The Existential Question  

rockwriter58 56M
1524 posts
3/23/2005 3:02 pm

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The Existential Question

Why am I here?

Folks who read this may not care. However, I have certain motivations.

Perhaps I feel like any adventure needs a record or notes. That's just the writer in me. Of course, these notes may end up being a cross between diary, booze-induced confessional to a bartender, or off-the-cuff responses to those who may wander across these musings. One of the motivations is just to get words out on the page about this.

Yes, there are larger questions, beyond why contribute to this section of the website. The question may linger about what brought me here in the first place.

Without getting too detailed in a semi-public place, there is a void to deal with in my life. I have read the postings here by folks who say, "if you aren't getting sex then just get a divorce." Well, that is my choice to make and I am not traveling that road. I don't think I have to justify my decisions to those who are here merely to impose their beliefs on others. I am here for the same reason many come to this website. This website is marketed as a place to meet for sexual liaisons. That is the primary reason I am here. And I don't think people who have come here need to apologize for that decision to others in this virtual community.

Sex is a wonderful gift.

I sometimes think Descartes got it wrong. It should be: I have sex therefore I am.

So I have started to doubt my identity a bit perhaps for the lack of one of life's true gifts. As someone in mid-life, I also wonder what I am missing.

Of course, I am not opposed to discourse on the way to intercourse. But I do not think the primary reason I am here is for chatting. I do like chatting with a friend, a partner, and a lover. I also like establishing relationships. But I would like a new relationship that provides some answer to the void without being too complicated and complex.

Some have asked me in e-mail: are women therefore disposable? Of course not. I see some women here who are happy being single or married and only want something on the side to also answer their sexual void. I'm hoping I can meet up and match up with one. Do I mind building up to that intimate relationship with lunch, chats, drinks and other dating activities. Of course not. I see establishing some bond as important to the passion that follows.

And so the point is often made that there really is no such thing as a "no strings" relationship. Perhaps that is correct. But I do think people can establish the boundaries for what they want in a relationship, even if that is merely a sexual relationship. Relationships do evolve and so opening up intimacy does hold the danger of creating problems later for all involved.

Perhaps, as I've seen some women write on this website, that this is all fantasy or just a theoretical premise that these purely sexual relationships can exist. After being here for about two months, I have thought that maybe they are correct. We are about to see.

keithcancook 60M
17828 posts
10/13/2005 12:31 pm

Hmm, here I am. Deep blog diving again. Yet someone was here before me. 2 months before I even got here and mizzkitka has been basement blogging! Grrrr, I thought I was the only one who deep blog dived around here!

Now that I am finished bitching, Welcome to BlogLand Rocky!

Sure it is 7 months after the fact. But that is part of what the great sport of deep blog diving is all about.

Blog On Dude!

rm_koocnachtiek 60M
377 posts
10/13/2005 12:35 pm

Ha! Is this what that fool calls "deep blog diving"? I think he just has a fixation with basements and bitching!

Is this just another trick by keithcancook
to get his text on television?

keithcancook 60M
17828 posts
10/13/2005 12:36 pm

Shaddup kooc! Get back in yer box!


4/7/2006 9:10 am

Again..excellent post

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
4/13/2006 11:27 am

>>>Thanks [blog MRSMUFFLAND]... it is good to see even the oldest entries still have a life.

>>>I suppose my friend Keith's blog diving skills demonstrate yet another side to reviving old posts. But even he noted that we gave that a new twist with The BlogLand Time Tunnel Project, Part I.

>>>Good advice from one of the more popular bloggers [blog mizzkitka] who revived this post first... initially no one commented! Thanks to all!

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