Fingers or no fingers??  

rm_vixenflir 58M
154 posts
8/2/2005 5:56 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Fingers or no fingers??

So I have a question to pose thats been on my mind for quite awhile. I've never personally been with a woman who would move her hand down and finger her own clit when having sex unless I asked her to and that is doing it for me not for her. But I had a female friend tell me she did it every time and asked if, as a guy I would think its weird. (I think she was just trying to get me horny as she usually did with no pay-off in site!) My answer was "hell no! its not weird - it would be a turn-on!". Although I haven't seen her in a year and 1/2, I still have the vision of her doing it on her own and it haunts me when ever I think of her.

My question is this: For the ladies = do you and does it make you feel like you are telling the guy he can't get you there or are you just getting the job done?

And for the guys = would you feel like the woman is saying you lack somehow? Or would it be a terrific turn on as it is for me, knowing you are with such a ssxually responsive partner?

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

8/2/2005 11:35 am

Him-No would not be offended at all, it is not all about me. If that "turn her crank" then go for it!

Her-WOuld distract from the other feelings. So don't unless asked.

mcsusieg 49F
56 posts
8/6/2005 11:28 am

I have a friend that gets completely turned on by watching me ‒ ADD ‒ to the feelings he creates…has even taken a couple of pictures to have around (one on a recent blog of mine). Another friend likes to interrupt and assist….i don’t have toys ‒ prefer the real thing ‒ so my fingers are how I “release” when alone…and I know the sensations I like….

Come on man ‒ if it offends the gentleman I am with ‒ I will back off ‒ but for me ‒ having my fingers moving is a major part of my stimulation….So if I can get the nipple, clit and a c*ck ‒ well, heaven ‒ begin with, then throw in some passionate kisses and a smack on the ass ‒ well…goodness gracious we will have fun ‒

Like most women… I suspect…when our needs are met this time….we are always more giving and born to initiative, later in the session, or next time.


rm_vixenflir 58M
295 posts
8/9/2005 5:09 am

Susie - thanks for the response. I knew you ladies were out ther somewhere! My kind-a-gal!

patsam69 51M/51F

8/9/2005 9:00 am

My husband LOVES to watch me touch myself. So....I do it often!!! LOL. I cannot come from penetration I do sometimes rub my clit while we are fucking...but not always. I do masturbate for my husband though...because he loves to watchme , and I love to watch him!

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
8/9/2005 12:02 pm

Easy question....a complete turn on for me.

PailsDiverHonks 55F

8/9/2005 7:44 pm

I think most men like watching a women touch herself. If my partner doesnt rub me while having intercouse(maybe because of the position we are in) I'll do it, or guide him to the right spot.

sexyeyes375 47F

8/9/2005 11:57 pm

I do it without realizing sometimes.. and my heightened response raises his. Or is it his watching me that raises his? It is a turn on to see him enjoying the view.

haveme112063 53F

8/12/2005 9:15 am

I have done it since I was (never mind). I do it during and when I am alone. Sometimes with my fingers other times with my toy egg I have yet to meet a guy who is comfortable with me doing it. They have been intimidated by it. I am going to do it right now.

rm_vixenflir 58M
295 posts
8/12/2005 1:06 pm

Thanks for all the great comments you guys!

Greeneyes - I will add myself to the long list of guys on this site who would love to! (lol)

Sexyeyes - Little be it for me to tell you if I noticed you were doin' it without thinking!

Haveme - How do you do? My name is Steve and now you have met a guys who isn't intimidated by you doin' it OR your egg - cucumber - carrot - rabbit or anything else on the market. I'm sooooo sorry I couldn't be there just now to watch.Maybe another time????

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
8/13/2005 8:10 am

Have fun with your blog, vixenflir.

rm_vixenflir 58M
295 posts
8/15/2005 5:09 am

unlistedone - thanks! its been a blast!

lioness - good description! I'm sure I would turn myself inside out and upside down if I were there!!

Kat - Go with your bad self girl! I love woman who don't even realize they are touching themselves (then again what guy wouldn't?)

rm_I1heathen 44M
3 posts
3/28/2006 5:53 pm

So, hey do you ever come to the iowa great lakes area? I am a single guy from spirit Lake, and I would rock your world, baby! I am not a gold member, but you can email me at I1heathen at if your interested in proving me wrong.


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