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Pictures in Profiles: Bare it All or Nice Smile
Pictures in Profiles: Bare it All or Nice Smile
This is follow up to Profile Pics: Long Shots or Anatomical Zooms. Just what does a picture tell about us?
Well if you've struggled with the right mix for your written profile, you've probably wondered what kind of picture is going to attract some attention. If you're leaning towards that infamous crotch shot, you're on your own. It's hard to say from just a few responses, but a majority of the women in the AdultFriendFinder Forum do not care to see the penis at full attention. AdultFriendFinder is not a site for prudes and if you take its whole premise to heart, this site is about people meeting for SEX. Conversely SEX is not all inclusive. No matter how well you can candy coat your reasoning to suit your tastes; you're still reliant on a woman making that final decision.
So no erect organs then what? Well that old stand by. A nice smiling picture where they can see your eyes. Now you say, "Wait a freakin minute!, what does that do for me?" Well, it appears no matter how brazenly S E X U A L a site can be, the idea is there are woman who want to see what you look like. Hey that's a novel idea isn't it. Now don't expect a rush of replies, views, or invitations after you do this. I have by no means figured out the right combination of profile and pictures. Keep in mind there are still a legion of men compared to the puny base of active woman users here. So that perfect mix is an elusive one, and because we are all individuals here, what works for one, may not suit another.
Not to get off the subject, but I did say "Active Woman users" and "puny base" together didn't I. Yes, check your matches and see how many there are. Then check the last time they were online. Finally add the fact the number of women with Standard Member accounts. Standard accounts have very limited email and profile viewing capabilities, most importantly they may not see your photos anyway. There are more details about those accounts and you can get answers by doing a search on HELP section on AdultFriendFinder. So now that you are aware of this, I guess you can see that base of woman users shrinking at an alarming rate. Yes, not only are we to contend with a small woman's base, but the problem that there is a Standard Member base that can't contact us. OUCH.
Back on the topic of pictures. Try and accentuate the positive of your assets. Aside from the smile, as long as I've known, women are going to react better to some shot illuminating your posterior...or better put...your ass. I know I like a nice ass on a woman, so there is something to be said about taking the appropriate shot. There are ways to show nudity without being overtly brash about it. Some tact or style within the limited confines using a webcam can leave more to the imagination. Ahh but then again, this is no guarantee you'll score, but at least they'll know you're not shy.
Now finally, can we really use a broad brush to assume what woman want to see or read especially on a site like this. The answer is NO. You are unlikely to find any two woman alike, let alone two who share the same tastes or opinions on sexual attraction. So what is a perfect blend of pictures and profile? If someone had that answer to that, I don't think he'd be willing to give it up. Be yourself, express yourself, and keep at it. With a little change to the original saying, "You can't be all things to all woman". To broad can be dull, too specific can chase one away.
I'll close in saying if I had a 9" "Porn Dick" I wouldn't hesitate for a second to include that picture in the secondary images. Women can say what they want regarding size, but a picture like that couldn't hurt on this site
9/19/2005 2:32 pm
Well, okay, advertising what you have is a good idea. But presentation is everything. There are a few guys on this site who display their, uh, assets, like they're getting ready to take a leak. As to butt shots, these should also be secondary. What should a woman say, meeting a man from here for the first time? "Hey, guy, pull out your dick, I think you're the guy I'm meeting here." I, personally, want to see faces. Intelligent faces as primary, I don't much care about dick and butt shots. But that's just me. |
I don't know what a woman would display. I've seen the pussy shots. A few were....Cream filled, which just looked like an infection to this holistic practitioner, but I'm not into women, anyway. But I like faces. I like backgrounds. I don't need to see the Flesh Gordon penis monsters all over the site. (I'm showing my age a bit, talking about that one)
9/19/2005 10:11 pm
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Party date; Saturday, September 24th.. 9pm-3am. No one admitted after 12 midnight.
Buffet served, BYOB
Bring towel for hot tub
Strippers will be the additional entertainment.
Address: 4771 Calderon Rd. Woodland Hills. Ca 91364. Lots and lots of play area, dance area, billiard room, 2 huge group areas, 3 private areas for couples only, plenty of parking.
Directions: Do not deviate or use mapquest.
101- North, exit Valley Circle-left
To first signal- Ave San Luis-left
To first stop sign-Abbeyville-right
After short distance- turn slightly left-straight- Calabash
To Stop sign-Cass St.- right
To Calderon Rd- Street sign is on left of side