People who dont take no for an ans!wer  

rm_vneckgirl 57F
126 posts
2/7/2006 3:53 am

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People who dont take no for an ans!wer

Does anyone else get a little irritate when you keep getting notes or phone calls (yes, I know, I shouldn't have given him my number right away!) from people that yu've just deicded you don't want to talk to any longer?

I've talked with 2 men over the past few days, only to find out that 1) one is divorced but told me he still sleeps with his ex on a regular basis, and 2) is separated but also still sleeps with his ex. What is going on with this? In my mind, if it's over, it's over. Are they just horny and need to get some??

I'm having a tough time getting guy #2 to understand that I'm no longer interested. I don't want any baggage. I'm right, aren't I??

zorgnot2 60M

2/7/2006 4:13 am

If you don't want any baggage and you've told him exactly that without mincing words then you are completely correct.
Other people see situations in different ways and many see absolutely no reason not to keep past relationships dear to their heart and mind.
If you are into finding the single love of your life, you'll have to weed through a whole bunch of horney guys who have different mores than you do...this is, after all, called a sex and swinger's site.
Not quite where I would look to find that special person.
Communication... clearly and to the point carried out with firmness should do the job but don't think thwice about reporting anyone who doesn't get the message.
Good luck.

mark71978 38M
1 post
2/7/2006 4:16 am

yeah u are right if its over then its over maybe u should be blunt with him and tell him 2 piss off back with his ex for good. sounds like they need each other

rm_moohand 48F

2/7/2006 4:37 am

You are perfectly correct. Go for what you want and it is out there. Just dont give them your details until you have done the security checks.

p33c3y0 42M

2/7/2006 4:39 am

yes, they are in fact taking the path of least resistance ... a time-honored tradition. and you are right-- there's nothing but trouble to be had with those who can't let go.

of course ... some of us let go too quickly ...

Shelly_Marie 44F

2/7/2006 5:48 am

true, yes you are right. the one mistake alot of people make after talking to people and then deciding that they dont want to continue is to not say anything and just try to ignore the person and then say these people are harassing them. The best thing to do is to just tell them that you dont want to get involved nicely and that you dont think there is any reason to continue talking, or something like that.

crazygurl2xx 57F

2/7/2006 6:20 am

Unacknowledged text messages... Do they ever get the hint?

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
2/7/2006 8:28 am

Damn, my problems seem pretty minor next to yours. Guess I would rather not get any responses to the ones you have gotten. I am confused about how they define the word ex if there is still a relationship there, sexual or otherwise, but have you tried say the words "I am not interested in you don't call me anymore". It takes a lot less for me, but is obvious that you have to self proclaimed gods gift to women here and they are underestimating your apparent disaproval in this matter.

rm_dananlinda13 56M/57F
109 posts
2/7/2006 9:28 am

Some people never get it. After a series of no response, then they should go away, hopefully.


mangomamiCT 42F

2/7/2006 10:44 pm

have to be blunt with men , they dont get it any other way .And most think they are more irrisistable than they are .

NEsailor 69M

2/19/2006 6:12 am

HMMM, I keep seeing this "sex & swingers site" referred to as not a place to find special people.

Does one look for someone special in a place where they deny their sexuality, keep it in the closet, or simply haven't got it?

There are pushy people everywhere in life & very few with manners & good sense, just drive a few miles on a busy highway & you'll find scads of them!

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