Single parenthood and still pursuing ur dreams?  

rm_watever00 41F
257 posts
8/27/2006 6:10 am

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Single parenthood and still pursuing ur dreams?

Hi there, just shooting the bull here since this is my first attempt in the blog. Being a single parent is not an easy task. Would you as a single parent be willing to not give your 100% to your children in the pursue of your much desired dreams?

Well, comments r very much welcome.



8/27/2006 6:40 am

It would depend on how much it would take away from my child, what my dream is and how it would benefit us. If the dream is to finish your college education, which helps you get a higher paying job, then that's worth it. In the end, it helps all of you.
I'm a single mom and I understand all too well the sacrifices we have to make. We always have to make tough decisions, but in the end, I think it's worth it.

LadyGrayLeopard 56F  
26385 posts
8/27/2006 6:52 am

Guess it depends a lot of your situation, how old your kids are, do you work and what are your working hours, family living close etc.

When I divorced my kids were under 10. And I work full time. No other family around. They sure were complaing about the things they 'had to' do, like helping in cooking, cleaning up etc. Now they are very happy they had to do it as they can do it all now - unlike their school mates...

I have always had some hobbies, friends, I knew better have some life outside home too, not to get too attached and hang on the kids (or even worse, seen that too, try to live through the kids).

But in fact found this site only a year ago, and glad to be here, kids are big already, and they are just even too happy to see me out of the house sometimes... And because of this site, they even got their own pc....

I would recommend you live your life, taking care of your kids of course, but not forgetting yourself neither!!!! We don't own our kids, we are just lucky we have them with us for a while, then they start to live their lives, and we are not the No 1 in that business.

My salvation in the past were the other single moms, were often took turns in the weekend and one was able to breath a bit alone, hear her own thoughts...

(reading back the lines it looks i'm jumping from one thing to another but guess my life and mentality is just like that...)

Good luck to you!! Enjoy your life, no matter what you like!
Be yourself.

rm_ironhead1956 60M
275 posts
8/27/2006 8:07 am

Boy, you get right to the point, and asked a very loaded question right off the bat. COOL. Being a single male parent, I might have a slightly different perspective though. Your kids should be pretty young, considering your posted age (31), so at the absolute MAX, they are in they are in there very early teens. (Right)? Don't live for your kids, or through your kids, but WITH your kids. Let them know your are the parent, but realize you all are going through major changes. Talk to them, love them, and make your adjustments accordingly, but most of all, allow growth in all of you. You'll be a better parent, they will be better adjusted kids, and you'll all be happier, with that growth. GOOD LUCK GIRL. To you and your children.

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
8/27/2006 8:47 am

I've always known that I wouldn't have enough to share with children and never had any... I think more of any child I'd ever have than give them me as a father.....

goodtry 55M
918 posts
8/27/2006 7:22 pm

It all depends on what are your priorities, however you will have to balance it appropriately.

rm_Blinded1969 38M
916 posts
8/28/2006 3:45 am

hmmmmm ok this is a tuff one....

Wherever you go to chase yr dreams make sure yr kids will always be by yr side....

rm_watever00 41F
70 posts
8/29/2006 2:01 am

Hi all, thanks for the comment. It gives me something to think about ... Kids r fun and yes, they grow up so fast ...


twinkle_eyes888 47F
26 posts
9/2/2006 8:49 am

first of all.. welcome to AdultFriendFinder blog land..
in my case, i always believe in life's choices.. it all depends on you.. sure having kids is a joy but yet it comes with responsibility. However, before you become responsible for them, you have to learn the art of being responsible for yourself as well.. set good example for them, i know this is hard, but it would be rewarding to yourself to see them grow as responsible citizens..

Show your kids that you can be a kiddie too.. have your cake and eat it too.. and maybe share some to them.. cheers dear!!

NutBuster1974 42M
1138 posts
9/4/2006 10:36 am

welcome to the blog
to your question

take care of yourself first then your kids , once you are happy then its much easier to take are of your kids

ami4you23 44M
403 posts
9/9/2006 5:43 pm

Am not a single parent but do have lady friends who are...glad and lucky still have both my parents around too you see?

Once there was one lady friend (single parent) told me...she gonna break down, get crazy when everything seem goes wrong and wanted give it all out totally, i still remember...i did told her to hang on, her daughter was her fresh n blood...if she let go, the little poor girl would have nobody to go to!

Did help her financal twice also...even through am only a poor guy, that all i can do with lot of loans n bills to pay myself, so try your very best...if you can, give whatever you will get the pay-back later!

Lastly...welcome to blogland, express, share yourself matter happy, sad, angry or need helps sure there friends here to share plus help!

O.k ...AMi4you23

rm_watever00 41F
70 posts
9/9/2006 7:08 pm

hey ami, thanks for taking the effort to comment in my blog. yes, I think I prefer the blogland than the real world now ... I hope ur lady friend can pick herself up n be strong

EyeOfTheTiger88 50M  
745 posts
9/17/2006 7:53 pm

hi watever.. my second post in ur blogville..

i find single mums as very courageous and very determined ladies. i do know quite a number of them, all of them thru very different circumstances, and their children are always their number 1 priority to and provide them with the best they can. Life is not easy for them but they manage very well..

i m sure u r doing the best for ur child and keep the chin up... u hv many frens here..

take care..


rm_watever00 41F
70 posts
9/19/2006 6:11 am

hey eye .. thanks for popping by again .. he he he .. yes, it is tough .. but hey! u know wat?! all moms out there : KEPP SMILING NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! coz all will b history ..... cheers!!

Eddie5011 42M

9/20/2006 6:44 am

You look very hot for somebody who's had a child, so you must be doing something right.

rm_watever00 41F
70 posts
9/21/2006 5:24 am

eddie - thanks, well i have 2 kiddos!

rm_69george69 105M
58 posts
9/21/2006 7:26 am

i've got 2 kiddos at home too hehe... will join u soon though...
hmmmm maybe can pick up a few tricks from ya hor .. ha

rm_watever00 41F
70 posts
9/22/2006 8:12 pm

69george69 - just prepare for more responsibilities, stress n a bundle of joy good luck!

rm_69george69 105M
58 posts
9/22/2006 8:26 pm

    Quoting rm_watever00:
    69george69 - just prepare for more responsibilities, stress n a bundle of joy good luck!
yeah it is tough though but am enjoying every moment of them groeing up.. hehe.. cheers to you too

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