by approx the 2-3rd hour some new kids of sexual experiences will begin to emerge. The key is not allowing yourself to get too aggressive and start galloping towards the big O (either of you).

Because you're not in a rush, take breaks, snacks, water, etc. Possibly take an ice cold shower together to 'reset'. Even with the reset/breaks, you will find that the exerience keeps building.

Obviously, given the approach, it is inadvisable to start something like this late at night. I suggest early eve around 6pm or better yet, start in the late morning, so you have the physical energy/stamina to simply keep exploring.

I hate to compare it to hiking, but a 3+ hr continous sex journey requires lots of fuel and lots of energy. Preparation is tantamount, and believe me, you will _not_ regret it. If you are able to hold back your load for 3months, you are in for some new territory.

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

12/18/2005 4:25 pm

Takes notes
Do u give classes
silky x

ruexperienced66 50M

12/18/2005 10:26 pm

Not in Ireland

I have taught at tantra yoga retreats in the past.

ruexperienced66 50M

12/19/2005 7:18 am

By and large, for the male, the primary focus is on learning to have complete control over the ejaculation response and _then_ practicing regular (as much as you want) intercourse and learning how _not ejaculating_ affects the energy of sex after 1mo, 2mo, 3mo etc.

You may find that as you practice this, the woman's orgasms change, happen spontaneously, etc.

If you read the background idea, you will see that the basic point is to fully engage with the sexual experience, but not allow the seed to reach it's destination. Since the woman's orgams is not related to the fertilization, it is not necessary to hold back. Regardless, it works best if everyone forgets about orgasm and starts anew with technique, especially posture and breathing.

The enjoyment and ecstacy will surely follow where good technique and breathing is practiced.

Sulabula 45F
12658 posts
12/19/2005 1:43 pm

ru....I have practiced Yoga in the past...But never got to the lotus positon lol but i do remember the Salute to the Sun..and I can see how some yoga postions can inspire tantric sex...especially the breathing exercises...

Tantric sex has always fascinated me...but I can see that i am not going to learn it in one sitting lol

Divinty sent me and said you were the person to ask about it

Sula xxx

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ruexperienced66 50M

12/27/2005 8:18 pm


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