Farewell to a Friend  

rockwriter58 56M
1524 posts
8/8/2005 6:47 am

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Farewell to a Friend

To those who do not follow the intricate plotlines that criss-cross in the Land of Blog, you may be unaware that one of the top bloggers, JF has shut down his profile. JF was carrying on a torrid affair with hour-glasses until JF’s wife stumbled across some telling evidence on JF’s computer last week. So JF is mostly unplugging from the site, and hour-glasses is in mourning and recovery.

By the standards of this website, I’m no longer a newbie, but I certainly don’t feel like a veteran either. In my time here, JF was one of the people who seemed to be on about the same plane with me. In the blog world, we became friends and have supported each other’s blogs. JF gave me a guest spot on his popular blog (not the boutique blog that Ruminations has turned out to be) and I appreciated the exposure even if what I wrote generated very few comments. We have swapped comments and advice on a wide range of issues and happenings for the past five months.

JF shared with me that this was his second go-round on the site and he was here for a year with nothing happening. But this time he found Nirvana in his time with hour-glasses. Now, that has changed and his relationship with her, his marriage, his family and his entire reality is threatened.

My heart goes out to both JF and hour-glasses. I wish them the best in this trying time, even if they can no longer be together.

In his blog, JF wrote that I was right to pull back from my outside of marriage search when I did and that maybe he should have seen that as a sign. I have rejected that view because I am not here to judge and each person needs to make their own decisions about what makes them happy and what brings them here. Undoubtedly, JF and hour-glasses found happiness for a brief time and hour-glasses has written that their times together were some of her best sexual experiences ever. How can the joy of that be denied?

Sometimes though in this life, such joy comes with a price. I’m sorry to see the bill being presented to these two wonderful bloggers. (And of course JF’s wife is also going through her own soul-searching and misery too.)

I am sorry to see JF go. He was a supportive friend here for me. He was someone, if he lived in my region, that I could see going to throw back a few beers with and exchange stories and opinions. Unfortunately, he has become an example, a cautionary tale for the married men here. And he is so much more than that. However it works out, I wish him luck and I hope we cross paths in a good way down the line.

(The themes in this post link directly to the entries [post 33179] on June 14 and [post 30656] on June 7.)

© ♪rockwriter58♪

(This entry NEVER appeared on the main blogboard due to a morning blogjam on Aug. 8, but this author chose not to repost.)

mi_mwpm 51M

8/8/2005 10:43 am

Thank you for the tribute Rock. I'm far from gone, but I have no need of a profile at the moment. I'll resurrect it once I decide how to rework it as that of a blog-only kinda guy.

I'll cherish the times Hourglasses and I spent together. As you've said many times, it was Nirvana. I'm lucky in that my wife seems to already be heading down the road of forgiveness. I never expected that; I thought I'd be sleeping in a motel by now.

Thanks again!

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
8/8/2005 3:41 pm

I had reserved comment on this but since you brought it up...
it seems to me that JF was just asking to get caught.

Posting photographs and details are not what I would define as the epitome of discretion.

Maybe it was a subconcious passive-aggressive thing and he DID want to be caught.

mi_mwpm 51M

8/9/2005 9:37 am

Maybe you're right JayR, maybe I did want to get caught. I don't know.

I do know that my first thought was to lie, kill the blog and erase the evidence, but instead I decided to face the music and see if things could be fixed.

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/9/2005 2:11 pm

>>>I'm glad JF picked up on [blog jayR63] question.

I sometimes think there is a lot of that passive-aggressive subconcious motivation going on here with both men and women. I've wondered at times if that applied to me too.

I'm still glad JF faced up to it and is working it through.

keithcancook 60M
17865 posts
8/10/2005 10:22 am

Honesty is almost always the best policy. Even if you lose what you love, it will be easier to live with yourself.


8/12/2005 11:28 pm

I admire his final honesty, and even though HG knew what she was getting into , my heart bleeds for her.


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