Profile - Thinking of a change but need advice  

rm_zbald14u 55M
16 posts
7/29/2006 11:14 am

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Profile - Thinking of a change but need advice

I am thinking about changing my profile. At first, I was going to delete it, but I paid for a long term gold membership to this thing and that would just be a waist of money. Furthermore, this website for a broader search among more open-minded people.

The reason I am thinking of a change is because I am not really here just to get laid. I understand that many people aren't too, but that is the initial assumption of a single male. I am not religious, but I am very spiritual and sex to me is a spiritual exercise between two or more people.

Anyway, my future goal is to retire in 11 years at age 55, buy an RV, and travel all of North America, and seek spiritual enlightment. I am working towards that goal now; however, I am a single father of two teen age children and I cannot begin my travels until they are grown, settled, and safe. In the meantime, I am looking to make friends to either simply be friends w/o any sexual activities, or to have some harmless and mutual fun. But, since I am spiritual in nature, my sense of fun includes friendship and sensuality, not just a roll in the sack, if you will.

I would also be interested in meeting that special spiritual someone who shares my values and spirituality to ultimately travel with me. I do not expect to meet that person on AdultFriendFinder, but I am not excluding the possibility. But, that takes a rather special person. I am not going to conduct my travel in a "high class" fashion with an RV as big as a tour bus. It is going to be a simple RV and I am going to live as simply as possible. My main goal on my journey is spiritual enlightenment. If I have to stop and work a part time job along the way, I will.

So, my question is: Do I change my profile to reflect this so I do not give out the wrong idea, or is my profile sufficient as it is? I do not want some one to assume that I am just talking nice to get some babe in the sack, or to think that I am something that I am not giving the impression that I am looking to settle down where I am for the rest of my life. I am adamant in my future plans and goals, and they will not change for anyone except my children if necessary.

Thank you in advance for reading this post and offering suggestions.

rm_muffin162 55M
763 posts
7/29/2006 12:12 pm

A lot can happen in 11 years,you may well change your mind about your plans,i would not bother putting it in your profile,try living today not dreaming about whats going to happen in 11 years time.

NiceLady1957 60F

7/30/2006 8:13 am

Oh I think being honest about it upfront is very good. Sure plans can change in 11 years, but as your friendships grow that too can be discussed honestly and openly if you change your mind on that topic.

rm_zbald14u 55M

7/30/2006 6:03 pm

Some very sound and appreciated advice by all of you. If I don't put it in my profile, I feel like I am lying. However, muffin162 is right that I need to be living for today, not my expectations of the future. That is the message in the book The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle, and I agree with that to a point. The point that I have a problem with is, if a lady wants to approach me, she is approaching me with false expectations right from the beginning, because (a) I am a single male which is assumed to be looking for some nookie, and (b) the way my profile is written now, it could be construed as that I am open to meeting Mrs. Right, which I am, but not in the conventional sense of settling where I am for the rest of my life. In addition, I am far from conventional. LOL But, society's norm is the automatic assumption. Therefore, as katsback said, I must go with what is comfortable for me, and the way it is right now, I am not comfortable.

Thank you all.



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