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Elusive as a four leaf clover...
Elusive as a four leaf clover...
Sure at one point we have all had a wish, some sort of ideal, encounter or fantasy that we wanted to either find or have happen. Some people wish to win a large lottery, while others may simply wish to find that perfect job. People will tell us that we need to set goals, be realistic, don't dream but dare.
I have been a member of this site on and off for about two years. During that time I have had the pleasure of meeting some interesting and simply off the wall people. As with some of you I would imagine, I will check my mail about every other day wondering if maybe I have found a match or if someone has found me. Some recent observations I have made would seem to fit a profile of what is needed to be successful, or at the very least lucky.
Right off the bat I believe that being married, attached or otherwise committed is definitely a strike against the person. I understand the notion of cheating, etc. but really this is an adult site, why the clamor for integrity when in actuality we are all basically looking for sex partners. There are extremes, sure, but when you boil this down to the basic ingriedants, I believe I am right.
I have seen over the last few months a premise that most of the persons on this site at least are really only looking for a thrill. How many persons do you know would actually want to see their wife or spouse get screwed? Sure their out there but in small, unaccountable numbers. Again this goes back to my first notation of fantasy.
Don't get me wrong, this is about acting out, testing the extremes and maybe in some cases the persons are seeing if this is something they really want to encounter. For me, I wouldn't bother with the time or effort if I was not serious about my desires or intentions. Hey everyone has their own wants and needs, mine happen to be more of a reality I guess.
I have heard comments that there is more to this, that there has to be substance, chemistry etc. I agree, there has to be. With that being said we must also remember that there also has to be the first step, a hello, a smile or at the least a sentence that is spelled correctly and somewhat fluent. I know that this comes off as arrogant but this is my blog and I am only being honest.
I have read on several profiles, only this and that apply. A good example would be single guys only. We would write and get feedback such as not without the wife or no, since we are attached. Hmmm, let me get this straight, wait never mind. I guess my point is either I am really off base or there is a great deal of bullshitters on this site. Come on , you know who you are. Before anyone responds with some type of rebuttal, I ask that you look around you. Check the profiles, see how many are at least silver and gold members, they appear to be the only genuine ones.
My point is that regardless of the intent, the running around and apparent lack thereof, I do still find this site interesting. Yeah, I play the lotto sometimes, hoping to hit it one time. Just as when I was a kid, I would sometimes look for that four leaf clover. Reality would tell us that in either case we are not going find what we are searching for, but there is a strength called hope and ambition. I remain the eternal optimist with a quiet grin, each time I log onto AdultFriendFinder.
Good luck in your search, I hope you find your own wishes to come true...