Here we go again  

rookie_pair 52M/51F
17 posts
4/29/2006 10:43 am

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12/13/2006 10:53 pm

Here we go again

So I have been waiting for someone to post something on this and come to find out I am expected to again make the first move and didnt know it. I love this lifestyle but can be shy at times. I usually know what I want but dont know if I should just try to take it as I hate to hear no and hate the uncomfortable feelings the rest of the evening hold after being told no. There is a girl I know that I would like to be with but she is a complete newbie. I want to just spent time showing her how good it can feel but know she is shy. do I wait until she finally makes a move or should I just do what I have been wanting to do and take her?


(female half)

kuma752 41M/33F

5/1/2006 8:14 pm

just jump her bones

rm_lonly902 48M
4 posts
5/7/2006 5:27 pm

Well seeings i am shy my self it would make more since for you to make the first move two shy ones never will no tell the first move is made thanks Jeff

da_beaches 55M/53F

6/19/2006 12:44 pm

Well darn it.. just go ahead and take me.. hee hee..

that is a difficult one, how do you let someone know that you like them and are interested without coming on too strong or aggressive and scaring them off.. or worse yet they are not interested and just dont want to hurt your feelings..

Maybe you could just find a way to talk openly and discuss with her how she feels on certain things could be that she feels the very same way and is afraid of the very same things, and if that isnt the case you didnt make a fool of yourself by making the first move.

Just my two cent worth

Beaches.. (aka.. miss shy catholic school girl )lol

Brian10spro 51M/47F

6/19/2006 7:13 pm

As rookies ourselves, we would have loved for someone at the Pool party come up to us and initiate the action. Oh wait, you did that, Shy people, new people who don't know anyone at a party or are new tho this lifestyle as we are, need a push. Maybe push is too strong of a word, hints don't work all of the time. Are they just being nice or do they want us? They said they have an extra bed, did that mean we should ask to take it?
I can't believe you get turned down anyway.
Kim & Brian

rookie_pair 52M/51F
5 posts
6/20/2006 5:44 pm

Guess I will just have to learn to be straight -forward with my advances. Yes we wanted you to stay in our room but also didnt want to scare you away for possible future encounters. Next time I will just "take your cherry" and Kim, you know what I mean! As for the girl I wrote this about, well, things worked out okay with that I guess. She temporarily split from her husband, got drunk and begged me to show her what good oral sex is like. Dont know if I accomplished my goal but the 2 orgasms she had tell me I got damn close!!! She is back with him and we have kinda lost touch but it was a dream come true for me and taught me not to just wait around for what I want but to reach out and take it. The worst that will happen is they say no and I think I can handle that now.

Hoping not to go another year without,,,


6/25/2006 8:41 am

Damn sheri ... just by reading all that ... got me all horny .... Sweeet!!!!! Nicely done whooohoooo .... next time ... dont take no for an answer!!!!! Take control ... you may never get the chance again!!!!!!


cougarprey4play 41M

8/12/2006 2:30 pm

Just wanted to comment on the husband & "Exit To Eden"...and here I was thinking I was the only one that enjoyed Dana in that movie!!

Especially the part where she is swimming in the pool naked, gets out & then sits on his back. Oooooooo.....

kluk_kluk 53M

9/29/2006 6:05 pm

My first time with a couple it was very helpful when the two of them just started making out and then invited me to join. As the outsider it felt strange to make the first move and therefor this really helped to get things going. We ended up having a great erotic night for all involved.

rookie_pair 52M/51F
5 posts
10/13/2006 9:42 pm

Wll, Kuma 752 is no longer on here, has gotten divorced and she and I no longer talk. So I guess now I will have to come up with a new blog. I still dont know how to approach women but am getting better. It has been several months since our redezvous and I hope to meet someone soon that I want as much as I wanted her. I need to lust after someone else and get over it.

Thanks for putting up with me

SwingKids469 65M/65F

10/25/2006 1:36 pm

The next chance you get, tell them/her what you told us. Sounds sweet, comfortable and honest.

(Brandy )
28 posts
7/9/2007 3:56 pm

Rookie - we have met at a Party in Longmont - I was with my gf and couldnt play - we have now broken up - Ill make the 1st move - when can we meet again?


voraciousdesires 55M/54F

7/24/2007 4:40 pm

Hi, I think the nicest approach I have found so far and an absolutely terrific turn - on was to be approached by the other woman. She didn't say lets have sex, she just walked up to me in the bar and asked if she could kiss me. And what an incredible kiss it was. We both already had "couple dates" for the evening, but I thought about that kiss until we could get together. Regards, Sharon

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