Question for everyone....  

rm_wpshotmomma 43F
15 posts
5/22/2006 11:45 am

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6/26/2006 2:15 pm

Question for everyone....

Ok...I want to know how all of you that are "cheating" on a spouse/significant other do it? I mean, I love my husband but I'm not getting all that I want or need out of the relationship anymore. How do you get past the feelings of betrayal? Or don't you?

I know I want to be with someone else physically and not change my relationship with my husband. Anyone got any suggestions?

pet_humility 48F

5/22/2006 12:19 pm

To me, sex is just sex. You give your emotions to the one you love.
I know that don't justify it, but it does help

rm_wpshotmomma 43F

5/23/2006 1:55 pm

Thank you pet! I was hoping to get some woman's point of view! I knew that a woman would understand where I was coming from. Not that men can't but a woman knows the way we think!

Thanks again!

thirdlibra829 32M

5/23/2006 6:50 pm

Alright, if you want honesty and truth, then I will tell you honestly if you are getting everything in your marraige that you want EXCEPT the physical aspect of it, then your not getting everything you want. I say that because my ex wife cheated on me, and it killed me. The sex is all fun and games, and if it is worth you losing everything else in your life, have fun.

rm_wpshotmomma 43F

5/24/2006 12:37 pm

Well third I appreciate your honesty but I think that the intimacy is an important part of the marriage. I have tried and tried to get through to him that it is lacking and still nothing. He tells me that he still finds me attractive and that he loves me but if I don't initiate it then it doesn't happen. That can bring you me. Do you understand what I'm saying?

Thanks again though for your honesty!

Salem1926 76M
1 post
6/2/2006 4:57 pm

I have had affairs for most of my marriage and still together easier to tell someone face to face in a VERY PUBLIC PLACE than it is here

spacecadet561 60M

6/7/2006 5:33 pm's another slant. Marriage started out well enough overall, emotionally, domestically, sexually. Then it started to fall apart, emotionally, domestically, and sexually. Still married because I've heard too many horror stories about divorces and am too chicken to go there. Joined AdultFriendFinder hoping to find some cyber sex partners, and have found some who appreciate the attention from me as much as I appreciate it from them. It seems a reasonable progression from jerking off to stories, to pictures, to movies, to interactive stories created on the fly. It avoids the pitfalls of real-world cheating while filling a need.

I'm not ready for a real-world affair, and may never be. I daydream about them, but that's it.


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