OK! I am not a sleazball cheating Husband!!!! Read on----->  

rm_wiselover4u 64M
5 posts
4/15/2006 3:20 pm

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5/10/2006 4:31 pm

OK! I am not a sleazball cheating Husband!!!! Read on----->

Yes I'm Married, ok I said it. Now do you really want to know why I'm here? The same reason you are,. Affection!!!!!

First understand that I love my wife and have no plans to change the situation. We are well matched in all respects but one, Affection.

Two years ago my wife began to complain after having sex so she saw her Dr. and he basically gave her an out from ever having to have sex again. Evidently this was no great loss to her. Over the next year intimacy dropped to, at best, once every three months and that took much persuasion. In the past year there has been no sex and she now will not engage in anything that might possibly instigate intimacy ie. hugging,kissing, fondling, and absolutely no oral.

Sorry, I may be 53 but I am not ready to slide into premature old age boredom. I am a healthy, reasonably fit( and working on that ),affectionate, passionate American male in need of a woman with similar needs. Married, single , divorced, what ever just a warm person with human needs be it conservative or wild. I am an open minded, intelligent, motivated, spontaneous man.

Expand your horizons, open your mind and give me a fair shot for both of our gain.

Here's to the pursuit of passion and overall happiness!

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
4/15/2006 4:01 pm

I have to agree with Shaye....be open and honest with your spouse...or it will blow the f*ck up in your face, mi amigo.


pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

4/15/2006 4:17 pm

There's no other definition that accurately describes why you're on here EXCEPT "I am a cheating Husband!"

If you really love your wife, then you wouldn't "need of a woman with similar needs." You'd accept the love that two people have from a lifetime together. If your wife was physically disabled in a tragic accident, and was unable to have sex, would you do the same?

If you cannot have everything with your wife, then you're no different than any other man who looks for extra-curricular sex as a selfish means of self-gratification. You care about you...admit it. Otherwise, you'd have discussed this with your wife.

As you said..."Expand your horizons, open your mind and give me a fair shot for both of our gain"...try that one on your wife and see what you get shot with..!

rm_wiselover4u replies on 4/16/2006 1:38 am:
Sorry, I disagree. There are many couples who reach a point in life like this and work out an open marriage arrangement. All attempts I have made in 2 years have been met with a polite rebuff. She even rejected the possibility of counseling. This is about being complete. I feel like I am missing a part of me. She lies in bed naked next to me every night and can completely ignore any touch or caress. How many times could you take that if your mate constantly failed to respond to your every advance!

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

4/16/2006 6:34 am

"How many times could you take that if your mate constantly failed to respond to your every advance!"

That's why I divorced her and found someone else. Now, we're both happy.

rm_wiselover4u replies on 4/17/2006 12:57 am:
That is a true testimony for our throw away society. throw the baby out with the bath water. Just because one part of a relationship can't be fixed does not mean that the whole this is screwed up. Sex is only one part of a relashionship.

rm_fizzvic 56F
2 posts
5/8/2006 7:12 pm

Well, my husband decided, after 13 years of marriage and one child, that he'd rather be my WIFE; after notifying me of this conclusion he was off to Wisconsin for sex-change surgery before I could say "What!?!?" Prior to his announcement, we spent over 10 years in a totally sexless, celibate marriage. MY choice. But believe you me, if I could have found someone to take the edge off, I would have walked 100 miles to get to him. It had absolutely nothing to do with how I felt about my husband, or the state of our marriage, which, if only society would leave us the hell alone, would still be in evidence, because I could easily live with my "new girlfriend" as easily as I lived with my old husband. But that doesn't mean I would rule out having something on the side, since I'm not gay. I want a man in my life, and I certainly intend to get one.

rm_wiselover4u replies on 5/10/2006 3:12 pm:
Thank you so much for your comment. My wife and I are good house mates and great friends. I just can not stand the absence of affection. Wish I could connect with someone who thinks like you.

Good luck to you in your search.

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