rm_wondering57 59F
69 posts
6/5/2006 8:19 pm

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1/2/2007 11:05 am


I realize this is a "sex site." But you know, there are a lot of lonely people out there who just want to be held and feel like they matter to someone. Read the profiles. See what people are looking for. Have a little respect. Don't suck sincere people into situations you already know they probably don't want and can't handle. There are plenty of people out there wanting all kinds of different situations, so pick someone appropriate. Don't go looking to hurt people.

Remember. People are just people. They deserve just as much respect as you do. Be careful to not hurt others, as it will truly, I believe, come back around to you in same.

Have a heart and attempt some sensitivity. Think of how you would want to be treated.

Frankly36867 65M

6/15/2006 7:05 am

This is so true and I agree with what you have commented. There seems to be a lot of game playing and little respect sometimes on AdultFriendFinder. Such vulgarity only breeds a restlessness that i snot wholesome. I am the most non-judgmental person you'll find on AdultFriendFinder, but we all are better off with honesty, patience, and a little more understanding than sometimes we experience from others. We can all find what we are looking for if we could respect one another.

_pinkie_ 55F
5201 posts
1/2/2007 11:00 am

"Have a heart and attempt some sensitivity. Think of how you would want to be treated."

Ahh... there's the thing. The ones who have no heart, don't CARE how they would be treated. So many of them have no faith in humanity, that they refuse to believe we could be genuinely nice people without ulterior motives. They're cold & caltulating and assume that everyone else is too, or that soft-hearted people are "weak" in some way and deserve whatever they get.

And yes, if we know from experience that someone on here is going to hurt people, I believe we have a responsibility to make it known. Those people (the heartless users) tend to run in packs here in Oklahoma.

However, when we try to protect newcomers, by giving them enough information to make their own choices, we're so viciously attacked by the pack, that we stay quiet, to keep from being hurt anymore.

At the very first meet & greet I organized, one of the men told a friend of mine that he intended to "have" me, because he could use me to become "popular". At the time, I didn't care. I laughed about it. But sure enough, he weasled his way into my life, my heart. Over the course of 20 months, I fell for him wholeheartedly..... but the relationship, and the ways he used me, were damaging me both emotionally and physically.

Do I try to protect other women from him? No, not anymore. I used to, but after repeated attacks and accusations made by his current co-horts, both men and women, I stopped.

I ended the affair a year ago this month, & ended up in the hospital because of the ordeal. I still get hate mail and nasty comments on my blog from members of his group - most of whom have never met me....

I'll never understand how people can be so cruel, and live with their conscience.

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