Update & A Question...  

rosegoddess21 32F
29 posts
8/7/2005 2:29 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Update & A Question...

Well, I've not heard anything for about a week from the "gentleman" I met here on HotMatch. Looks like that's over and done with. No response to email or IM, so I'm done with it. I can't stand being ignored / disrespected like that.

Hell, to tell the truth I should be used to that, 9 mos since leaving my ex for lying and cheating and I am still waiting to find someone who will be honest with me, respect me, and doesn't balk at a relationship.

Think about it guys, a relationship does NOT mean you're married to the person. You're with one person, but if things go wrong you can at least say your goodbyes and go your separate ways without having to worry about separation agreements, divorce papers, court, etc... I am in the middle of a divorce and wish I had never married so young. It's taking forever and a day to get out of it, too.

Marriage is a bigger commitment than I'm looking for, but a relationship is just right, since I'm not in the one-night-stand phase (and won't be).

And no, I am not interested in being someone's "on-the-side / extra fun". Whether married or attached (not separated) that's disrespectful of your partner in my opinion. I know, I've done it; I've been on both sides of that one, unfortunately.

Well, to keep this short, I'm wondering how many of you are on here for one-night-stands, and how many of you are actually looking for more than that? (both men and women, comment pls)

Also, how would you feel if you're with someone and after sex (in any form), they suddenly drop the "let's just be friends" line?

Have a good day!


redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
8/8/2005 9:55 am

Lets be friends is BS! If you lust after someone it is painful to see them and not have sex with them.

One night stands are substandard sex! It takes a while to learn how best to please your partner and feel comfortable together. The anxiety from the first time impairs male functioning! Why have poor sex when the goal should be fab sex?

You are young and cute, I am sure you will find someone nice who will enjoy time with you!

I do not believe people are designed to be monagmists, so the best you can hope for is serial monagamy.


keystonenc 42M
144 posts
8/8/2005 4:36 pm

Divorces in the state of North Carolina are a royal pain in the butt. I have not been through one personally, but I have a friend who went through one and I think it took a good 18 months to two years until everything got resolved mainly because you have to wait 12 months after filing for divorce until you can move forward with the divorce.

Personally, I am here just to meet people. I'd prefer to find someone looking for a relationship or 'friends with benefits' something a little more long-term than just a wam-bam-thank-you-maam. But, I can also honestly say I would not necessarily turn down a one-nighter if one were offered.


rosegoddess21 32F
11 posts
8/9/2005 8:34 am

mustang- You have a great heart, and I know someday you will make your dreams come true.

keystonenc- That is true, I've been separated from him, on the OTHER SIDE of the US from him, and it's still taking a year b/c we married here, and I live here. Damn, should've stayed in WA...would've been divorced by now b/c of the abuse, but also would've had to worry about his "revenge".

Thank you for your comments, guys, they are much appreciated. Have a great day!


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