rockwriter58 56M
1524 posts
12/13/2005 7:39 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


This commentary was written originally as a guest blog entry for my good online friend JF, who it appears has departed for other blogging realms. We continue to miss him. However, this week (using the old ranking system of total comments) this blog moved past JF's Rambles, Rants & Adventures for the first time. mi_mwpm In his memory and honor I thought it would be fitting to dust this off.

A note of context: this was written in the spring, before I closed down my search. So the perspective is a bit different for me now. Some editing changes were necessary to make this work several months later. (The original can be found at: Winks.) In the interim, I have collected only a few more winks. Almost all of these were from fellow bloggers, for a variety or reasons ‒ sometimes as simple as someone wanting to tell me they saw me online. A few winks remain mysterious in their origins. I suppose that is just the nature of winking.

I’m rather ambivalent about winks.

If you have been here awhile and you’re a man you probably have collected a few. If you are a woman, you probably collected about a dozen in five minutes. This feature again shows the gender differences apparent here.

My first wink came from someone whose profile shows she is openly a prostitute. After that inauspicious start, my second wink came from a profile I have suspicions about. Was it a front for prank-happy teens or frat boys? That’s still to be determined. (See: Fakes.) My third wink came from one of the most popular members here. You must know her. Hint: she is a collector of folks for her network. At one time she lived in Maryland, but she moved this summer to Michigan. I did not respond to her. The ego downshift was it had taken her so many months to notice me. I actually count myself as lucky there.

During the past week, my luck changed a bit. A nice woman in Tennessee sent me a wink. I’m still not sure why, but I think it is one of the functions of the feature. Just use it to say, “hello,” or “I approve” or “very nice.” And I got a wink from someone closer to home, someone who actually looks promising. (For those who are wondering, I have yet to tell this story, but it did not pan out.)

So with this mixed record, do I use winks? Of course. But I’m more restrained than when I first signed on here. The silence that greets most men here, I believe, encourages you to flash anything to get attention. Winks are one such device. The women here probably get annoyed at how they pile up. I still use them when I see folks online who I’d like to chat with or get to know better. But the return on that has been quite small.

Nevertheless, winks are still an ego stroke. They can be a great communication device. But as usual, technology only reflects the true purpose of its user.

© ♪rockwriter58♪

helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
12/13/2005 8:57 am

Aaaww... Rocky, hun... you should have said!! I'd have sent you a wink and a little nudge every day if you'd wanted one!


PS. I'd love to have you as my tourist guide the next time I'm visiting your fair shores! Thanks for the offer!

Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

digdug41 49M

12/13/2005 9:20 pm

hey I dont mind the winks and it has happened to me at least they are peeking at me lol

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
12/14/2005 10:29 am

>>>I suppose digdug that not all winks carry the same message, but I certainly understand your philosophy... that if I'm getting noticed that counts for something good.

>>>And Helga... you know I would take a wink and a nudge from you anytime. As for being your guide on this side of the pond... anytime darlin'!

rm_SusieQ27 46F
2093 posts
12/16/2005 4:17 pm

Rockwriter, You can rest assured that it's not your ego I'm stroking when I'm winking at you, baby....
How's that...a whole weeks

Luv n stuff,
P.s. Just before I post this comment...please, 'baby Jesus', don't make my Smilies come out as flaccid

rm_SusieQ27 46F
2093 posts
12/16/2005 4:19 pm

Firehot, you ask me why my last Smiley isn't winking at you. It's the seventh day,

Luv n stuff,

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
12/19/2005 5:32 pm

>>>Kate... thanks for those kind words to my friend. I wish he would drop in now and again but I think he is long gone. Great to see you here in his stead though. You are always welcome.

>>>And my sincere thanks to [blog SusieQ27]. Great to see you back here, despite our boorish American ways in our virtual sports pub. I appreciate the winks and strokes!

For a hint, check out [post 151100] although by now the conversation has drifted back to other trends.

rm_SusieQ27 46F
2093 posts
12/20/2005 7:54 am

Hello again...yes,darli, winks and strokes are always nice to receive. Happy holidays......
Luv n stuff,

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
1/11/2006 9:07 pm

>>>I have received a few nice winks in my time here, but I must say [blog Dysgyzed] that is the warmest and the best.

>>>Oh, sorry, [blog SusieQ27]... I know you hover in the backpages too. Thanks for your heartfelt wishes. I hope you find what you are looking for on your side of the pond.

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