Everybody else is doing it, so why not me.  

roseroom 49M
146 posts
1/16/2006 6:22 pm

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Everybody else is doing it, so why not me.

So I was reading some blogs the other day, and today I actually responded to a couple of interesting posts. Finally, I decided that this space was big enough for one more.

As a married male who plays alone (more on this in what follows), I find it increasingly difficult to find activity partners. In this space, I hope to document what it is that happens to those like me, from my own personal experience and perspective.

I won't repeat things here that may be read in my profile. Simply put, my wife and I tried this as a couple a few years ago. Though she gave it her all, after three encounters with three different couples, she decided to call it quits. In her words, we did have one excellent experience with a married male, but one was not enough to overcome the failed three.

In words that are often too familiar to some of us, she simply stated that it wasn't them, but her. The couples we met were nice, cordial, clean, etc. But my wife just needed more than the physical contact. She was always concerned about our partners, about what they thought, about what they were thinking, about how the sex would impact the friendships we developed. Though not really jealous, she also became aware of how hard it was for her to see me in the arms of another woman. This was the biggest shock of all: she wanted me to herself and did not want to share... and sharing is at the heart of swinging! Anyway, as can be seen, we didn't last long in what turned out to be my (not ours!) quest for sex beyond conjugal monogamy.

piamatter 44F

1/16/2006 7:49 pm

Good luck roseroom. You are definitely out for quite an adventure. I look forward to your documentary.


angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
1/17/2006 8:05 pm

Will be reading this adventure with great interest. Welcome to the blogs.

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