rm_zent65 51M
66 posts
8/2/2006 11:14 pm

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2/15/2007 3:10 am


Let's see if this works. Since last week, I've gone without a cigarette.

No, I haven't quit smoking, I've merely stopped smoking, until the next stick.

Call me psycho but this has been very positive for me. When one quit smoking, like we've done numerous times, and fail, we smoke even more, like out of vengeance.

For now, I'm just extending my time for not picking up the next stick. And even if I do, I at least don't feel like I'm such a useless failure for not sticking to my promise of quitting.

And when i'm being offered a ciggy, I don't say, "I don't smoke" like some reformed environmental groupie, merely I'd said "later, just had".

Meanwhile, I'm enjoying the fresher air in my lungs, realizing I'm relying less on one thing and most of all, needn't feel like I'm a 2nd class fagging citizen, trying to look for that square box for smokers.

And knowing that I can always still pick up a stick, actually makes me not want to. So for once, the 'Forbidden Fruit' is actually helping me.

Smokers out there, let me know if it works for you.

Peace out


happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
8/3/2006 6:15 am

I don't really smoke. But I had a father who quitted smoking when I was young, because he felt that being a smoker is a poor example to my brothers. Although my father was a smoker for years before he quitted, he didn't seem to have a hard time doing so. Probably because he was doing it out of love.

Anyway, I heard that having a substitute helps. Perhaps if you feel like smoking, try chewing a gum instead.

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!

rm_zent65 replies on 8/3/2006 6:35 am:
Hi Happy lady

thanks for feedback. Think for me, it's a mind over matter thing. It's the putting away factor that works, rather than the pulling away from factor.

Having chewing gum merely reinforces the habit to smoke, since chewing gum, at best in this instance, is only a poor substitute.

Thanks again for commenting....this is what's for....continue reading....and your fair input is greatly appreciated.



Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
8/3/2006 8:54 am

I stopped smoking for seven years now. Im glad that I managed to quit. It was not easy. Even now, I do get tempted especially when Im stressed out. One thing Im glad to get back is my stamina to do my kickboxing, aerobics dance, once again.

٭ ˚ °◦○☻ Serenely Yours ☺○◦° ˚ ٭

rm_zent65 replies on 8/3/2006 7:33 pm:
hi Serene_anne

tks for feedback. yeah, it certainly feels healthier for me. Good on you. Keep it up.

quietly_softly 51F
4824 posts
9/27/2006 1:37 pm

It's been a year since I last smoked. I'm one of those who say 'I don't smoke' - often followed by, 'but I want to!'. Hahaha! I find that acknowledging my addiction helps me to stay in recovery from smoking. The 1st milky cup of coffee for the day, in the balcony of my old apartment in Penang, the view of the ever changing sea, happy birds playing tag, and a cigarette.. heaven on earth..

deference4 54F

2/11/2007 5:01 pm

Hi zent65. I'm a smoker myself and l had realized over the years that it's more a 'bad habit' than addiction. Instances that l can go without it for days without any urge during stay in hospital or during work had proved me right. Lighting up the fag just for the sake of lighting and leaving it there on the ashtray while l go about doing my stuff is another instance. l had tried without it for several months, appetite was VERY good and added some kilos as well! The only thing l can say about my situation now is l smoke much lesser, especially when together with a non smoker l care for and love very much. Just felt that it's not fair... but hey, that's love. Of course a fag after a meal is heaven still and this l cannot bypass. Anyway l have to congratulate you for stopping. Will's gotta be strong to achieve it.

rm_zent65 replies on 2/11/2007 10:39 pm:
Hey D

No, unfortunately, didn't last too long. I'm back on the wagon. Yeah, it's a real bad habit and I don't seem to be able to kick for a long period. Actually, I was having success but that heavenly stick after meal got me going again. Hiya.....

Thanks for reading almost everything i wrote so far. This is stretching way back. Hope you enjoyed it, and perhaps a little bit of understanding to the kind of person I am.

peace out


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